Family Matters 3 | The Role of the Wife

The Role of the Wife (Ephesians 5:22-24)

Wives are to be Subject (vs.23-24)

Subject -  to be or become inclined or willing to submit to orders or wishes of others or showing such inclination.

God the Father and God the Son of are equal importance, but have separate roles.

God the Father and God the Son are one, yet the Son was submissive to the Father.

Every lady can submit. They submit every time they get on Amazon!

Your blessings don’t come from your husband, they come from God. You being in subjection to your husband is being obedient to God, not your husband.

Subject because of the Curse

This is in direct effect of the curse in the garden.

Genesis 3:16 “Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.”

1 Timothy 2:9–14 “In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works. Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.”

Subject for the sake of Conversion

1 Peter 2:18-3:13,

The Lord wants the submitted woman to win over the disobedient husband to obedience which would be impossible if she is disobedient to God’s word.

Proverbs 14:1 “Every wise woman buildeth her house: But the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.”

Subject for the sake of Consecration

1 Peter 3:5 “For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:”

If you want to show that you are a holy woman, then you need to be under subjection to your husband.

Showed holiness, not by their suit, but by their submission.

Showed holiness, not by their dress, but by their devotion.

MEN, every time Abraham messed up, it caused Sarah to mess us too. LADIES, Sarah didn’t leave him: she trusted God to straighten him out.

Subject for the sake of Completeness

Colossians 3:18 “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.”

If you want the pieces of your life’s puzzle to fit, the wife needs to be subject to her husband.

You can’t force the piece into it’s place. You can’t try to fit you in authority of the home, cause it won’t fit in God’s plan!

Wives are to be in Style (1 Peter 3)

Adorn -  to be or become provided with something intended to increase its beauty or distinction.

Not just physical beauty, but spiritual beauty.

Physical beauty might get you married, but it may not keep you there!

You don’t have to look like a Quaker or the Amish to adorned. You can look beautiful and be adorned. (Ladies don’t have to wear sweats all the time)

Not In Style

Proverbs 11:22 “As a jewel of gold in a swine’s snout, So is a fair woman which is without discretion.” (No Guidance)

Discretion - the trait of judging wisely and objectively.

Proverbs 21:9 “It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, Than with a brawling woman in a wide house.” (No Gentleness)

Brawling - heated, violent disagreement.

Proverbs 21:19 “It is better to dwell in the wilderness, Than with a contentious and an angry woman.” (No Gladness)

Angry - to be vexed, to be irritated, inflamed, furious.

Scorpions, snakes, bears, poison ivy, dirty water, mosquitos, no bathrooms, no comfy bed, hot days and hot nights is better than coming home to a contentious and angry woman.

Proverbs 19:13 “A foolish son is the calamity of his father: And the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping.”

Contentions - quarrelsome, bitter conflict

Proverbs 27:15 “A continual dropping in a very rainy day And a contentious woman are alike.”

In Style

(vs.4) Meek and quiet spirit!

She stays humble and like Christ in the midst of chaos around her, and she doesn’t bicker, belittle, backbite, or brag!

Proverbs 12:4 “A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: But she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.”

She lives by the word of God!

Proverbs 31:10–12 “Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, So that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil All the days of her life.”

Wives are to be a Sidekick (Genesis 2:18)

Help - a person who contributes to the fulfillment of a need or furtherance of an effort or purpose.

Ladies, we need your help!!!!

Proverbs 30:21–23 “For three things the earth is disquieted (earth trembles), And for four which it cannot bear: For a servant when he reigneth; And a fool when he is filled with meat; For an odious woman when she is married; And an handmaid that is heir to her mistress.”

Odious - hateful, deserving of hatred, causing hate. Offensive to the senses, disgusting.

Why would you want to hinder your husband, when you can help your husband!

Don’t be a Jezebel when you can be a Jochebed.

She was concerned about herself vs. Jochebed cared for others.

Don’t be a Saphira when you can be a Eunice.

Lied to the Holy Ghost vs. Teaching Timothy the truth!

Don’t be a Delilah when you can be a Ruth.

Don’t try to steal from your man, but love and work for your man!

Proverbs 31:28 “Her children arise up, and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praiseth her.”

Wives are to be Special

Proverbs 18:22 “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, And obtaineth favour of the Lord.”