Money, Roles, and Everyday Life
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Money
Money
1 Ti 6:10
For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evils. It is through this craving that some have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many pangs.
Ec 5:10
He who loves money will not be satisfied with money, nor he who loves wealth with his income; this also is vanity.
Heb 13:5
Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”
What is money to you?
How does it effect your relationship?
Can it be used for GOOD?
Roles
Roles
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.
24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,
26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word,
27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.
28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church,
30 because we are members of his body.
31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”
32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.
33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
What do you see as your ROLE?
Everyday Life
Everyday Life
Would you agree
that LOVE< HELP < SERVE
The Proverbs 31 woman expounds on a woman’s life-giving presence.
She acts decisively. Vigilantly.
She speaks with wisdom and kindness, purchases real estate, cares well for herself, her kids, her home, the poor, and her employees.
Meanwhile, she’s an entrepreneur, carrying on profitable business outside her home.
It’s a portrait of a woman generous and proactive, industrious and perceptive, strong and dignified (v. 25); “her arms are strong for her tasks” (v. 17; see also Titus 2:3-5).
Tim Keller proposed that whereas studies show men as biologically gifted for independence, women show natural gifts of interdependence and relationality. Yet like any gift—say, evangelism—some have the gift, but all have the duty. Like Ruth, Abigail, and Esther, a biblical woman demonstrates initiative and drive (and not just with an Instant Pot and a Swiffer). Like Jesus, a man demonstrates gentleness and meekness (Matthew 11:29).
Macho MACHO man was a SONG, not a life style command
Meek is not Weak
Leadership is not being served
But serving.
Be the leader in
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,
23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.
the Book LOVE and RESPECT gives some GREAT WISDOM
a successful marriage hinges on a dynamic interplay between a woman’s need for love and a man’s need for respect
Absolutely! Here's a concise summary of the practical steps from *Love and Respect* by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, organized around the book’s three main cycles:
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### 🔁 1. The Crazy Cycle: “Without love, she reacts without respect. Without respect, he reacts without love.”
**Goal**: Break the negative pattern of conflict.
**Steps to interrupt the cycle**:
- 🧠 Recognize the pattern: Notice when you're reacting out of hurt rather than responding with grace.
- 🛑 Pause and reflect: Ask, “Am I showing love/respect right now?”
- 💬 Communicate vulnerably: Express your feelings without accusing your spouse.
- 🙏 Choose humility: Be the one to stop the cycle, even if your partner doesn’t.
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### ⚡ 2. The Energizing Cycle: “His love motivates her respect. Her respect motivates his love.”
**Goal**: Build a positive, self-sustaining relationship.
**For Husbands – Show Love (C-O-U-P-L-E)**:
- **C**loseness: Be emotionally available and physically present.
- **O**penness: Share your thoughts and listen to hers.
- **U**nderstanding: Don’t try to fix her—just empathize.
- **P**eacemaking: Resolve conflict quickly and gently.
- **L**oyalty: Assure her she’s your one and only.
- **E**steem: Honor and cherish her publicly and privately.
**For Wives – Show Respect (C-H-A-I-R-S)**:
- **C**onquest: Acknowledge his desire to achieve and succeed.
- **H**ierarchy: Respect his role as protector and provider.
- **A**uthority: Support his leadership without undermining.
- **I**nsight: Value his opinions and decisions.
- **R**elationship: Be his friend and companion.
- **S**exuality: Respond to his need for intimacy.
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### 🎁 3. The Rewarded Cycle: “His love regardless of her respect. Her respect regardless of his love.”
**Goal**: Stay committed even when your spouse doesn’t reciprocate.
**Steps to stay grounded**:
- 💪 Act out of conviction, not emotion.
- 🙌 Trust that your efforts matter, even if unseen.
- 🧎♂️ Lean on faith (the book is Christian-based): Serve your spouse as an act of obedience to God.
- 🌱 Focus on your growth: You can’t change your spouse, but you can change your response.
