Family Matters 12 | Godly Trainers

Family Matters 12 | Godly Trainers (Proverbs 22:6)

Intro

Train up -  to develop a person’s behavior by instruction and practice.

Essential Qualities of a Good Trainer:

Communication Skills:

A good trainer can clearly explain complex information, actively listen to learners' needs, and adapt their communication style to different audiences.

Colossians 3:16 “Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord.”

Psalm 27:11 “Teach me thy way, O Lord, And lead me in a plain path, because of mine enemies.”

Subject Matter Expertise:

Trainers should possess in-depth knowledge of the subject matter they are teaching and be able to answer questions effectively.

Titus 2:1–5 “But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine: That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience. The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”

Adaptability and Flexibility:

Trainers need to be able to adjust their training methods, materials, and pace to accommodate different learning styles and individual needs.

Patience and Empathy:

Learning can be challenging, and a good trainer demonstrates patience and empathy, creating a supportive and encouraging environment.

2 Timothy 2:24 “And the servant of the Lord must not strive; but be gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient,”

Active Listening:

Engaging in active listening involves paying attention to learners' perspectives, questions, and feedback, which helps tailor the training to their specific needs

Deuteronomy 6:20 “And when thy son asketh thee in time to come, saying, What mean the testimonies, and the statutes, and the judgments, which the Lord our God hath commanded you?”

Motivational Skills:

Trainers should be able to inspire and motivate learners, creating a positive and engaging learning experience.

Don’t provoke your children to wrath. If all they know is someone who berates them constantly they won’t listen very much to mom and dad.

Proverbs 3:13 “Happy is the man that findeth wisdom, And the man that getteth understanding.”

Problem-Solving Skills:

The ability to identify and address challenges that may arise during training, such as technical difficulties or learner misunderstandings, is crucial.

Time Management Skills:

Effective trainers can manage their time efficiently, ensuring that training sessions stay on track and cover the necessary content.

Deuteronomy 6:7 “And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.”

Creativity and Innovation:

Incorporating creative approaches, activities, and examples can enhance the learning experience and make it more engaging.

Training sessions shouldn’t be a drag. They should both be motivational for the child, and the trainer!

Continuous Learning:

Good trainers are committed to ongoing professional development, staying up-to-date with the latest knowledge and best practices in their field.

You need to continue to grow in Christ so that it will help you with developing your child to grow in Christ!

The Responsibility (Train up)

Ephesians 6:4 “And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.”

Notice that this training is not secular training, but spiritual training (both for the parents and the children).

These two words are similar in meaning. The two words show the requirement of cultivating to include education, encouragement, rebuke, and reproof in both word and deed.

Nurture - (Discipline) “Nurture” is a word signifying generally “the treatment due to a child,” but by usage appropriated to practical training, or teaching by discipline. This includes proper and compassionate correction;

Proverbs 23:13–14 “Withhold not correction from the child: For if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, And shalt deliver his soul from hell.”

Being beat with the rod and not dying means that you are not to physically abuse your child.

There is a specific place the rod is to be used.

Proverbs 26:3 “A whip for the horse, a bridle for the ass, And a rod for the fool’s back.”

“You won’t kill your child by scourging them. You may kill your child by not scourging them.”

The lack of chastisement and correction from the rod brings a lack of judgment for wrongdoing. If the parent never chastises the child for wrongdoing, the child will never expect judgement for wrongdoing. When the Holy Ghost convicts your child’s heart of wrongdoing and showing them that they are a sinner, they will not be inclined to run to Jesus because they have never had to face judgment for wrongdoing.

Proverbs 13:24 “He that spareth his rod hateth his son: But he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.”

Betimes - early; as many times as needed.

Proverbs 19:18 “Chasten thy son while there is hope, And let not thy soul spare for his crying.”

While there is hope - while they are toddlers, young, under the governing power of the parents; before habits of sin become strong and things get desperate.

It’s better that the child should cry under the rod rather than the righteous judgment of God.

When you are chastening your child, you’re not harming them, you are helping them.

Admonition (Directing) “admonition” is the “putting children in mind” by word of instruction.  

Proverbs 29:17 “Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest; Yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul.”

What you say to your children sticks in their mind. BE CAREFUL HOW YOU SPEAK TO YOUR CHILDREN.

Both chastisement and correction are needed for training. When they come together, they help the child to gain wisdom!

The Route (The Way)

Which way are you training your children to go? Their way, the way of their friends, the way of the world, or THE WAY.

Your training (or lack thereof) leads your children into a way. Training them in the way of the Bible sticks with them. Training them in the way of the world sticks with them.

If I am going to train my son to play soccer, would I show him people playing basketball? Would I tell him the rules of basketball? (Basketball and soccer are completely opposite of each other)

That to suffer a child to grow up without any instruction in religion, is about the same as to suffer a garden to lie without any culture. Such a garden would soon be overrun with weeds, and briars, and thorns - but not sooner, or more certainly, than the mind of a child would.

2 Timothy 3:14-16

Deuteronomy 6

The Result (When he is old, he will not depart from it)

If you train up your child in the ways of God, when he’s old, he will not depart from it.

You’re child will never be an Isaac unless you’re a Abraham and Sarah.

You’re child can never be a Timothy unless you’re a Eunice.

You’re child can never be a John the Baptist unless you’re a Zacharias and Elizabeth.

Ruth 4:18–22 “Now these are the generations of Pharez: Pharez begat Hezron, And Hezron begat Ram, and Ram begat Amminadab, And Amminadab begat Nahshon, and Nahshon begat Salmon, And Salmon begat Boaz, and Boaz begat Obed, And Obed begat Jesse, and Jesse begat David.”

If you make no effort to train up your child, his sin nature will run rampant through his young years, and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

1 Kings 22:51–53 “Ahaziah the son of Ahab began to reign over Israel in Samaria the seventeenth year of Jehoshaphat king of Judah, and reigned two years over Israel. And he did evil in the sight of the Lord, and walked in the way of his father, and in the way of his mother, and in the way of Jeroboam the son of Nebat, who made Israel to sin: For he served Baal, and worshipped him, and provoked to anger the Lord God of Israel, according to all that his father had done.”

Proverbs 29:15 “The rod and reproof give wisdom: But a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.”

Left to himself - The condition of one who has been pampered and indulged. The mother who yields weakly to her child is as guilty of abandoning the child she spoils, as if she cast him forth; and for her evil neglect, there shall fall upon her the righteous punishment of shame, public disgrace, dishonor, and reproach.

Proverbs 17:21 “He that begetteth a fool doeth it to his sorrow: And the father of a fool hath no joy.”

Hebrews 12:4-11