Student Grow Night July 9th
Notes
Transcript
Schedule:
Schedule:
Students arrive at 6:00pm
chill hangout till 6:15pm
Game time outside 6:20-6:55pm
lesson/Prayer Groups 7:00-8:00pm.
Parents pick up 8:05pm
LESSON:
LESSON:
Intro:
Intro:
Hey everyone, excited to see you tonight. Glad we get to open up our Bibles together and spend some time with the Lord.
Tonight I I want to open us up with a question…
Without naming anyone, how many of us know someone who is super super talkative?
When they talk, they go on and on and on
Now if you’re Bold how many of us in this room find ourselves being that person from time to time?
I can think of a few young adults who come every Tuesday and when they talk, they go on and on and on
And you have to work really hard to step out of that conversation so that you’re not there till 11 PM
And when it comes to talking, it’s not necessarily wrong to talk all the time
But there’s something we need to consider
That whenever we speak, our words have power
What are some different ways that we see words has power???
Can you think of any?
Compliments or criticism
Social media posts
A word of encouragement or discouragement
When it comes to our words, they have power and that’s what we’re gonna look at today in probers.
Go ahead and open up to the book Of proverbs
I’m gonna need a couple of y’all to read for me
So can I get one person to take:
Proverbs 18:21
PROVERBS 12:18
Proverbs 15:1
BUT Before we jump into it, let’s go ahead and pray…
Text:
Text:
Let’s go ahead and read our passages and then we can talk about it:
21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.
18 There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
1 A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
With each of these passages, what stands out to you?
What do you think Solomon is communicating in proverbs
Is there anything in the passage that you agree or disagree with?
Are there other places in scripture that Talk about this stuff as well?
I want to go ahead and turn to James chapter 3
3 If we put bits into the mouths of horses so that they obey us, we guide their whole bodies as well.
4 Look at the ships also: though they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are guided by a very small rudder wherever the will of the pilot directs.
What does James say about our tongue and by extension or words?
What do these pictures Mean?
What do you think of Versus three and four?
I believe what James is taking seriously is that Our actions will follow our words
The next few moments I wanna talk about what does it look like for our words to be good to be used for good
What does that look like?
Have you ever had someone encourage you when you needed it tell me about that
Have you ever encouraged someone when they needed it?
Have you ever felt discouraged in someone made you feel more discouraged?
What does it look like to use our words properly?
When I was younger I carried a ton about what people thought of me and even now I still struggle with that
Whenever someone would say something bad about me, I would think about it for the next three days to a week
Someone could say something not thinking and then I would think about what they said for a long time
Every word we say matters, whether it’s online in person or in Writing.
Once we say something, we can’t take it back And when we say something, we can’t control how someone takes it
What are some ways that we use our words wrongly?
What are some ways that we use our words for destruction?
1. How about gossip?
How often do you talk to people about other people?
And how often after you’re done do you wonder if they’re talking about you now?
What does it look like to go gossip and how do we stop gossip?
What are practical steps we can take to avoid this
2. How about self deprecation/Negative self talk?
9 With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse people who are made in the likeness of God.
Do you struggle with self deprecation? Do you struggle to talk bad about yourself?
I’m sure there’s a lot of you in this room who encourage everyone else but yourself
You feel as though other people need Grace, but you don’t Other people deserve kind words, but you don’t
If we look back at James, he talks about within one mouth we bring blessing in another cursing
He says I’m verse nine with her mouth. We ask God and curse people who are made in his image and likeness.
You are made in his image and in his likeness when to treat ourselves with that same respect that we should treat to God and others
3. How about cursing or joking?
4 Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, which are out of place, but instead let there be thanksgiving.
Now some of us in this room may struggle with us, and some of us may not
But when we joke, we should bring a life not shame, not anything inappropriate and definitely not embarrassment
I’ve been around people who are Christian or claim to be Christian who do not control their mouths and do not control their joking and it’s not fitting for us
Any time that you use someone else to build yourself up by tearing them down is not biblical it’s not appropriate
And I’m sure many of us do this and struggle with this
And often times the reason we do this is because we struggle with our own security of who we are
We struggle with our own words and self image so we feel that we need to tear someone else down to build ourselves up
And that means that we need to be more reliant on Jesus and trust in him and no one else
That we can use our words in a negative way???
No, I don’t know about you, but how many of us have ever looked back on something that we posted on Instagram Facebook or maybe selfies? We took back a few years ago and we cringe.??
I was looking back at photos of me in different posts that used to post on Instagram back when I was like 16 and I cringed pretty bad
Now the reason I want to bring that out is because once you post something, it’s there forever
Whether you say it snap it text it or post it. It will affect you the rest of your life.
So I’m not just telling you about all of these scriptural things when it comes to what we say just to either morality police
But I genuinely care about you and don’t want you to find yourself in a mess down the road…
Now, with all this being said, why do you think it matters what we say?
Why do you think James Solomon and even Jesus care about what we say?
One of the reasons??
1. I think it matters because what we say, says a lot about who we are
33 “Either make the tree good and its fruit good, or make the tree bad and its fruit bad, for the tree is known by its fruit.
34 You brood of vipers! How can you speak good, when you are evil? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.
35 The good person out of his good treasure brings forth good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure brings forth evil.
36 I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak,
37 for by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.”
9 With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse people who are made in the likeness of God.
10 From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so.
11 Does a spring pour forth from the same opening both fresh and salt water?
12 Can a fig tree, my brothers, bear olives, or a grapevine produce figs? Neither can a salt pond yield fresh water.
21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.
18 There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
1 A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
