Guardrails For Godly Relationships

Opening Scripture

Romans 12:18 NLT

Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone.

As Followers of Jesus and children of the most High God we are called to do our part in establishing peace within our lives. We primarily do that by correctly handling our relationships of every sort. IE: Forgiving someone who offends us or sins against us, working towards reconciliation, and speaking truth in love.

However, apart of maintaining peace through our relationships doesn’t mean that we have to stay stuck in a toxic relationship. In other words we don’t have to stay stuck to someone who refuses to repent or reconcile in the relationship with the love of Christ. Sometimes we have to prayerfully walk away.

To help us establish godly relationships we must be effective in establishing godly boundaries that will serve as guardrails. Helping us to weed out the good from the bad relationships.

Anything that does not produce fruit in our lives we should severe it by the roots so that it does not choke out the blessing God is in the process of planting.

Walk with Wisdom…

Proverbs 13:20 NLT

Walk with the wise and become wise; associate with fools and get in trouble.

who ever we decide to get into any form of relationship with can determine how we live our lives.

If we hang out more with people who are ungodly and we aren’t firmly grounded in God and His word we place ourselves in danger of being sifted out like wheat.

When make the time to listen and seek godly council from those who are stronger in the faith then us it then becomes an investment of time.

As a follower of Jesus you have to make a decision as to who or what you want to glorify… We do this by our actions…

Jesus has to come first in every relationship and if there is any relationship that is trying to come in the way of you and the Lord you have to make a decision as to what you want to do… It should not be that difficult of a choice.

Build a Godly Foundation

2 Corinthians 6:14 NLT

Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness?

We need to make sure that we build on a godly foundation — apart of that is not allowing ourselves to become unequally yoked with things or people that are non-believers.

A Relationship is a form of a covenant — we can’t be in a covenant with everyone.

A covenant is an agreement — we can’t be in an agreement with everyone

Apart of building a godly foundation is knowing when to tell ourselves no

Because we can’t be in a relationship with a non believer does not mean that we stop loving them —- For God still loves them!

It does not mean that we with hold the gospel from them — in fact we should be even more determined to spread the goodness of the gospel and God’s words to them.

It does not mean that we stop serving them — it means that we are to become the hands and feet of Jesus and serve them faithfully as representatives of the gospel of Jesus Christ.

Hold Yourself Accountable

Galatians 6:5 NLT

For we are each responsible for our own conduct.

A big boundary that we should establish that will help us groom healthy and godly relationships is by holding ourselves accountable

As followers and disciples of Jesus Christ Accountability is to be apart of our every day life — it will keep us honest and humble.

We must break out of the mindset that “Someone” made us angry, upset, or even do an action — we are in control of our own actions and choices.

When we learn to be accountable to God and to ourselves we will notice growth within our godly relationships

We will notice more peace within our hearts.

Lastly, we will notice spiritual growth within us — an increase of God’s wisdom from life’s lessons.