Thriving Through the Valleys Through Contentment- A Lesson from Paul

INTRODUCTION

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“If I just had a little more…”—how many times have we thought that?

A bigger paycheck.

A better job.

A healthier body.

A different season of life.

We live in a culture that runs on upgrades—new phones, new cars, new houses—yet somehow, the more we get, the less satisfied we feel.

But then you meet someone who has almost nothing… and yet they radiate peace.

I remember hearing about Horatio Spafford, who lost his fortune in the Great Chicago Fire in 1871, and then in 1873, he lost his four daughters in a shipwreck.

His wife sent a telegram telling him she was the only one in the family who survived; her message was, “Saved alone."

Horatio then sailed to meet his wife.

It is said that as his ship passed over the spot where his daughters had died, he wrote the lyrics to "It Is Well With My Soul."

In the middle of that grief, he penned this still-popular hymn.

How?

How can a person walk through the valley and still sing?

That’s the question Paul answers in Philippians 4:10–14.

Today we’re learning from a man in a valley.

And today, we’re going to unpack how Paul thrived in the valleys, not by escaping them, but by finding a deeper source of strength.

Paul is confined; he is writing while under house arrest, chained to a Roman soldier; resources are tight; he is chained and uncertain of his future, yet he writes about a kind of steady joy that doesn’t blink in the dark.

Yet through it all, Paul says he has learned the secret of being content in any and every situation.

He calls it contentment.

CONTENTMENT SPIRITUAL SKILL SLIDE

This isn’t a motivational slogan.

It’s not a personality trait.

Not denial.

Not pretending.

It’s a spiritual skill—one that can be learned, practiced, and lived.

A learned, Christ-strengthened steadiness that holds in every season.

Are you in the valley?

Do you want to learn to thrive even in the valleys of life?

Join me today, and you will discover how to thrive in life's valleys by embracing contentment.

We will be with Paul in Philippians 4:10-14; we will begin with verse 10.

Philippians 4:10 NET 2nd ed.

10 I have great joy in the Lord because now at last you have again expressed your concern for me. (Now I know you were concerned before but had no opportunity to do anything.)

MAIN POINT 1 SLIDE

I. Contentment begins with a grateful heart.

In our text, we observe Paul writing while under house arrest, chained to a Roman soldier around the clock.

The chain was a "single short length of chain by which Paul’s right wrist was fastened to his soldier guard’s left wrist."

This was a Roman custom for prisoners awaiting trial before Caesar.

I don’t know about you, but I would have a difficult time rejoicing about much of anything if I were in that position.

Yet here is Paul, talking about his great joy.

How can this be?

His is one of the deepest valleys one could find themselves in.

Paul makes a decision to be content in all seasons of life, both the peaks and the valleys.

Notice that Paul says he has great joy in the Lord.

What usually brings us joy in life?

Gifts!

When the gifts come, our spirits and joy rise; when the valleys come, our joy and spirit descend.

THERMOMETER THERMOSTAT SLIDE

Have you ever noticed that our souls experience changes in emotional weather?

One week you’re sunny and 75—prayers are answered, doors are opening.

The next week?

Dust storm.

You can’t feel God, the news isn’t good, and joy evaporates fast.

Here’s my question: Are you living like a thermometer or a thermostat?

A thermometer only reflects the climate—up when life is up, down when life is down.

A thermostat sets a climate—it holds steady in the heat and the cold.

[Pause; look around.] If nothing in your life changed for the next 90 days—no raise, no fix, no miracle—how content would you be?

Be honest: would your soul rise and fall with the temperature of your week?

Paul’s gratitude is God-centered, not gift-centered.

Paul’s joy was vertical before it was horizontal—he rejoiced in the Lord, not merely in the gift.

The Giver is his joy before the gift arrives.

Paul rejoices greatly in the Lord because the Philippians have renewed their concern for him.

He acknowledges that they had always been concerned but lacked the opportunity to show it before.

This emphasizes the mutual affection between Paul and the Philippian believers.

The word “concern” is more than sentiment; it’s a mindset that moves to action—gospel partnership.

Having a grateful heart is a choice.

It is a choice to focus on gratitude before it leads to a change in circumstances (cf. Phil 4:4; Jas 1:17).

Philippians 4:4 NET 2nd ed.

4 Rejoice in the Lord always. Again I say, rejoice!

A grateful heart recognizes the quiet timings of God; delays aren’t abandonments.

There are many things that we can allow to block our ability to possess a grateful heart.

Entitlement: “I’m owed.”

Comparison: “They got more.”

Cynicism: “It won’t last.”

Back to our thermostat vs. thermometer thought.

A grateful heart sets the climate; circumstances no longer set the temperature.

A grateful heart in valleys is a choice and an act of faith—it declares that God is still present and active even when life feels barren.

Gratitude tills the soil of the heart—now God grows deep roots through all kinds of weather.

Let’s move to verses 11-12

Philippians 4:11–12 NET 2nd ed.

11 I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content in any circumstance. 12 I have experienced times of need and times of abundance. In any and every circumstance I have learned the secret of contentment, whether I go satisfied or hungry, have plenty or nothing.

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II. Contentment is learned in every season.

Verses 11-12 highlight Paul's personal contentment.

He explains that his gratitude is not rooted in desperate need, for he has learned to be content in all circumstances—whether in need or in plenty.

Let’s back up briefly and dig into the word “content.”

The Greek term, which we translate as "content," was a significant concept in Stoic philosophy, used to describe an ideal wise person who passively accepted circumstances, believing they possessed all the internal resources to cope impassively with life.

However, Paul's understanding of contentment, while using this term, is distinct from Stoicism.

His coping is not apathetic; instead, he clarifies in Philippians 4:13 that he learned to depend on Christ's strength.

Paul uses this term to express his spiritual maturity and his trust in Christ's sufficiency: "I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content in any circumstance."

Verse 11 exemplifies the Christian virtue of finding contentment in any situation through faith in God.

The idea is that true sufficiency comes not from material wealth or external circumstances but through a deep relationship with God, who provides all that is needed.

This teaching encourages us to cultivate a reliance on God and an attitude of gratitude, regardless of life's challenges.

Paul's statement in Philippians 4:11 serves to clarify his earlier remarks in verse 10 ("now at last you have revived your concern for me").

He wants to assure the Philippians that his words were not a criticism of their previous lack of opportunity to support him, nor an indication that he was desperately seeking further gifts.

Rather, he acknowledges their gift with grace and dignity but emphasizes that his ability to endure varying situations comes from Christ, not from external provisions.

MOST LIKELY Paul’s imprisonment and travels were the reason they were unable to help him out like they desired.

When you examine verses 11 and 12, you will see an important principle concerning contentment: the phrase "I HAVE LEARNED!"

Contentment is not a gift you’re born with—it’s a discipline you grow into.

Paul’s “learning” implies a process shaped by both scarcity and abundance.

Paul says twice, “I have ”learned”—this is the language of a student, not a prodigy.

The Greek word for “learned” implies acquiring knowledge through experience, not just theory.

“Any and every” doubles the scope—peaks and valleys are both classrooms.

The curriculum of contentment

The valleys teach dependence—when Paul was “brought low,” he learned God’s sufficiency.

The peaks test humility—when Paul “abounded,” he learned not to trust in plenty.

God uses both the drought and the harvest to train our hearts to rest in Him alone.

From an application standpoint, we need to ask ourselves, “What is God teaching me in this season?”

Don’t waste the valley by only longing for the mountaintop.

Paul doesn't say he was always content, but he learned to be content.

His experiences of "plenty" and "want," of being "well fed" and "hungry," were his classrooms.

This thought provides us hope.

If Paul, a man who faced extreme hardship, had to learn this, so can we.

Every season, whether a peak or a valley, is an opportunity for us to grow in contentment.

The expression "learned the secret" translates a verb that was used in the initiation ceremonies of Greek mystery religions.

This vividly conveys that Paul had been "thoroughly initiated into life situations where 'contentment' was required."

Let’s go to verses 13-14.

Philippians 4:13–14 NET 2nd ed.

13 I am able to do all things through the one who strengthens me. 14 Nevertheless, you did well to share with me in my trouble.

MAIN POINT 3 SLIDE

III. Contentment is empowered by Christ’s strength.

Verse 13 is a powerful declaration by Paul that explains the source of his contentment in all circumstances, a concept he introduces in Philippians 4:10-12.

The context is vital to understanding what Paul is saying and what he is NOT saying.

This passage tends to be abused, not maliciously, but rather because of a lack of understanding.

Paul isn’t talking about winning championships or smashing personal goals—he’s talking about enduring every season (vv. 11–12) with unshakable contentment.

Philippians 4:13 is not a trophy verse for personal ambition; it’s a trust verse for faithful endurance in scarcity or abundance.

The “all things” refers to all the circumstances God calls us to walk through—whether that’s scarcity, abundance, hardship, or blessing.

This is not self-empowerment; it’s Christ-empowerment.

With the proper context in mind, we can now understand what the phrase “all things” means.

The phrase "all things" in this context refers specifically to the varying circumstances of life that Paul has just described in Philippians 4:12, such as experiencing humble means or prosperity, being filled or going hungry, and having abundance or suffering need.

The Greek verb translated "I can do" is a synonym for power, highlighting an inner power that is exerted.

It emphasizes that this power is not inherent to Paul but is given to him.

The nature of the empowerment we receive from Jesus is not a “borrowed” strength; it’s infused strength.

The Greek verb for “strengthens” means to empower from within.

Paul’s ability to find contentment doesn't come from his own willpower; it comes from Christ's strength.

Christ infuses strength as we walk.

It's not about removing the valley, but empowering you to get through it.

How does Christ’s strength show up in our lives?

Persevering obedience: take the next right step when feelings lag.

Peace in pressure: a calm presence that steadies others.

Open hands: freedom to receive and give help (v. 14).

When we're in the valley, we don’t have to muster up our own strength or positivity.

We can tap into the supernatural peace of Christ, knowing that His power is made perfect in our weakness.

The intriguing thing about God’s power is that God’s strength begins where our self-sufficiency ends.

This is a kingdom principle: “When I am weak, then I am strong.”

2 Corinthians 12:10 NET 2nd ed.

10 Therefore I am content with weaknesses, with insults, with troubles, with persecutions, and with difficulties for the sake of Christ, for whenever I am weak, then I am strong.

Admitting our inability is the gateway to experiencing His ability.

Imagine a cordless power tool.

Without the battery, it’s just a shell—all design, no drive.

Plug in the battery, and suddenly it can cut, drill, and build.

You are the tool; Christ is the power source.

Without Him, you can do nothing (John 15:5).

With Him, you can do all He calls you to do.

CONCLUSION

Paul’s life reminds us that valleys are not detours from God’s plan—they are part of the path.

In every season, he learned that contentment is not found in changing circumstances, but in an unchanging Christ.

Gratitude anchored his heart, experience trained his soul, and Christ’s strength carried him through.

So when the peaks fade and the shadows fall, remember: you don’t have to escape the valley to thrive in it.

You only have to lean on the One who walks through it with you—and in Him, you will have all you need.

Here is something for you to take home.

SOMETHING TO TAKE HOME

"Contentment isn’t about what’s around you—it’s about Who’s within you."