When Life Hurts: From Rejection to Redemption
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When Life Hurts: From Rejection to Redemption
When Life Hurts: From Rejection to Redemption
Text: Genesis 29:31–35
Big Idea:
People may reject us, but God sees us, God hears us, and God redeems us through Christ.
People may reject us, but God sees us, God hears us, and God redeems us through Christ.
Introduction:
Last week we laid the foundation from Proverbs 3: God created us with three deep needs — love, worth, and security.
When we don’t find them in Him, we chase them in people, in performance, in control — and always come up empty.
This week, we see what that looks like in real life. We meet a woman in Scripture whose whole story is a cry for love, worth, and security — but everywhere she turned, she met rejection instead.
Her name was Leah.
Jacob never chose Leah. He worked seven long years for Rachel, the woman he loved. But on the wedding night, her father Laban deceived him, sending Leah in instead. Can you imagine the shame the next morning when Jacob woke up and realized she wasn’t the bride he wanted?
The Bible says it plainly: “Jacob loved Rachel more than Leah” (Gen. 29:30). And verse 31 puts it even stronger: “When the Lord saw that Leah was hated…”
Imagine Leah’s world:
Married to a man who never wanted her.
Living in constant comparison to her beautiful sister.
Bearing child after child, hoping each one would finally win Jacob’s affection.
Leah’s life was marked by rejection. But in her story, God reveals His heart for every rejected soul.
And he went in also unto Rachel, and he loved also Rachel more than Leah, and served with him yet seven other years.
And when the Lord saw that Leah was hated, he opened her womb: but Rachel was barren.
And Leah conceived, and bare a son, and she called his name Reuben: for she said, Surely the Lord hath looked upon my affliction; now therefore my husband will love me.
And she conceived again, and bare a son; and said, Because the Lord hath heard that I was hated, he hath therefore given me this son also: and she called his name Simeon.
And she conceived again, and bare a son; and said, Now this time will my husband be joined unto me, because I have born him three sons: therefore was his name called Levi.
And she conceived again, and bare a son: and she said, Now will I praise the Lord: therefore she called his name Judah; and left bearing.
The Problem
The Problem
Rejection doesn’t just hurt in the moment. It goes deeper — it shapes our identity and feeds us lies. You can see this clearly in the names Leah gave her children.
1. Reuben – “See, a son” (v.32)
And Leah conceived, and bare a son, and she called his name Reuben: for she said, Surely the Lord hath looked upon my affliction; now therefore my husband will love me.
She said, “Because the Lord has looked upon my affliction; surely now my husband will love me.”
Her hope was: “If I perform, if I give Jacob a son, then I’ll finally be loved.”
Lie #1: “If I do enough, I’ll finally be loved.”
Illustration:
It’s like the child who brings home good grades or trophies, hoping it will finally make their parent proud. But no matter how much they achieve, it never fills the hole.
2. Simeon – “Heard” (v.33)
And she conceived again, and bare a son; and said, Because the Lord hath heard that I was hated, he hath therefore given me this son also: and she called his name Simeon.
She said, “Because the Lord has heard that I am hated, he has given me this son also.”
Leah wears rejection as her identity. Even in blessing, she calls herself “hated.”
Lie #2: Rejection defines me. This is who I am.
Illustration:
It’s like wearing a name tag that says “Unwanted.” Everywhere you go, you feel like that’s the first thing people see about you.
3. Levi – “Attached” (v.34)
She conceived again and bore a son, and said, “Now this time my husband will become attached to me, because I have borne him three sons.” Therefore his name was called Levi.
She said, “Now this time my husband will be attached to me, because I have borne him three sons.”
She longed for security, for belonging, but it still depended on Jacob’s approval.
Lie #3: “If I just give more, they’ll finally stay.”
Do you see it? Rejection drives us to strive for love, worth, and security in people — but people can’t give what only God can. That’s the big problem we all face.
Illustration:
Think of someone who keeps giving more and more in a one-sided relationship, hoping it will hold together. But no matter how much they give, it never secures what they long for.
The Solution
The Solution
Rejection told Leah lies through the names of her first three sons.
“If I perform, I’ll be loved.”
“Rejection is who I am.”
“If I give enough, they’ll finally stay.”
But when her fourth son was born, something shifted.
Judah – “This time I will praise the Lord” (v.35)
And she conceived again, and bare a son: and she said, Now will I praise the Lord: therefore she called his name Judah; and left bearing.
Judah means praise.
Leah stopped naming her pain and started naming her praise. She turned her eyes from Jacob’s rejection to God’s acceptance.
Here’s the breakthrough: God had been there all along.
He had seen her affliction.
So Leah conceived and bore a son, and she called his name Reuben; for she said, “The Lord has surely looked on my affliction. Now therefore, my husband will love me.”
He had heard her cry.
And she conceived again, and bare a son; and said, Because the Lord hath heard that I was hated, he hath therefore given me this son also: and she called his name Simeon.
He had been moving in her story, even when she still looked to Jacob for approval.
But with Judah, Leah finally acknowledged it.
She lifted her voice and said: “This time, I will praise the Lord.”
And in that moment, God rewrote her story.
From Judah’s line came King David, and ultimately, Jesus Christ — the Savior of the world.
He is despised and rejected of men; A man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief: And we hid as it were our faces from him; He was despised, and we esteemed him not.
To the praise of the glory of his grace, wherein he hath made us accepted in the beloved.
Through His rejection, we are accepted.
So what do we do with this? Leah’s story is not just history; it’s an invitation.
Invitation
Invitation
From Rejection to Redemption for two groups:
To the lost:
Maybe rejection has defined your whole life. But Jesus took your rejection on the cross so you could be accepted by God. He cried out, “My God, My God, why have You forsaken Me?” so you would never be forsaken. He invites you today: “Whoever comes to Me I will never cast out.” (John 6:37)
To the believer carrying wounds:
Maybe like Leah, you’ve been striving for approval. You’ve worn rejection like a name tag. Today, God says, “You don’t have to live there anymore.
This time, lift your eyes. This time, give Him your praise.”
Conclusion:
People may reject you, but God sees you.
People may ignore you, but God hears you.
People may discard you, but God redeems you.
Leah named her son Judah — and out of Judah came Jesus. The very place of her rejection became the birthplace of redemption.
Today is an opportunity.
If you don’t know Christ — come to Him and be accepted in the Beloved.
If you’re carrying the wound of rejection — lay it down and let God heal it.
Prayer:
“Father, thank You that You see the unseen, You hear the unheard, and You redeem the rejected. Right now, we bring You every wound of rejection. For those who don’t know You, let today be the day of salvation. For those who are wounded, let today be the day of healing. We choose to lay down striving and lift up praise. In Christ, we are loved, accepted, and redeemed. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
Be Blessed
Be Blessed
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