The Biblical Family

Genesis 2:21–24 KJV 1900

21 And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; 22 And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. 23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. 24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

Title: The Biblical family

Going to talk about a lot of things over the next several weeks.

Definitions, roles, priorities, worship, dating, family disciplines, responsibilities, raising kids, technology, sports, modesty, peer pressure, how to lead as a husband, how to lead as a wife

If there are any questions or topics that you want to hear specifically, text me, push a note under my door…

What is the Biblical definition of a family?

Family is the first thing God created on day 8...

We are going to discuss in this first lesson the responsibilities of

Husband for the wife and children

Wife to the husband and for the children

Parents for and to the children

Children to the parents

What is the purpose of the family?

Protection (physical, emotional, spiritual - 3 parts of humanity)

Procreation

Nurture and raise the next generation

teach - if you are not teaching your children than you are failing - or worse, your silence is teaching the wrong thing!

Reflect God’s image

What is God’s design/blueprint for the family?

A man and a woman would leave parents (amazing how God told Adam and Eve that even though they were created not born…

Enter into a covenant together that was permanent, faithful and God centered.

Malachi 2:14 “14 Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the Lord hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, Against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: Yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant.”

Husbands responsibility to the wife.

Love: Ephesians 5:25 “25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;”

Lead: Ephesians 5:23 “23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.”

Provide and protect: 1 Timothy 5:8 “8 But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.”

What is the difference between protecting and defending?

Protect: keep safe, response to a threat

Defend: response to an action - the action requires judgement, do I defend as an innocent party or teach, correct the inappropriate action. This is my responsibility as the husband/father!

Honor and respect: 1 Peter 3:7 “7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.”

Be faithful: Hebrews 13:4 “4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.”

Cherish and Nurture: Ephesians 5:28–29 “28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:”

Nurture: bring up, provide what is needed for growth. You nurture your garden…

This is why you can’t defend every action because if you defend an inappropriate action or thought then you destroying the nurturing you are supposed to be doing!

What does it mean to nurture your wife?

To intentionally care for your wife in such a way that helps her to grow and become all that God intends for her.

If your husband does not have that capacity, you married the wrong man!

Husbands responsibility to the children.

Provide: 1 Timothy 5:8 “8 But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.”

Teach: Ephesians 6:4 “4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.”

Deuteronomy 6:6–7 “6 And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: 7 And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.”

Discipline: Proverbs 13:24 “24 He that spareth his rod hateth his son: But he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.”

Love and encourage: Colossians 3:21 “21 Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.”

Protect: Proverbs 14:26 “26 In the fear of the Lord is strong confidence: And his children shall have a place of refuge.”

Model Godly Character: Proverbs 20:7 “7 The just man walketh in his integrity: His children are blessed after him.”

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Wife’s responsibility to the husband:

Respect: Ephesians 5:33 “33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.”

Help meet or Completer: Genesis 2:18 “18 And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.”

Help: succourer or completer

Meet: Before, in sight of, beside - to preparer

Help meet: one who goes before, or beside or with to prepare and/or complete what has been predetermined!

COMPARE THIS WITH THE PROVERBS 31 WOMAN!

Submit: Ephesians 5:22–24 “22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.”

No way you can be a Proverbs 31 woman without submission!

Nothing more powerful than a woman who knows her place working with a man who knows his place, working together to create God a place!

Love: Titus 2:4–5 “4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”

Pure and faithful: Hebrews 13:4 “4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.”

Manage the home: Proverbs 31:27 “27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, And eateth not the bread of idleness.”

Titus 2:5 “5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”

Wife’s responsibility is to run the home…

Pink bedroom

Only one piece of furniture in our whole house I picked out…

Encourage and support: Proverbs 31:11–12 “11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, So that he shall have no need of spoil. 12 She will do him good and not evil All the days of her life.”

Wife’s responsibility to the children:

Love: Titus 2:4 “4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,”

Nurture and care: Isaiah 49:15 “15 Can a woman forget her sucking child, That she should not have compassion on the son of her womb? Yea, they may forget, Yet will I not forget thee.”

Teach and train: Proverbs 1:8 “8 My son, hear the instruction of thy father, And forsake not the law of thy mother:”

Proverbs 31:26 “26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; And in her tongue is the law of kindness.”

Manage the family: Proverbs 31:27–28 “27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, And eateth not the bread of idleness. 28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praiseth her.”

Discipline and guide: Proverbs 14:1 “1 Every wise woman buildeth her house: But the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.”

Godly character: 2 Timothy 1:5 “5 When I call to remembrance the unfeigned faith that is in thee, which dwelt first in thy grandmother Lois, and thy mother Eunice; and I am persuaded that in thee also.”

Pray and interceed: 1 Samuel 1:27–28 “27 For this child I prayed; and the Lord hath given me my petition which I asked of him: 28 Therefore also I have lent him to the Lord; as long as he liveth he shall be lent to the Lord. And he worshipped the Lord there.”

Parents combined responsibilities

Proverbs 22:6 “6 Train up a child in the way he should go: And when he is old, he will not depart from it.”

Parents should have a clear plan for each child, know them, thier personalities, temperments and guide and direct, train and give tools to make good decisions incrementally!