Good Bye Marriage Drama

Hymns

Love At Home - #652

Near to the Heart of God - #495

A Shelter in the Time of Storm - #528

Scripture Invitation

As we open our hearts to receive God’s Word today, I invite your prayerful consideration to the book of Ephesians, chapter 4, verses 29 through 32, where the Holy Spirit has illuminated the path to peace and restoration in our homes and marriages.

Bible Passage

Ephesians 4:29–32 CSB

No foul language should come from your mouth, but only what is good for building up someone in need, so that it gives grace to those who hear. And don’t grieve God’s Holy Spirit. You were sealed by him for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness, anger and wrath, shouting and slander be removed from you, along with all malice. And be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving one another, just as God also forgave you in Christ.

Prayer

Consecrate me now to Thy service, Lord, By the pow’r of grace divine; Let my soul look up with a steadfast hope, And my will be lost in Thine.

Introduction

Church, allow me to drop this on your spirit tonight

Marriage isn’t just any old agreement, it’s a divine masterpiece, painted by the very hand of God!

But don’t get it twisted the enemy sends storms, he sends hurricanes and high waters, trying to tear that masterpiece apart!

Marriage will rock like a boat in a midnight storm, the winds will howl, the rain will beat, and you’ll wonder if you’re gonna make it to morning.

But hear me, family: if you don’t watch, if you don’t pray, those storms will sink your purpose and drown your promise!

Today, we’re standing on the edge—looking out at the four storms that come for your love, your peace, your home!

Are you sick and tired of drama knocking at your door?

Are you ready to slam that door shut and anchor your marriage in the love that never fails and never fades?

Then on tonight let’s set sail, together, on the sea of God’s unbreakable love and rid oursevels of Marriage Drama

Lack of Communication

Church, let me talk to you about a storm that creeps in quiet—the storm called silence!

Silence ain’t always golden—sometimes, silence is deadly! 

Sometimes it’s the silence, not the shouting, that tears a house apart.

The Word says in James 1:19, “Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.”

Oh, somebody needs to hear that today! 

Communication is the heartbeat, the blood flow, the very oxygen of marriage!

When we zip our lips and shut down our hearts, walls of division rise up higher than Jericho!

When we refuse to listen, distance grows wider than the Red Sea!

Church, how many homes have crashed and burned—not because of hate, but because of silence?

How many dreams died, not from words spoken, but from words never said?

But if you want to see your marriage rise, you gotta open your mouth with kindness and open your ears with patience!

Communication isn’t just about talking—no, no!

It’s about hearing the heartbeats, catching the tears, feeling the fears of your spouse.

Don’t let your marriage die in the quiet!

Speak life!

Speak love!

Speak truth—until every dry bone in your relationship gets up and walks!

Lack of Forgiveness

Here is another storm we need to watch out for

It is the storm of unforgiveness

Forgiveness is not just a word—it’s a lifeline! 

It’s the rope that God throws down into the pit of our pain, pulling us up out of the waters of hurt and bitterness.

Colossians 3:13 says, “Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” 

Don’t just read it, live it!

Holding onto a grudge is like drinking poison and praying the other person will fall over and die—when all the while, it’s your soul that’s dying!

Every grudge, every grumble, every bitter memory—it’s a chain around your heart.

But let me tell you, church, forgiveness is the master key!

It shatters every shackle, it snaps every chain, and it unlocks the prison door of pain!

Forgiveness sets the captive free—starting with you!

It mends what’s been broken, it heals what’s been hurting, and it lets you breathe again.

I know the wounds can run deep. 

But I came to tell you, God’s grace runs deeper!

You’ve got to let go of yesterday if you want to dance in tomorrow’s freedom!

So right now, say it till you feel it, say it till you live it:

We must declare “I choose to forgive!”

Confusing Physical Intimacy with True Intimacy

Now listen, church—let me walk gentle, but walk bold, because young ears are listening and wise hearts are learning!

Physical intimacy is God’s gift, yes it is!—a holy fire designed for the marriage altar, a sacred dance between husband and wife.

But don’t get it twisted! 

Don’t let the world sell you a cheap imitation!

Sometimes we confuse touching bodies with touching souls!

But real intimacy, real connection, is deeper than skin, deeper than flesh—it’s heart meeting heart, soul embracing soul, spirit locking arms with spirit!

The Word tells us in Ephesians 5:31, “The two will become one flesh.”

But hear me, church—that oneness ain’t just about bodies pressed together, it’s about lives woven together!

True intimacy is built on trust that stands the test of time, vulnerability that dares to be seen, forgiveness that heals old wounds, and respect that never fades!

It’s found in the quiet moments, when you can sit in silence and still feel loved.

It’s in the prayers whispered for one another, the honest talks late in the midnight hour, the laughter and the tears you share.

Don’t let the enemy fool you, church!

Don’t let the devil whisper that a warm body is all you need—because a warm body can’t mend a cold heart!

Build your marriage on the deep stuff, the soul stuff, the forever stuff.

Because true intimacy, it lasts longer than a moment.

It builds a lifetime!

Application

Now, my brothers and my sisters, what are we gonna do with this Word?

We can’t just shout amen and clap—we gotta work this thing out!

First: Take a look in the mirror of your soul!

Ask yourself, “Am I planting seeds of respect, or am I sowing weeds that tear my house down?”

You can’t build a palace with the bricks of bitterness!

Second: Open your mouth and open your heart!

Don’t just talk—listen with love, speak with intention, and let understanding be the bridge that brings you closer!

Words can build walls, but they can also build homes!

Third: Break those chains of unforgiveness!

Don’t let yesterday’s hurt steal today’s joy. 

Freedom is a choice—choose it right now!

Let go, and let God heal what you can’t hold anymore!

Fourth: Go deeper than the surface!

Don’t just touch bodies—touch hearts, touch dreams, touch faith!

Build a fortress of trust, a castle of compassion, a sanctuary of love that the storms can’t shake!

Remember this, church:

Marriage isn’t a stage for drama—it’s a sanctuary for love, a holy ground where God dwells!

Its time to wave goodbye to the storms

Its time to tell the chaos to pack its bags!

Your home is God’s home—let peace live there!

Can I get a witness?

Closing

As I bring this message to a close, let me declare it with boldness that “God is the Master Captain on the deck of every marriage ship!”

When the storms are raging, He’s the anchor that won’t let you drift!

When the waves threaten to swallow you whole, He steps in as the peace in your chaos!

When respect has walked out the door, God brings it back through the window!

When your words run dry, He fills your mouth with life!

When bitterness tries to lock you in, He snaps every chain and throws away the key!

When your heart gets cloudy with confusion, He shines the light of clarity and showers you with peace!

So I need somebody to hear me tonight:

You might be in the middle of a storm in your marriage, but—

Even when respect is missing, honor can still stand up in the storm!

Even when silence is deafening, God gives you a voice in the storm!

Even when wounds are still fresh, healing flows in the storm!

Even when closeness feels confusing, true intimacy is birthed in the storm!

Even when the battle is fierce, victory is found in the storm!

God is still mending broken marriages!

God is still healing hurting homes!

God is still turning every storm into a story of victory!

Can I get a witness?

Tonight we can Say “Goodbye” to the drama that’s tried to move in!

Tonight we can Say “Hello” to God’s peace, God’s love, and God’s unstoppable power!