Wisdom at the Table

Discern Motives

Proverbs 23:1 “When thou sittest to eat with a ruler, Consider diligently what is before thee:”

Why is the ruler sharing his table with you?

Is this meal a test of your character or loyalty?

Does he expect something in return for the “honor” of your company?

Not every invitation is about friendship — some come with hidden motives.

Control Desires

Proverbs 23:2 “And put a knife to thy throat, If thou be a man given to appetite.”

Be careful about the things you crave.

Be mindful when you begin to overindulge in anything.

Understand the harm that uncontrolled desires bring to your life.

Appetite must be governed, or it will govern you.

Evaluate Intentions

Proverbs 23:3 “Be not desirous of his dainties: For they are deceitful meat.”

Deceitful meat points toward hidden motives.

Acceptance by the elite often comes with expectations.

The motive of a person matters more than the offer itself.

Every meal isn’t meant for fellowship — some are meant for manipulation.

Pursue Rightly

Proverbs 23:4–5 “Labour not to be rich: Cease from thine own wisdom. Wilt thou set thine eyes upon that which is not? For riches certainly make themselves wings; They fly away as an eagle toward heaven.”

Wealth is not condemned; the pursuit of wealth is.

Work faithfully to provide, not to pride yourself in riches.

When work produces wealth, use it wisely.

Pursuing wealth above wisdom leads to bad choices and consequences.

Pursue Christ, and let Him determine the blessings that fit your life.

Riches can take flight — but righteousness endures forever.

Caution is Wise

Proverbs 23:6–8 “Eat thou not the bread of him that hath an evil eye, Neither desire thou his dainty meats: For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he: Eat and drink, saith he to thee; But his heart is not with thee. The morsel which thou hast eaten shalt thou vomit up, And lose thy sweet words.”

His table looks appealing, but his motives are self-serving.

He may offer, but he doesn’t mean it.

What begins as flattery often ends in frustration.

What he gives with his hand, he resents in his heart.

Be cautious of the stingy man’s kindness — his heart is not in his hospitality.