Restoring Relationships Through Humility

- “if anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also... if anyone would sue you and take your tunic, let him have your cloak as well... if anyone forces you to go one mile, go with him two miles.”

1-Give love to those who seek to humiliate you

The value of self control and patience

What causes fights and quarrels among you?

You have the right to hit backBreaking the cycle of dysfunction

8 actions that create a cycle of dysfunction

violence, quarrelling, nitpicking, resentment, insults, emotional coldness, physical avoidance, social embarrassment

Hurting people say hurtful things - you have the right to slap them back but you can choose another option

Turning the cheek is the opposite of striking back. It is the choice to break the cycle. It is the choice to say “you can continue your destructive life but I’m not going with you.”

2-Give generously to those who seek to take advantage of you

The value of true repentance

When I have done wrong - repentance is more than sorry

You have the right to only do what your told to do but...Do you love people more than money? The relationship more than “the win”?

3-Give counsel to those who seek to control you

The value of generosity

Do not allow others to control you

3 Ways to keep others from controlling you

Ask, “Is it God’s will?”

Ask, “Are they someone else’s responsibility?” (themselves, their parents, their leaders)

Ask, “Is this the right time for me to give more time?”

Giving from the heart

Good enough isn’t good enough

3 Areas that need us to go “the extra mile”

Work relationships - 10-20 minutes early is on time

Home relationships - Half done is not done: doing the bare minimum

Marriage relationships - injecting love into a relationship