Letting Go
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· 14 viewsLove is not Rude so we must be tactful, not just truthful. Love is not demanding, so we must be understanding. Love is not irritable, so we must be gentle and not judgmental. And it keeps no record of wrong, so don't repeat it, but instead delete it.
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Trying hard Filipino-English is like carrying “Difficult-Translation Bible” - Transformed not just informed
Last Sunday we talked about Agape Love and How we may be able to share it to others
We understand that Agape Love is the ability to love even the unlovable
We learned that only when we “die to self and live in Christ” that we may be able to share Agape love
And dying to self is only through personal revival & renewal
In this past week the church went on fasting praying for “personal renewal”
We will pick it up from there by trying to understand the true meaning of love, not the way how it is defined in dictionaries or encyclopedias, but the way how it is described in the Bible
It is easy to love lovable people but God puts us in the midst of people that are unlovable / unlikable
People that I call VDP’s - Very Draining People (4 D’s)
Difficult - Rude / Obnoxious
Demanding - Pushy
Disappointing - The Break Promises
Distractive - (The most difficult) They mean to harm you
When you learn to deal with these 4 kinds of VDP’s, you’ll graduate from the Bachelors’ Degree of “Love”
The world is increasingly become more rude. Would you agree?
My list of things that irritates me the most:
people who call you and they say, “who are you?”
people who slurp their soup
people who honks their horns in traffic jams where they can go nowhere
When people in my household always keep forgetting to turn off the lights when not in use
people who lights a cigarettes then hold it towards you instead of smoking (by the they are not really smokers, cigarettes smokes they’re suckers)
people who sends me junk mails
When people ask me question and then they interrupt me when I give them my answer
people who leaves the church early before the offering
same as no. 3
people who come from the opposite direction and steal the parking spot that you’ve been patiently waiting for
What Kind of Rudeness that Irritates You the Most?
Think of that for few seconds and then turn to your neighbor and tell it to him
Here’s what the Bible says about “love” in
or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.
How do you d respond to difficult people?
people who call you and they say, “who are you?”
people who slurp their soup
people who honks their horns in traffic jams where they can go nowhere
When people in my household always keep forgetting to turn off the lights when not in use
people who lights a cigarettes then hold it towards you instead of smoking (by the they are not really smokers, cigarettes smokes they’re suckers)
people who cheat at the 10-items express lane
people who sends me junk mails
When people ask me question then they interrupt me when I give them my answer
people who leaves the church early before the offering
same as no. 3
people who come from the opposite direction and steal the parking spot that you’ve been patiently waiting for
How do you love and respond to difficult people?
Four (4) Things that Love is Not:
Four (4) Things that Love is Not:
Love is Not Rude. So, I must be Tactful not just Truthful.
Love is Not Rude. So, I must be Tactful not just Truthful.
13 Answering before listening is both stupid and rude.
Interrupting people is very rude. It is rude not to listen
31 Stop being bitter and angry and mad at others. Don’t yell at one another or curse each other or ever be rude. 32 Instead, be kind and merciful, and forgive others, just as God forgave you because of Christ.
13 To answer before listening— that is folly and shame.
13 Answering before listening is both stupid and rude.
Profanity requires zero intelligence (you can teach a parrot to curse)
Profanity requires zero intelligence (you can teach a parrot to curse)
Profanity is not a sign of intelligence. but a sign that you can’t think of a better word
Profanity is not a sign of intelligence. but a sign that you can’t think of a better word
Eric Cofer said, rudeness is a weak man’s imitation of strength - its not manly to cuss
eric cofer said, rudeness is a weak man’s imitation of strength - its not manly to cuss
not being frank but being rude
not being frank but being rude
telling it like it is, is just labeling people and does not build them up
telling it like it is is just labeling people and does not build them up
21 A wise, mature person is known for his understanding. The more pleasant his words, the more persuasive he is.
Nagging does not work.
A wise, mature person is known for his understanding. The more pleasant his words, the more persuasive he is.
telling it like it is, is just labeling people and does not build them up
I am not persuasive when I’m abrasive.
How do you respond to Demanding people?
Love is Not Demanding. So, I must be understanding, not demanding.
Love is Not Demanding. So, I must be understanding, not demanding.
5 You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had. 6 Though he was God, he did not think of equality with God as something to cling to. 7 Instead, he gave up his divine privileges; he took the humble position of a slave and was born as a human being. When he appeared in human form,
Treating people with respect
Sometimes we are polite to strangers than to people we love the most
Patience comes from Perspective: 3 B’s (Background, Battles, Burden)
2 Believers shouldn’t curse anyone or be quarrelsome, but they should be gentle and show courtesy to everyone.
Patience comes from Perspective:
3 B’s = (Background, Battles & Burdens)
31 Do to others as you would have them do to you.
The Golden Rule
How do you respond to Disappointing people?
Love is Not Irritable. So, I must be Gentle not Judgmental
Love is Not Irritable. So, I must be Gentle not Judgmental
1 Brothers and sisters, if someone in your group does something wrong, you who are spiritual should go to that person and gently help make him right again. But be careful, because you might be tempted to sin, too.
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Be tender without surrender
Know the difference between using your judgment and being judgmental
12 So then, each of us will give an account of ourselves to God. 13 Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in the way of a brother or sister.
12 And Abraham is also the father of those who have been circumcised and who live following the faith that our father Abraham had before he was circumcised. 13 Abraham and his descendants received the promise that they would get the whole world. He did not receive that promise through the law, but through being right with God by his faith.
Know the difference between using your judgment and being judgmental
4 Gentle words are a tree of life; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.
4 If your boss is angry at you, don’t quit! A quiet spirit can overcome even great mistakes.
How do you respond to Distractive people?
Love Keeps No Record of wrongs. So, don’t Repeat it, Delete it!
Love Keeps No Record of wrongs. So, don’t Repeat it, Delete it!
Three ways people repeat things to themselves:
1. Emotionally - in our minds, remembering it over & over again is just hurting yourself, resentments, grudges
You are only hurting yourself with your anger. Will the earth be deserted because you are angry? Will God move mountains to satisfy you?
2. Relationally - Fights. Wedging it as weapons against the person that offended you
If you want people to like you, forgive them when they wrong you. Remembering wrongs can break up a friendship.
3. Gossip - Talking to everybody else about the pain. (Gossip = Pride & Ego). To feel superior over everybody else
Gossip is no good! It causes hard feelings and comes between friends.
“Do not bear a grudge against anyone, but settle your differences with him, so that you will not commit a sin because of him.
And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him and let it drop (leave it, let it go), in order that your Father Who is in heaven may also forgive you your [own] failings and shortcomings and let them drop.
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Hate stirs up trouble, but love overlooks all offences.
If you are sensible, you will control your temper. When someone wrongs you, it is a great virtue to ignore it.
You are only hurting yourself with your anger. Will the earth be deserted because you are angry? Will God move mountains to satisfy you?
Provers 19:11
Job 18:4
“Do not bear a grudge against anyone, but settle your differences with him, so that you will not commit a sin because of him.
How do you love and respond to difficult people?
If you want people to like you, forgive them when they wrong you. Remembering wrongs can break up a friendship.
Prayer
Prayer
Lord teach us to trust you more and more. Break us so you could restore us, renew us, revive us. We want to be able to share Agape to everyone that we come in contact with. This may only become possible when you increase as we decrease. Love is not rude, so help us to become tactful not just truthful. Love is not demanding, so help us to become understanding. Love is not irritable, so help us to become gentle and not judgmental. Love keeps no record of wrongs, so help us not repeat it, but to delete it. We pray these in Jesus name. Amen!
13 To answer before listening— that is folly and shame.