Dave & Sally's Wedding

Made for Each Other

Dave, Adam’s wife, Eve, was made for him from his very own flesh and blood. Sally was made for you from marsh muck.

The creation of Eve is the only time in history, with an exception, that a person came out of a man, not a woman. God designed human beings to be born of a woman. Of course, Sally wasn’t fashioned from marsh muck, but God did create her, in her mother’s womb, specifically for you, Dave.

And Sally, Dave wasn’t fashioned out of dust like Adam, who gets his name from the Hebrew word, adamah, meaning dirt, or ground. So, properly translated, Adam’s name in English should be “Dusty.” Dave was created by God, specifically for you,Sally.

God created you for each other. You are God’s gift for each other. The way you are now, is who you need to be, for this year of marriage, for next year, and for all the years to come. You will grow, and change. Just as seeds planted in the ground are supposed to grow, blossom and bear fruit, so God has placed you together, so that you can grow, blossom and bear fruit.

The unique gifts and abilities, characteristics and personalities, even your very expectations are what make you who you are, and though the differences you have can create tension or conflict from time to time, don’t sweat it. Conflict, when handled well and rightly, as taught in the marriage classes—aren’t you glad you did your homework—will help you grow. Just as resistance is necessary for muscle development, sometimes resistance is necessary between husband and wife, to cause growth. But be assured of this, God has created you to make you the best married couple you can be.

You see, marriage is God’s design. It’s God’s gift. God ordained that a man would leave his parents, and a woman her parents and they would unite and together become one flesh.

This is truly incredible. But it also gives us a glimpse, an understanding of God himself. God is three persons in one, a Trinity. When you want to understand how your marriage is supposed to work, when you want to understand how live together happens, when you want to know, how this two becoming one happens, look to God. God is the perfect example of harmony in togetherness. Sometimes we see great examples in our friends, in our families. Sometimes God gives us examples of how things don’t always go to plan. And we learn from that too, and see how love works there also. But the greatest place to learn, is by observing God, in his word, in worship, in Christian community.

Please be aware, Sally and Dave, the world we live in isn’t perfect. You’re not perfect either. Your feelings for each other will ebb and flow. The joy and excitement you feel today, won’t last always. You won’t act perfectly toward each other, nor will you love perfectly—but God always does.

Do you remember the first class? Do you remember our conversation about the three loves? Friendship love, emotional love and commitment love? Do you remember which one is most important? That’s right, the third one, commitment love. That’s the love that God has for us. It never, ever gives up, no matter what the circumstance. That’s the one you have to go to when things get tough. But the other loves are also very important. You must maintain your friendship, as you’ve promised to do, and you must remain passionate for each other, as you’ve also vowed to do.

I mentioned the exception where someone came from a man, not a woman. That’s Jesus. Jesus, the new Adam, makes brand new people. When you admit your sins, believe that Jesus has forgiven them by paying for them on the cross, and commit your life to him, as you both have done, you are born again, made new!

Continue in the new life in Christ, and in the new married life you now have in Christ. Remember that God created you for each other. Eve was the perfect companion that Adam needed, and Adam was Eve’s. You’re the perfect companions for each other, trust God to bring that out of you both.

Remember that God created you for each other. Eve was the perfect companion that Adam needed, and Adam was Eve’s. You’re the perfect companions for each other, trust God to bring that out of you both.

I’d like to close with a fitting quote from Matthew Henry’s commentary on .

Matthew Henry’s Commentary on the Whole Bible: Complete and Unabridged in One Volume Genesis 2:21–25

That the woman was made of a rib out of the side of Adam; not made out of his head to rule over him, nor out of his feet to be trampled upon by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be beloved.

Matthew Henry’s Commentary on the Whole Bible: Complete and Unabridged in One Volume Genesis 2:21–25

That the woman was made of a rib out of the side of Adam; not made out of his head to rule over him, nor out of his feet to be trampled upon by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be beloved. Adam lost a rib, and without any diminution to his strength or comeliness (for, doubtless, the flesh was closed without a scar); but in lieu thereof he had a help meet for him, which abundantly made up his loss: what God takes away from his people he will, one way or other, restore with advantage. In this (as in many other things) Adam was a figure of him that was to come; for out of the side of Christ, the second Adam, his spouse the church was formed, when he slept the sleep, the deep sleep, of death upon the cross, in order to which his side was opened, and there came out blood and water, blood to purchase his church and water to purify it to himself.

Amen.