Kingdom Living for the Family.Submission
Kingdom Living for the Family
Pastor E. Keith Hassell
“Submission”
Foundation Scripture: 1 Corinthians 11:3; Ephesians 5:22-33
I. The family is an extension of God’s kingdom order
A. Genesis 1:27-28 (NKJV) “So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. Then God blessed them, and God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.’”
II. Levels of submission in the kingdom
A. Christ submits to the Father
B. The husband submits to Christ
C. The wife submits to her husband
D. Everyone submits to someone
III. Submission is NOT
A. Inferiority (Design and function)
1. 1 Corinthians 11:11-12 (NKJV) “Nevertheless, neither is man independent of woman, nor woman independent of man, in the Lord. For as woman came from man, even so man also comes through woman; but all things are from God.”
2. 1 Peter 3:7 (NKJV) “Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.”
3. Galatians 3:28 (NKJV) “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”
4. Philippians 2:5-11 Jesus was not inferior to the Father but He set our an example for us to follow
B. Weakness (Power of influence and partnership)
1. Meekness: Power under restraint
C. Slavery (Liberty and freedom)
D. License for abuse (Edification through love)
E. Absolute Obedience (Only God deserves absolute obedience)
IV. Submission in the home means:
A. No. 1 Recognizing God’s kingdom order in the home
B. No. 2 Honoring God’s kingdom order in the home
C. No. 3 Establishing God’s kingdom order in the home
D. No. 4 Submitting to God by submitting to your husband
E. No. 5 Following God-ordained headship in the home
1. How can the husband lead if the wife will not follow?
F. No. 6 Trusting God to work in your life through His order
1. To bring forth His plan in your life
2. To protect you from what you do not understand
3. God brought forth His plan of redemption through the unrighteous acts of leaders
G. No. 7 Trusting God to correct and adjust your husband
1. Proverbs 21:1 (NKJV) “The king’s heart is in the hand of the Lord, like the rivers of water; He turns it wherever He wishes.”
2. You are not responsible for your husband’s decisions
3. Your husband is in the hand of the Lord
H. No. 8 Obtaining influence and authority through submission
1. James 4:6-7 (NKJV) “But He gives more grace. Therefore He says: ‘God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble.’ Therefore submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you.”
2. God grants authority to those who are submitted to authority
I. No. 9 Reflecting God’s creation order
1. 1 Timothy 2:11-13 (NKJV) “Let a woman learn in silence with all submission. And I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man, but to be in silence. For Adam was formed first, then Eve.”
J. No. 10 Walking under God’s covering and protection
1. 1 Timothy 2:14 “And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression.”
2. 1 Corinthians 11:10 (NKJV) “For this reason the woman ought to have a symbol of authority on her head, because of the angels.”
K. No. 11 Controlling your attitude, words, tone, and expressions
1. 1 Peter 3:1-2 (NKJV) “Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear.”
2. Our attitude, words, tone, and expression can undermine God’s headship in the home
3. These things flow from the heart
L. No. 12 Maintaining a good conscience before God
1. Romans 13:1-5 (NKJV) “Let every soul be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and the authorities that exist are appointed by God. Therefore whoever resists the authority resists the ordinance of God, and those who resist will bring judgment on themselves. For rulers are not a terror to good works, but to evil. Do you want to be unafraid of the authority? Do what is good, and you will have praise from the same. For he is God’s minister to you for good. But if you do evil, be afraid; for he does not bear the sword in vain; for he is God’s minister, an avenger to execute wrath on him who practices evil. Therefore you must be subject, not only because of wrath but also for conscience’ sake.”
2. 1 John 3:21-22 (NKJV) “Beloved, if our heart does not condemn us, we have confidence toward God. And whatever we ask we receive from Him, because we keep His commandments and do those things that are pleasing in His sight.”
V. Submission at home and in the church
A. 1 Timothy 2:11-14 (NKJV) “Let a woman learn in silence with all submission. And I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man, but to be in silence. For Adam was formed first, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression.”
B. It would be utter confusion if the husband was the head at home and the wife was the head at church.
VI. Ladies, BEFORE you marry!
A. No. 1 Are you submitted to the Lordship of Jesus Christ?
B. No. 2 Are you submitted to your parents?
C. No. 3 Are you submitted to spiritual leadership in the church?
D. No. 4 Is the man you want to marry a believer?
E. No. 5 Is the man submitted to the Lordship of Jesus Christ?
VII. Men, BEFORE you marry!
A. No. 1 Are you submitted to the Lordship of Jesus Christ?
B. No. 2 Are you submitted to your parents?
C. No. 3 Are you submitted to spiritual leadership in the church?
D. No. 4 Is the person you want to marry a believer?
E. No. 5 Is the person you want to marry submitted to the Lordship of Jesus Christ?
F. No. 6 Is the person you want to marry submitted to her parents?
G. No. 7 Is the person you want to marry submitted to spiritual leadership in the church?
VIII. Walking in submission
A. No. 1 Embrace the kingdom principle of submission
B. No. 2 Repent of insubordination and rebellion
C. No. 3 Repent of being joined to unsubmitted leadership
D. No. 4 Submit to the Lordship of Jesus Christ
E. No. 5 Submit to your husband as unto the Lord
F. No. 6 Pray for your husband
G. No. 7 Seek to be a blessing to your husband
H. No. 8 Guard your attitude, words, tone, and expression
I. No. 9 Trust God to work through your submission
J. No. 10 Exercise patience—giving God time to work
K. No. 11 In everything give thanks