Biblical Parenting

Lecture 01:

Godly Home is the Bedrock of Biblical Parenting.

America:

This topic suggests that without a godly home, biblical parenting can not happen; without fully understanding the purpose and the design of God for marriage as his first institution, you can never fully grasp, or practice the kind of parenting approach that God expects to happen in the home. let me say here that “God is the centre of the godly home: everything revolves around him, because everything came to be because of him.” The godly home, is the reflection of God’s creative design; redemptive power and a display of God’s glory.

John Piper said “Marriage lived for God’s glory” which means, in a godly home, every components of it, lives for and exists for God…

Today:

The focus will be on the foundations of godly home.

The focus will be on the foundations of a godly home. There are many scriptural foundations on which the godly home firmly rested, in this introduction, I will discuss just 3 of them.

Genesis 1:26–28 KJV 1900

26 And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth. 27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. 28 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.

Matthew 19:3–5 KJV 1900

3 The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? 4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, 5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?

Male and female created he them: this is the first foundation of a godly home that i will begin with: it is very important for us to know the various dimensions to the meaning of this simple statement.

From this statement we know that “the gender formation of a godly home is not confused: “one man and one woman” man being male and woman being female.

A godly home can not arise from a transgendered marriage, homosexuality, lesbianism, gay marriages, and any other form of marriage outside “a male and a female” why?

The stand of God regarding all those who practice such sexual immorality is clear: lev 18:22 and 20:13 “do not practice homosexuality, having sex with another man as with a woman. it is a detestable sin.” “If a man practice homosexuality… they must be put to death, for they are guilty of capital offence.

Another thing that we see from this statement is this “the sexual purity of a godly home is stated - one lifetime sexual partner… and they twain shall be one flesh” The bible speaks extensively against pre-marital sex and extra-marital sexual affairs.

in mat 5:27-28, Jesus said: “You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery.’ 28But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman to lust after her has already committed adultery with her in his heart”

“Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. NLT”

Jesus further interpret this statement to answer the question on divorce to mean: “that marriage is a covenant union between two people - it is a lifetime commitment” in other words “divorce is not part of the marriage covenant.”

“To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.”

so, if multiple sexual partners can not be inclusive of a godly home, and if marriage is crucial for having a godly home then:

Baby mamas who have children for many men are not building a godly home - it is a sin!

baby daddies that impregnate several women and without being married to them are not making godly home… it is a sin!

live- in - partner is not a marriage: you are just friends with benefits - this is a relationship that lacks commitment and it is a sin - it can never accidently produce a godly home...

to move in with a man that you have not been married to, is a sin. you can not produce a godly home out of such detestable sin against God.

To summarize the first point:

Male and female created he them: This statement summarizes God’s intention and design for his first institution: (1) you have to be a male that married a female to start the journey towards building a Godly home - you can not be gender depraved, or be someone who entertains gender confusion (2) in God’s kind of marriage, you have signed up for a lifetime sexual purity - two souls but one flesh (3) and finally, you have signed a lifetime contract - the only exit is door in a godly home is death.

Foundation number two for godly home:

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Genesis 2:18 KJV 1900

18 And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

Genesis 2:21–23 KJV 1900

21 And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; 22 And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. 23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.

New testaments:

1 Corinthians 11:1–3 KJV 1900

1 Be ye followers of me, even as I also am of Christ. 2 Now I praise you, brethren, that ye remember me in all things, and keep the ordinances, as I delivered them to you. 3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.

1 Corinthians 11:1–3 KJV 1900

1 Be ye followers of me, even as I also am of Christ. 2 Now I praise you, brethren, that ye remember me in all things, and keep the ordinances, as I delivered them to you. 3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.

1 cor 11

1 Corinthians 11:8–9 KJV 1900

8 For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. 9 Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.

The man is not of the woman, but the woman of the man: this is the second foundation that we will go through today. if you look closely, you will realize that this simple sentence is layered with deep meanings:

The order of headship in a Godly home is clarified: which also indicates the direction of authority:

God is the Head of Christ; Christ is the head of man; and man is the head of the woman. this direction is also true for authority: God is the authority over Christ; Christ is the authority over man; and man is the authority over the woman.

The direction of the flow of love and submission is also clear:

Love flows downwards: God loves his only begotten son; his only son because of love offered up his life for man; and man loves the woman

submission flows upwards: Jesus submits to God; man submits to Jesus and the woman submits to the man.

Why is this pattern important?

The godly home is all about the man and not the woman… that is, for any home to become godly, the man foremost must be godly and be reckoned with in his proper place.

From the marriage of the lamb in the book of revelation, we have a very strong guidance:

6 And I heard as it were the voice of a great multitude, and as the voice of many waters, and as the voice of mighty thunderings, saying, Alleluia: for the Lord God omnipotent reigneth. Let us be glad and rejoice, and give honour to him: for the marriage of the Lamb is come, and his wife hath made herself ready.And to her was granted that she should be arrayed in fine linen, clean and white: for the fine linen is the righteousness of saints. And he saith unto me, Write, Blessed are they which are called unto the marriage supper of the Lamb. And he saith unto me, These are the true sayings of God.

And I heard as it were the voice of a great multitude, and as the voice of many waters, and as the voice of mighty thunderings, saying, Alleluia: for the Lord God omnipotent reigneth. Let us be glad and rejoice, and give honour to him: for the marriage of the Lamb is come, and his wife hath made herself ready.And to her was granted that she should be arrayed in fine linen, clean and white: for the fine linen is the righteousness of saints.

7 Let us be glad and rejoice, and give honour to him: for the marriage of the Lamb is come, and his wife hath made herself ready.

8 And to her was granted that she should be arrayed in fine linen, clean and white: for the fine linen is the righteousness of saints.

9 And he saith unto me, Write, Blessed are they which are called unto the marriage supper of the Lamb. And he saith unto me, These are the true sayings of God.

Who was the focus of the marriage? The lamb, the Christ, the groom

Who made herself ready? the bride, the church...

In Genesis: God planted a garden eastward of Eden for Adam, God made the home for Adam and he brought Eve into that home to help him, not to contend with him or outshine him, but to be his helpmeet to him with submission under God.

in many cultures around the world, there is this statement that “the home belong to the woman” it is not a scriptural view of marriage and the home, because, according to the scripture “the home belong to the man, because from the beginning of God’s creation, it was all about the man.”

so, in a godly home, headship is not a thing of debate; it is clear that man is in charge. This foundation must be in its proper place for many other things to happen in the home. for instance Paul was speaking in Ephessian and he pointed out some things:

Ephesians 5:22–28 KJV 1900

22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

let me show you some deeper revelations from this passage:

When the headship of a godly man is acknowledged and fully accepted, Paul said, this must be ‘as unto the Lord’ and it must be ‘in everything’, then the godly man will be able to use his God’s given authority to do the following:

He will become the saviour of the body - the home inclusive of the wife and the children: by divine placement, he is position to be able to deliver the home from whatever comes against it under the authority of God - he is like the superhero of the godly home.

He will give himself for it - a life of ultimate sacrifice for the home: a man that is godly never seeks their own interest and will never take advantage of the woman - a truly godly man, is a man that is laid down upon the altar of sacrifice before God…

He will sanctify the home and cleanse it:

with the washing of water and the word of God - he will fulfill his priestly duty over the home: that man has been positioned by God to divide the word of life and feed his family with it, with the help of the holy spirit… so, the more they dwell on the pages of the word of God, the more the lord clenses the heart of everyone and consistently purge them from any sin and impurity.

He will present the home to himself:

with glory - a godly man is instrumental to the rising of the glory of God in a godly home, more importantly, the woman is expected to enter her greater glory under the authority of her husband - she is the glory of man… please pay attention, many divine order and principles have been bastardized by our cultural beliefs and so forth.

not having spot or wrinkle, or any such thing,… but, Holy and without blemish… i know many people will say, are you putting the husband in the place of Christ? the answer is YES! in a godly home, God has placed the man in the centre as his only begotten son, he expect the wife and everyone within the home to recognize and accept his headship as the headship of Christ. If you accept his headship, you have accepted the headship of Christ and God, because remember, a godly man is not working in isolation - he is operating under the authority of God, and of Christ. in a simple way, he is the link of God to his home, i mean the first point of contact for God in the home.

If a wife truly recognizes and accept and submits in all things to the headship of her husband in the home, she has just opened the door that guaranteed:

both physical and spiritual salvation of the home

sanctity and sexual purity in the home

the woman will suddenly emerge with glory, because the man will present her to himself “ a glorious woman” oh! the depth of God’s wisdom! those who live by it, will reap the benefits of it.

We will continuine from this point next week.

let us pray.