Husbands, And Wives

In the same way, wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, even if some disobey the Christian message, they may be won over without a message by the way their wives live when they observe your pure, reverent lives. Your beauty should not consist of outward things like elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold ornaments or fine clothes. Instead, it should consist of what is inside the heart with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very valuable in God’s eyes. For in the past, the holy women who put their hope in God also beautified themselves in this way, submitting to their own husbands, just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. You have become her children when you do what is good and are not frightened by anything alarming. Husbands, in the same way, live with your wives with an understanding of their weaker nature yet showing them honor as coheirs of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered.

I want to make this very clear that the wives I am speaking about today are

These verses are speaking about two different types of wives, and I want to make it very clear that both types of wives are wives who are Christians, they are believers in Jesus Christ.

wife of an unbelieving husband, in other words a man who is not a Christian, he does not know God, and the other is the wife of a God fearing, Christ following, Christ believing husband. Wives, whichever type of husband you have these verses tell us that the wife "submit" to their own husbands.

The first one is the wife of an unbelieving husband, in other words a man who is not a Christian, this is a man who either does not know God, or a man who thinks he knows God, who goes to church but does not have a personal relationship with Jesus; and the other is the wife of a God fearing, Christ following, Christ believing husband. Wives, whichever type of husband you have these verses tell us that the wife "submits" to their own husbands.

I am here to tell you that since there are two different types of husbands; the believing, and the non-believing husband, that there are two different ways a wife has to submit to her husband, respective of which type of husband he is; the believer, or non-believer.

The way in which you are to submit regardless may shock you though.

Verse 1 says "Wives submit to your own husbands" - The word translated your own is the greek word id-e-os which means your own possession. In other words it is the husband who belongs to you, it is your husband not your neighbors husband, not your friends husband, it is your husband.

These two different wives may have two different kinds of husbands, but they do have some things in common in how they “submit” to their husbands:

Verse 1 says "Wives submit to your own husbands" - The word translated your own is the greek word id-e-os which means your own possession. In other words it is the husband who belongs to you, it is your husband, not your neighbors husband, not your friends husband, it is your husband.

Wives when you even just look at other men, or make a remark about how good looking they are you make your husband’s ego go down the tube. Believe it or not but most men need to have their ego stroked. If a mans ego is trashed instead of being stroked it will make a drastic impact on how he feels about, and how he treats his wife.

Now personally I don't know what women see in men. I have never seen a "good looking man", I have seen beautiful women before, but what in the world do women see that is so good to look at in any man? I just can't figure it out, and probably never will. I have been standing next to a couple of women who were gawking at a guy, and going on, and on, about how good looking he is. I look at him and see one of the ugliest sites I have ever seen. I have to take a second look to make sure we are looking at the same thing.

Wives when you make your husbands feel good, you look good to them. Let’s go back to verse 3 of

Now back in the day when you were dating, and you used those good looks of yours, the way you fixed your hair all up, the way you did the makeup, the clothes you wore, all this is what set your hook into him, but to keep him you should show him how much you love him, and only him, by giving him respect enough to let him know that the only man you want is him.

1 Timothy 3:3 HCSB

not addicted to wine, not a bully but gentle, not quarrelsome, not greedy —

1 Timothy 3:3 HCSB

not addicted to wine, not a bully but gentle, not quarrelsome, not greedy —

1 Peter 3:3 HCSB

Your beauty should not consist of outward things like elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold ornaments or fine clothes.

Now back in the day when you were dating, and you used those good looks of yours, the way you fixed your hair all up, the way you did the makeup, the clothes you wore, all this is what set your hook into him, but to keep him you have to show him how much you love him, and only him, by giving him respect enough to let him know that the only man you want is him.

Those good looks caught him, but it is going to take even more to show him that you truly love him. Lets be honest, when a man is looking for a woman he is not looking at her heart, it’s something else in that general area around the heart that he is looking at; but once you catch him to keep him that beautiful heart that is beneath that chest is what we are looking for.

For the unbelieving husband, a wife who is wearing a beautiful heart is how she shows him the love of Jesus. By having a Christ like spirit of gentleness, and not talking back he will see the Jesus that she knows.

On the same note though this unbelieving husband needs to know where this spirit comes from, that she is not just being kind, but that she is being kind because of the saving Grace she has been shown by Jesus.

He needs to know that she will go wherever her husband goes, and do whatever he asks, but she is going to follow the will and the guidance of the Holy Spirit, so he will know where this submission is coming from.

Verse 4 of , tells you exactly how to do this.

1 Peter 3:4 HCSB

Instead, it should consist of what is inside the heart with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very valuable in God’s eyes.

Verse 5, and 6 of gives us an example of a woman who showed this Godly submission to her husband, her name was Sarah.

1 Peter 3:5 HCSB

For in the past, the holy women who put their hope in God also beautified themselves in this way, submitting to their own husbands,

1 Peter 3:5–6 HCSB

For in the past, the holy women who put their hope in God also beautified themselves in this way, submitting to their own husbands, just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. You have become her children when you do what is good and are not frightened by anything alarming.

Theres that ugly word "submission" again. Let's look at this word submission that causes so much controversy in today's modern culture.The word translated submit, or submission is the Greek word hew-po-taso which means to be placed under the authority of someone. What this means is that the wife will go along with whatever her husband asks her to do, but with limits, as long as what he asks her to do does not go against what God's laws says.

Women! Don’t start hating me, or throwing things at me yet! I know today’s culture tells us differently, but scripture is pretty plain on this subject. Besides the men are not off the hook yet, you will see why later.

But, why does scripture say to do this? So, as we have already discussed that the unbelieving husband may see how a Christian should act, through his believing wife, so that the wife may be a Christian witness for the unbelieving husband.

But what if a Christian woman is married to a Christian husband, does she still have to "submit" to her husband? Yes, and there are many scriptures to back this up.

says that her desire shall be to her husband.

Genesis 3:16 HCSB

He said to the woman: I will intensify your labor pains; you will bear children in anguish. Your desire will be for your husband, yet he will rule over you.

husband is the head of the wife.

Ephesians 5:23 HCSB

for the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of the body.

She shall have no dominion over the man.

1 Timothy 2:11–12 HCSB

A woman should learn in silence with full submission. I do not allow a woman to teach or to have authority over a man; instead, she is to be silent.

Verse 6 shows wives an example of a wife who "submitted" to the authority of her husband. Sarah was Abraham's wife. Sarah's act of obedience Peter was referring to can be found in:

Genesis 18:12 HCSB

So she laughed to herself: “After I have become shriveled up and my lord is old, will I have delight?”

12 So she laughed to herself: “After I have become shriveled up and my lord is old, will I have delight?”

Sarah called her husband lord, meaning that she submitted to his authority, this is not the only place where you see Sarah submitting to his authority; you see it all the way through their story in Genesis. Two times Abraham asked her to do something that was against God's laws, and she still submitted to what he asked her to do. Abraham asked her to be his accomplice in a lie, and go along with a scheme that would protect him from being killed, and it could possibly put Sarah in danger. Now Sarah's decision to help Abraham lie to protect himself was still a sin, because it is a sin to lie, but the point is she was willing to "submit" to the authority of Abraham, because that is what God had called her to do.

Now, before I start getting stoned by all the women here in the group; let me explain why Sarah submitted to the authority of Abraham.

Now, before I start getting stoned by all the women here in the group; let me explain why Sarah submitted to the authority of Abraham. Look back at verse 5, it says "For in the past, the holy women who put their hope in God. Sarah was not putting her faith in her husband directly, she was putting her hope, her trust, and her faith in God by trusting that her husband Abraham was being led and directed by the Spirit of God, and that when he was not using God's direction, and making a mistake that God would honor her obedience, and protect her.

Look back at verse 5, it says "For in the past, the holy women who put their hope in God. Sarah was not putting her faith in her husband directly, she was putting her hope, her trust, and her faith in God.

She did this by trusting that her husband Abraham was being led and directed by the Spirit of God, and that when he was not using God's direction, and making a mistake that God would honor her obedience, and protect her.

So, now husbands before you get big headed and think that you are king, that you are this supreme ruler of the household, you are not. Christ Jesus is the King of King and Lord of lords. What we have to do is follow the guidance of our king when making decisions that affects our wives, and our families.

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Hebrews 11:8 HCSB

By faith Abraham, when he was called, obeyed and went out to a place he was going to receive as an inheritance. He went out, not knowing where he was going.

Hebrews 11:8 HCSB

By faith Abraham, when he was called, obeyed and went out to a place he was going to receive as an inheritance. He went out, not knowing where he was going.

tells us that Abraham was a man of faith. Abraham was a faithful man to God, he was not a perfect man, as a matter of fact he made a lot of mistakes, but he did the best he could to follow the will of God. Sarah, also being a woman of faith was trusting that her husband was seeking the guidance of God when he made his decisions.

So, now husbands before you get big headed and think that you are king, that you are this supreme ruler of the household, you are not. Christ Jesus is the King of Kings and Lord of lords. What we have to do is follow the guidance of our king when making decisions that affects our wives, and our families.

Look at verse 7 husbands, future husbands, men, it says: Husbands, in the same way, live with your wives with an understanding that they are the weaker natured person.

Now I know that there are some strong women out there who say they don't need a man to help them, a man to make decisions for them. I see more and more women in construction all the time. Some of them can do as much as a man can do most of the time, but when it comes down to it women are not as strong physically, and emotionally as men. I am not saying this is a bad thing,

God's design is that men and women are built differently, and they are wired differently. God gave women emotions, compassion, and a loving nature, so that they can nurture our children.

God gave women emotions, compassion, and a loving nature, so that they can nurture our children. God never intended a woman to work like they work today, to make the decisions that they are forced to make today, because the "man" of the household is not stepping up and making those decisions, but the wife has to make those decision now more than ever. Why?

God never intended a woman to work like they work today, to make the decisions that they are forced to make today, because the "man" of the household is not stepping up and making those decisions, but the wife has to make those decision now more than ever. Why?

Because we are raising men who are not real men. Men don't treat women like they should treat women. Where has chivalry gone? Men don't open the doors for women anymore, men don't want to make decisions anymore.

The enemy has used media to change the worlds perspective of who and what a husband, and father is, how he acts, how smart he is, whether he can do the job of father, and husband or not.

Ever since the late 70’s or so the husband, and father has been portrayed as a bumbling idiot, someone who is lazy, and unable to make smart decisions for the family.

Women, we are not those guys you see on television, men don’t make a liar out of me.

Men before you will get a wife to submit to you, you have to show her that you are worth submitting to. You have to show her that you have her's and the whole house's best interest in your heart.You have to show her that you are seeking, and following what God is leading you to do.

Well now that we see in scripture that God intended the husband to be in charge of the household, but before us men get to big headed lets look at what that means.

First of all you are to love your wife. She gave up her last name, she gave up her daddy for you; it is your responsibility to take care of her.

Well now that we see in scripture that God intended the husband to be in charge of the household, but before us men get to big headed lets look at what that means.

Dad’s who have given their daughters away will get this. I gave away two daughters to men, and believe me it is hard. There is a special bond between a daddy, and his precious daughter.

I don’t regret giving them to them now, I am very proud of both my son-in-laws for how they take care of my daughters.

But, but, however if I was to ever hear otherwise that they were abusive, or purposely hurting them there would be H E double L to pay.

Husband’s you don’t want your bride to go from that special love she got at home from her daddy, someone who would die for her, that would do anything for her to a home where that love is gone, and where she is not treated like the princess she grew up feeling like.

Ephesians 5:25 HCSB

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her

How do you love your wife like Christ loved the church?

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Christ loved the church so much that he died a horrible death for her.

Are you willing to die a horrible death for your wife, your family?

Husbands we might not be called to die for our family, but you get the picture; we will do anything for our wife, and family.

We are to love our wives more than any other human being.

We will protect them physically, and mentally.

Not many of us would physically or purposely hurt our wives, but what about mentally?

You would never let anyone make a spectacle of her, so you should never do it yourself.

Give her respect, courtesy, consideration, and emotional support.

This takes us back to

1 Peter 3:7 HCSB

Husbands, in the same way, live with your wives with an understanding of their weaker nature yet showing them honor as coheirs of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered.

Never cut her down in front of people no matter how funny it may seem at the time to your peers. I promise you she won’t think it is funny, and when your friends will forget about the humor she won’t forget.

Show her honor, and she will never forget it either, but will love you more for it.

1 Timothy 3:3–5 HCSB

not addicted to wine, not a bully but gentle, not quarrelsome, not greedy — one who manages his own household competently, having his children under control with all dignity. (If anyone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he take care of God’s church?)

1 Timothy 3:3–5 HCSB

1 Timothy 3:4–5 HCSB

one who manages his own household competently, having his children under control with all dignity. (If anyone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he take care of God’s church?)

Paul was giving these qualifications for the elders in the church, but it applies to all husbands, dads you are to have a big part in disciplining the kids.

I was young and dumb once. It was easy to let Nita discipline the kids while I just laid around after work. I dealt with stress, and hard work on the job. Dealing with kids was the last thing on my mind.

I was so far from being wron

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1 Timothy 5:8 HCSB

But if anyone does not provide for his own, that is his own household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

If you were to ask divorced couples where their marriage troubles began, most of them would say their problems began over money; either the lack of, or the lack of good money management.

The prior verses speak about taking care of widows, and I certainly don’t ever want to take a verse out of context; but this verse tells us that we should take care of our own, especially those who are in our own household.

Here is how the New Living Translation states it:

But those who won’t care for their relatives, especially those in their own household, have denied the true faith. Such people are worse than unbelievers.

That means that we don't cash our paycheck, and go buy whatever we want, then give our wife and kids the leftovers. We provide for our family, put some in the savings, give to God, and then, only then do we maybe purchase something for ourselves.

I think about that All State commercial where the guy is driving while his wife, and kids all have their cell phones in their hands and earbuds in their ears, and can't hear him. He says that he gets a safe driving bonus check because he doesn't use his cell phone while he is driving, and he doesn't even share that money with mom. He says that he bought a new putter, and she knows nothing about it, and it is AWESOME, and by the way I leave the toilet seat up on purpose.

Another commercial the American media is making the dad look like a selfish idiot.

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