Defrauding One another

The role of Marriage

One of the primary roles of a marriage is that of safeguarding against sin in the form of sexual fornication.

God created man with a string sexual desire, multiply.and knowing this passion that burn within each one us god declared:

Genesis 2:18 ESV

Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”

Now not everyone burn with the same temperature.

Some people, like Paul had a gift.

1 Corinthians 7:7 ESV

I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own gift from God, one of one kind and one of another.

1 cor 7

very small percentage - 0.4%

the general rule is that almost none is celibate. A desire for intimacy, connection, family are all common to everyone.

Its very important that you know this, because it would be very foolish to get married and seek to remain celibate - its a contradiction in terms. If you get married, then you cannot be celibate.

And so most people experience sexual desire and leads them to marriage.

1 Corinthians 7:9 ESV

But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

The Emphasis in Marriage

One of the side-effects of living as fallen people in a fallen world is self centredness. and as a result most people live their entire life in a battle and focus on what feel are “their rights”.

Its a victim mentality.

We have in our society an obsession with rights, and a total neglect of duty.

This is not what God teaches us at all.

Philippians 2:3 ESV

Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.

now when we apply this secular obsession with “my rights” to marriage you end up with a true recipe for disaster.

What are my rights? - Discord, division, competition.

What are my duties? - harmony, love, submission and unity.

Philippians 2:4 ESV

Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.

The key to a blessed marriage is to ask?

What are my wife’s things?

What are my husbands things?

What are your spouse’s things?

Husband:

1: leader

2: Provider

Protector

Comforter

Wife:

1: Mentor

2: Witness

3: Example

Sexual Context:

1 Corinthians 7:3 ESV

The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband.

Lets talk about this rendering for just a moment and show its seriousness in marriage

animal abuser - Child molester - body neglector

1 Corinthians 7:4 ESV

For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.

1 coe 7 4

This leads to the most common form of sexual immorality within marriage:

1 Corinthians 7:5 ESV

Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

1 cor 7

3 things:

1: Mutual Consent

2: A predetermined set time period:

3: For the purpose of spiritual Dedication

No to any question = sexual abuse towards your spouse.

Reasons and Solutions:

Men - Impotence - 52% of men.

Cause are varied:

There are a lot of reasons you can get ED, from high blood pressure and diabetes to kidney disease and prostate cancer. It could even be due to an injury to your penis, prostate, bladder, and pelvis.

But it’s not always physical. Psychological and emotional issues are sometimes to blame, as well. Stress, depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem can cause ED. Even nervousness about how you perform sexually can make it happen.

Some medications may make getting an erection difficult, too.

Another Reason: Porn - Erectile Dysfunction or Delayed Ejaculation = Embarrassment.

Woman - Hypoacyive sexual Desire.

Loss of sexual desire, known in medical terms as hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD), is the most common form of sexual dysfunction among women of all ages.

A recent study showed that nearly one-third of women aged 18 to 59 suffer from a lost interest in sex, and it's not all in their heads.

Unlike men's main sexual complaint, erectile dysfunction, women's biggest sexual problem is caused by a combination of both mental and physical factors, which aren't likely to be cured by merely popping a pill.

Causes:

Solutions:

Interpersonal relationship issues. Partner performance problems, lack of emotional satisfaction with the relationship, the birth of a child, and becoming a caregiver for a loved one can decrease sexual desire.

Sociocultural influences. Job stress, peer pressure, and media images of sexuality can negatively influence sexual desire.

Low testosterone . Testosterone affects sexual drive in both men and women. Testosterone levels peak in women's mid-20s and then steadily decline until menopause, when they drop dramatically.

Medical problems: Mental illnesses such as depression, or medical conditions, such as fibroids, and thyroid disorders, impact a woman's sexual drive both mentally and physically.

Medications : Certain antidepressants, blood pressure lowering drugs, and oral contraceptives can lower sexual drive in many ways, such as decreasing available testosterone levels or affecting blood flow.

Age. Blood levels of androgens fall continuously in women as they age.

Solutions:

Talk about it.

Proverbs 11:14 ESV

Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.

For men the problem is easier to solve. Hormone Injections will turn you from a pony into a stallion. Plenty of options.

For the woman - there are medication that can help, but a professional specialising in sexual disorders can be very helpful.