Biblical Counseling #5

Opening

Chapter 13 Ready to Restore

Follow Through: Working The plan

Supervising - teaching - and training

Supervision - walking through issues with people and encouraging them when done well and correcting them when not doing so well

Generalizing principles of the Word of God

Ask for examples?

Chapter 14 Ready to Restore

Using Homework

Read full paragraph that is underlined on pg 72

Review

Who is the most important person in the counseling session?

What is the goal of Biblical Counseling?

Restore to usefulness What is Usefulness?

What are the 2 reasons we break authority?

if it is immoral

if it is illegal

​ NKJV

And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men,

What are the 3 parts of Biblical counseling(page 9)?

1. Change

2. Confrontation

3. Concern

Process of first Session(page 28):

1.Generate Hope

2.Gather Data

3.Negotiate agenda

4.Assigning Homework

5.Gaining Commitment

At end of session and during the session have them repeat to you what they heard or are hearing from you.

A few more things on the heart of Biblical Counseling:

You can only help those want to be helped

People want to be heard

People want our time

Ask the question how does this rambling without saying rambling answer the question I just asked

Discern between heart felt emotions that need to be let out and ramblings

How do we discern between demon possession and mental illness?

When you see change point it out and compliment it

Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage

How doe we counsel people that want to be married?

That want to divorce? Hard heart

That want to remarry?

Genesis God made them male and female

understanding who we are

understanding who our spouse is

understanding each others roles

top issues in marriage problems

sex

finances

parenting

in laws

most can be filtered through these problems

Role reversal

Salvation

Personal walk with the Lord

Submission vs Agreement

“Unconditional love does not mean unconditional expectance of behavior”

Ephesians 5:33 NKJV

Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Love and Respect

5 love languages (these are 3 base issues)

Parenting

Chores

Discipline

fear of parenting

not my word but God’s word