Nouthetic Counseling 4

READY TO RESTORE

Lesson Objective:

1 ASSUMES YOU WILL ENCOUNTER OTHERS CAUGHT IN SIN

anticipates this, and that you can’t avoid it.

1 You can think of such a person now

You can think of such a person now.

2 “Caught” so as not to be able to disentangle himself from sin

“Caught” so as not to be able to disentangle himself from sin.

“In a trespass” (perhaps in one of those trespasses mentioned in 5:19-21)

B “In a trespass” (perhaps in one of those trespasses mentioned in 5:19-21)

2 GOD TELLS YOU TO HELP

He says you are responsible to “restore” him (a requirement, not a request).

B You may not walk away and leave him to extricate himself.

You may not walk away and leave him to extricate himself.

1 Often people can’t

Often people can’t.

A third party is essential to help them.

2 A third party is essential to help them

3 If no one else is doing so, and you are aware of his problem, you must!

If no one else is doing so, and you are aware of his problem, you must!

C You cannot protest “It’s none of my business.

You cannot protest “It’s none of my business.

Note—“You all”.

1 Note—“You all”

God made it your business.

2 God made it your business

You are you brother’s keeper.

3 You are you brother’s keeper

D “But the elders or pastor ought to do it.”

“But the elders or pastor ought to do it.”

Yes, but not only them.

1 Yes, but not only them

Perhaps only you know.

2 Perhaps only you know

You are equipped to do so: “You who have the Spirit”

3 You are equipped to do so: “You who have the Spirit”

3 GOD WANTS YOU TO RESTORE YOUR BROTHER

Not gossip, avoid, complain, or act superior to him.

B This passage does not even say to “pray about it”

This passage does not even say to “pray about it”

Prayer is not punting.

1 Prayer is not punting

2 Prayer is good

Prayer is good.

But prayer does not let you off the hook.

● But prayer does not let you off the hook

● Pray that God will give you the wisdom to help effectively

Pray that God will give you the wisdom to help effectively.

But “restore”.

C But “restore”

1 There is hope for your brother, no matter what he did

There is hope for your brother, no matter what he did.

2 In Corinth, the incestuous man was restored ()

In Corinth, the incestuous man was restored ().

There is hope for you to restore him since you have the resources of the Word, the Spirit, and the church.

3 There is hope for you to restore him since you have the resources of the Word, the Spirit, and the church

“Restore” (katartizo) means “to mend”.

D “Restore” (katartizo) means “to mend”

1 Word used of fishermen mending their torn nets

Word used of fishermen mending their torn nets.

Also of physicians mending a broken limb.

2 Also of physicians mending a broken limb

3 Idea: to mend so as to make it functional again

Idea: to mend so as to make it functional again.

4 Cf. —he is restored so he can carry his share of the “burden”

Cf. —he is restored so he can carry his share of the “burden”

4 GOD TELLS YOU HOW TO APPROACH THE OFFENDER

“In the spirit (attitude) of meekness”.

A “In the spirit (attitude) of meekness”

Meekness is a piece of the Spirit’s fruit.

1 Meekness is a piece of the Spirit’s fruit

“I may need your help next month”.

2 “I may need your help next month”

Show concern for his welfare.

3 Show concern for his welfare

Only believers can be truly “meek”.

4 Only believers can be truly “meek”

But be careful.

B But be careful

Heed Paul’s warning: “watching out for yourself . . .”

1 Heed Paul’s warning: “watching out for yourself . . .”

Pride goes before a fall.

2 Pride goes before a fall

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All are capable of the same sins—if a brother can fall this way, so can you!

3 All are capable of the same sins—if a brother can fall this way, so can you!

A drowning person (an illustration) can pull another person under if the rescuer is not careful

4 A drowning person

can pull another person under if the rescuer is not careful

5 GOD CALLS THIS AN ACT OF LOVE

You can say “I love my neighbor”.

But do you? This is one proof of whether or not you do.

B But do you? This is one proof of whether or not you do

The rich young ruler talked about keeping the commandments; the good Samaritan showed it.

C The rich young ruler talked about keeping the commandments; the good Samaritan showed it.

THE PUT OFF/PUT ON DYNAMICS

Lesson Objective:

1 MAN HAS 2 PROBLEMS FROM BIRTH

A Guilt

Our standing before God

1 Our standing before God

Justification is the solution for guilt

2 Justification is the solution for guilt

Corruption

B Corruption

That twistedness that manifests itself in life.

1 That twistedness that manifests itself in life

2 Regeneration and Sanctification are the solutions for corruption

Regeneration and Sanctification are the solutions for corruption.

A transformation of his basic nature.

● A transformation of his basic nature

● To become able to live in a righteous and holy manner

To become able to live in a righteous and holy manner.

2 MAN’S HABIT CAPACITY IS KEY

Consider what life would be like if we had no habits.

B The habit capacity can be used for good or evil

The habit capacity can be used for good or evil.

God graciously gave us this capacity, but as sinners we misuse it.

1 God graciously gave us this capacity, but as sinners we misuse it.

2 We learned wrong responses to life before we were save

We learned wrong responses to life before we were save.

3 And we carried many over into our new life

And we carried many over into our new life. , .

Ephesians 4:1 KJV 1900

I therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you that ye walk worthy of the vocation wherewith ye are called,

Ephesians 4:17 KJV 1900

This I say therefore, and testify in the Lord, that ye henceforth walk not as other Gentiles walk, in the vanity of their mind,

Paul refers to this habit capacity as a “walk.”

C Paul refers to this habit capacity as a “walk.”

We all have a different style of walking.

1 We all have a different style of walking

Anastrophe means “gait” (one’s walking style).

2 Anastrophe means “gait” (one’s walking style)

Paul’s reference to “walk” refers to styles of living—habits.

3 Paul’s reference to “walk” refers to styles of living—habits

Consider what would happen if you did not have a habit capacity.

4 Consider what would happen if you did not have a habit capacity

This habit capacity can be used for good or evil

D This habit capacity can be used for good or evil

3 WHY HABITS ARE A GREAT PROBLEM

They are the immediate C.A.U.S.E. for much of the sin in our lives.

That is because habitual actions are;

B That is because habitual actions are

Comfortable

1 Comfortable

Automatic

2 Automatic

Unconscious

3 Unconscious

Skillfully done

4 Skillfully done

Entrenched (Embedded)

5 Entrenched (Embedded)

4 THE HABIT DYNAMICS

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“You were taught”—are you teaching these things? Paul did.

A “You were taught”—are you teaching these things? Paul did.

As believers we have been changed in God’s sight but we must change in actuality (Sanctification).

B As believers we have been changed in God’s sight but we must change in actuality (Sanctification)

This will require an understanding of the put off/put on dynamic Paul explains here.

C This will require an understanding of the put off/put on dynamic Paul explains here

Change is a two-factored process;

D Change is a two-factored process

Habits cannot be simply broken, they must be replaced.

1 Habits cannot be simply broken, they must be replaced

This process takes both time and effort.

2This process takes both time and effort

This is done by renewing the mind (verse 23).

3 This is done by renewing the mind (verse 23)

Ananeoo.

● Ananeoo

To make “youthful” again

● To make “youthful” again

5 NOTE SOME EXAMPLES

When is a door not a door? When it’s _______________ !

When it is something else.

Lying;

B Lying

When is he no longer a liar?

1 When is he no longer a liar?

2 When he becomes a “truther!” (v. 25)

When he becomes a “truther!” (v. 25).

Stealing

C Stealing

When is he no longer a thief?

1 When is he no longer a thief?

When he becomes a giver! (v. 28)

2 When he becomes a giver! (v. 28)

Anger (v. 26).

D Anger (v. 26)

Proverbs

1 Proverbs

The Christian Counselor’s New Testament

2 The Christian Counselor’s New Testament