Marriage God's Way: To the Man

Intro

Explanation

Propositional Statement

Ephesians 5:25

Ephesians 5:25–29 NIV

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—

a. when I talk to people about how much Jesus loves them the number one sign is that He gave His life so that we could be in a relationship with us.

Ephesians 5:25 NIV

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

Ephesians 5:25–29 NIV

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—

Love - Agape

love your wives,

b. Is the importance of your relationship with your wife

Ephesians 5:25 NIV

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

that big? Are you willing to give up everything to make sure that your relationship with her is solid?

just as Christ loved the church

Love - Agape

Ephesians 5:25 NIV

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

Dictionary of Biblical Languages with Semantic Domains: Greek (New Testament) 26 ἀγαπάω

26 ἀγαπάω (agapaō): vb.; ≡ DBLHebr 170; Str 25; TDNT 1.21—1. LN 25.43 love, (Jn 13:34–35); 2. LN 25.44 show love, demonstrate love (1Jn 3:17); 3. LN 25.104 take pleasure in, to love based on its regarded value (Jn 12:43)

love your wives,

just as Christ loved the church

Dictionary of Biblical Languages with Semantic Domains: Greek (New Testament) 26 ἀγαπάω

26 ἀγαπάω (agapaō): vb.; ≡ DBLHebr 170; Str 25; TDNT 1.21—1. LN 25.43 love, (Jn 13:34–35); 2. LN 25.44 show love, demonstrate love (1Jn 3:17); 3. LN 25.104 take pleasure in, to love based on its regarded value (Jn 12:43)

Regarded value

Regarded Value

Love - agape - He was willing to pay the ultimate price for his bride - the church

Love - agape - He was willing to pay the ultimate price for his bride - the church

1. Sometimes you will catch me saying that wives have this difficult job of submitting to to a man who is not worthy.

Sometimes you will catch me saying that wives have this difficult job of submitting to to a man who is not worthy.

2. The church did not deserve it.

The church did not deserve it.

a)I am NOT saying your wife doesn't deserve it, but I am saying you have to give it no matter what you thing she deserves.

I am NOT saying your wife doesn't deserve it, but I am saying you have to give it no matter what you thing she deserves.

He was everything and became nothing to make her everything.

Let me tell you, you are not "the man" of your household... Christ is.

a) Let me tell you, you are not "the man" of your household... Christ is.

b) Your job is not to exercise dominion, you job is to exercise a love so great that she should never doubt it.

Your job is not to exercise dominion, you job is to exercise a love so great that she should never doubt it.

Pay the Price

2. Your job is to pay the ultimate price.

Pay the Price

when I talk to people about how much Jesus loves them the number one sign is that He gave His life so that we could be in a relationship with us.

when I talk to people about how much Jesus loves them the number one sign is that He gave His life so that we could be in a relationship with us.

a. when I talk to people about how much Jesus loves them the number one sign is that He gave His life so that we could be in a relationship with us.

Is the importance of your relationship with your wife that big?

Is the importance of your relationship with your wife that big?

b. Is the importance of your relationship with your wife

Are you willing to give up everything to make sure that your relationship with her is solid?

Are you willing to give up everything to make sure that your relationship with her is solid?

that big? Are you willing to give up everything to make sure that your relationship with her is solid?

If you are willing.... Are you doing?

Be the Head

Ephesians 5:26 NIV

to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word,

Ephesians 5:26 NIV

to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word,

Eph

You are to be the spiritual head of your house. Whether they follow or not.

1. You are to be the spiritual head of your house. Whether they follow or not.

Prayer.

Bible reading

Evangelism

Fellowship

Don’t Be Critical

Ephesians 5:27 NIV

and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.

Ephesians 5:27 NIV

and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.

without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 

28 

The church is not without wrinkle or blemish as a matter of fact, the church has an uncountable amount of wrinkles and blemishes.

love your wives,

The church's righteousness is as filthy rags...

1. The church is not without wrinkle or blemish as a matter of fact, the church has an uncountable amount of wrinkles and blemishes.

Psalm 103:12 NIV

as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us.

Psalm 103:12 NIV

as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us.

2. The church's righteousness is as filthy rags...

When you are critical, you are wrong. Your wife is absolutely perfect for you. She is not just sufficient, she is perfect. And it's your job to do everything in your power to make her feel that way

Love Yourself

4. When you are critical, you are wrong. Your wife is absolutely perfect for you. She is not just sufficient, she is perfect. And it's your job to do everything in your power to make her feel that way

Ephesians 5:28 NIV

In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

Eph

Ephesians 5:28 NIV

In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

Jesus wanted what he wanted and was willing to do everything to get it.

In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies.

He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 

If you think Jesus did not love His own body, one only has to look at His prayer in the garden of Gethsemane.

1. Jesus wanted what he wanted and was willing to do everything to get it.

2. If you think Jesus did not love His own body, one only has to look at His prayer in the garden of Gethsemane.

Asked for the cup to pass but submitted to the will of God (for the love of His bride) then the stress of what he was facing caused him so much stress that His capillaries burst.

a) Asked for the cup to pass but submitted to the will of God (for the love of His bride) then the stress of what he was facing caused him so much stress that His capillaries burst.

Ephesians 5:29 NIV

After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—

just as Christ loved the church

After all, no one ever hated their own body,

Ephesians 5:29 NIV

After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—

but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—

Yup... It's the man’s job. Can your wife help? Sure. But it's your job.

1. Yup... It's your job. Can your wife help? Sure. But it's your job.

1. Yup... It's your job. Can your wife help? Sure. But it's your job.

The Bar is Set

1. We talked once before about how this passage is really about the perfect groom Christ - and the church.

2. Men you are not Christ - breathe a sigh of relief.

3. Your wife is not the church.

4. However, the bar is set, the goal is defined, if you haven't met it... there is still work to do.

1. Sometimes you will catch me saying that wives have this difficult job of submitting to to a man who is not worthy.

2. The church did not deserve it.

a)I am NOT saying your wife doesn't deserve it, but I am saying you have to give it no matter what you thing she deserves.

3. He was everything and became nothing

a) Let me tell you, you are not "the man" of your household... Christ is.

b) Your job is not to exercise dominion, you job is to exercise a love so great that she should never doubt it.

and gave himself up for her 26

2. Your job is to pay the ultimate price.

a. when I talk to people about how much Jesus loves them the number one sign is that He gave His life so that we could be in a relationship with us.

b. Is the importance of your relationship with your wife

that big? Are you willing to give up everything to make sure that your relationship with her is solid?

 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word,

1. You are to be the spiritual head of your house. Whether they follow or not.

prayer.

Bible reading

Evengelism

Fellowship

27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church,

without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 

1. The church is not without wrinkle or blemish as a matter of fact, the church has an uncountable amount of wrinkles and blemishes.

2. The church's righteousness is as filthy rags...

3.

4. When you are critical, you are wrong. Your wife is absolutely perfect for you. She is not just sufficient, she is perfect. And it's your job to do everything in your power to make her feel that way

In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies.

He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 

1. Jesus wanted what he wanted and was willing to do everything to get it.

2. If you thing Jesus did not love His own body, one only has to look at His prayer in the garden of Gethsemane.

a) Asked for the cup to pass but submitted to the will of God (for the love of His bride) then the stress of what he was facing caused him so much stress that His capillaries burst.

After all, no one ever hated their own body,

but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—

1. Yup... It's your job. Can your wife help? Sure. But it's your job.

Conclusion

1. We talked once before about how this passage is really about the perfect groom Christ - and the church.

2. Men you are not Christ - breathe a sigh of relief.

3. Your wife is not the church.

4. However, the bar is set, the goal is defined, if you haven't met it... there is still work to do.

25 Husbands,

just as Christ loved the church

Love - agape - He was willing to pay the ultimate price for his bride - the church

1. Sometimes you will catch me saying that wives have this difficult job of submitting to to a man who is not worthy.

2. The church did not deserve it.

a)I am NOT saying your wife doesn't deserve it, but I am saying you have to give it no matter what you thing she deserves.

3. He was everything and became nothing

a) Let me tell you, you are not "the man" of your household... Christ is.

b) Your job is not to exercise dominion, you job is to exercise a love so great that she should never doubt it.

and gave himself up for her 26

2. Your job is to pay the ultimate price.

a. when I talk to people about how much Jesus loves them the number one sign is that He gave His life so that we could be in a relationship with us.

b. Is the importance of your relationship with your wife

that big? Are you willing to give up everything to make sure that your relationship with her is solid?

 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word,

1. You are to be the spiritual head of your house. Whether they follow or not.

prayer.

Bible reading

Evengelism

Fellowship

27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church,

without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 

1. The church is not without wrinkle or blemish as a matter of fact, the church has an uncountable amount of wrinkles and blemishes.

2. The church's righteousness is as filthy rags...

3.

4. When you are critical, you are wrong. Your wife is absolutely perfect for you. She is not just sufficient, she is perfect. And it's your job to do everything in your power to make her feel that way

In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies.

He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 

1. Jesus wanted what he wanted and was willing to do everything to get it.

2. If you thing Jesus did not love His own body, one only has to look at His prayer in the garden of Gethsemane.

a) Asked for the cup to pass but submitted to the will of God (for the love of His bride) then the stress of what he was facing caused him so much stress that His capillaries burst.

fter all, no one ever hated their own body,

but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—

1. Yup... It's your job. Can your wife help? Sure. But it's your job.

Conclusion:

1. We talked once before about how this passage is really about the perfect groom Christ - and the church.

2. Men you are not Christ - breathe a sigh of relief.

3. Your wife is not the church.

4. However, the bar is set, the goal is defined, if you haven't met it... there is still work to do.

Love - agape - He was willing to pay the ultimate price for his bride - the church

1. Sometimes you will catch me saying that wives have this difficult job of submitting to to a man who is not worthy.

2. The church did not deserve it.

a)I am NOT saying your wife doesn't deserve it, but I am saying you have to give it no matter what you thing she deserves.

3. He was everything and became nothing

a) Let me tell you, you are not "the man" of your household... Christ is.

b) Your job is not to exercise dominion, you job is to exercise a love so great that she should never doubt it.

and gave himself up for her 26

2. Your job is to pay the ultimate price.

a. when I talk to people about how much Jesus loves them the number one sign is that He gave His life so that we could be in a relationship with us.

b. Is the importance of your relationship with your wife

that big? Are you willing to give up everything to make sure that your relationship with her is solid?

 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word,

1. You are to be the spiritual head of your house. Whether they follow or not.

prayer.

Bible reading

Evengelism

Fellowship

Ephesians 5:27 NIV

and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.

27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church,

The church is not without wrinkle or blemish as a matter of fact, the church has an uncountable amount of wrinkles and blemishes.

without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 

The church is not without wrinkle or blemish as a matter of fact, the church has an uncountable amount of wrinkles and blemishes.

The church's righteousness is as filthy rags...

2. The church's righteousness is as filthy rags...

Psalm 103:12 NIV

as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us.

When you are critical, you are wrong. Your wife is absolutely perfect for you. She is not just sufficient, she is perfect. And it's your job to do everything in your power to make her feel that way

3.

4. When you are critical, you are wrong. Your wife is absolutely perfect for you. She is not just sufficient, she is perfect. And it's your job to do everything in your power to make her feel that way

Ephesians 5:28 NIV

In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

Ephesians 5:28

Jesus wanted what he wanted and was willing to do everything to get it.

He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 

If you think Jesus did not love His own body, one only has to look at His prayer in the garden of Gethsemane.

1. Jesus wanted what he wanted and was willing to do everything to get it.

2. If you thing Jesus did not love His own body, one only has to look at His prayer in the garden of Gethsemane.

Asked for the cup to pass but submitted to the will of God (for the love of His bride) then the stress of what he was facing caused him so much stress that His capillaries burst.

a) Asked for the cup to pass but submitted to the will of God (for the love of His bride) then the stress of what he was facing caused him so much stress that His capillaries burst.

Ephesians 5:29 NIV

After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—

Eph 5:29

Yup... It's your job. Can your wife help? Sure. But it's your job

but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—

1. Yup... It's your job. Can your wife help? Sure. But it's your job.

Conclusion

Conclusion

1. We talked once before about how this passage is really about the perfect groom Christ - and the church.

2. Men you are not Christ - breathe a sigh of relief.

3. Your wife is not the church.

4. However, the bar is set, the goal is defined, if you haven't met it... there is still work to do.