Dealing With an Angry Child
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Parenting 101
Parenting 101
Dealing with an Angry Child
Dealing with an Angry Child
Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools.
A violent passion of the mind excited by a real or supposed injury; usually accompanied with a propensity to take vengeance, or to obtain satisfaction from the offending party
A child should be disciplined for two things:
A child should be disciplined for two things:
Direct disobedience
A bad attitude
I. General information and commandments about this sin:
I. General information and commandments about this sin:
Make no friendship with an angry man; And with a furious man thou shalt not go:
pro 22.245
Do not allow your child to develop friendships with children who are quick to anger.
He that is slow to wrath is of great understanding: But he that is hasty of spirit exalteth folly.
An angry man demonstrates his foolishness for all to see.
Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.
What does anger accomplish?
Note the consequences of the child's angry actions and discuss them together.
II. What happens, or should happen to an angry person:
II. What happens, or should happen to an angry person:
A. An angry person is brought to shame:
Go not forth hastily to strive, Lest thou know not what to do in the end thereof, When thy neighbour hath put thee to shame.
Learn to discipline an angry child. Stop him in the middle of his outburst, remove him from the situation. Require confession and asking of forgiveness.
Learn to discipline an angry child. Stop him in the middle of his outburst, remove him from the situation. Require confession and asking of forgiveness.
B. An angry person stirs up strife.
A wrathful man stirreth up strife: But he that is slow to anger appeaseth strife.
Remove the angry person and discipline. If he is allowed to continually express his anger without consequence, he will destroy the peace of the entire household.
C. An angry person will suffer punishment.
A man of great wrath shall suffer punishment: For if thou deliver him, yet thou must do it again.
Be consistent and always disciplining an angry child. Start with the temper tantrums typical of the young toddler whose desires are thwarted. We can't overlook these outbursts, considering them simply a "stage" he is going through. He would just graduate to another "stage" of uncontrolled anger as he grows older, unless he is taught to control is anger and forfeit his "rights."
III. To what is the angry man compared:
III. To what is the angry man compared:
A. A city without walls.
He that hath no rule over his own spirit Is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.
A city without walls is unprotected, without resistance to the enemy (temptation). A city without walls is vulnerable to attack.
B. Anger is heavier than stone or sand.
A stone is heavy, and the sand weighty; But a fool’s wrath is heavier than them both.
Fill a bucket with sand or rocks, and have the child it around for a while.
Wrath is cruel, and anger is outrageous; But who is able to stand before envy?
C. Anger is like water gushing over a dam.
The beginning of strife is as when one letteth out water: Therefore leave off contention, before it be meddled with.
With sand or mud, construct a network of a creek and a dam. Flood with a hose or a bucket of water. Let the child note what happens when the water begins to go over the dam and how destructive it is.
IV. Blessings of the man with self-control:
IV. Blessings of the man with self-control:
A. It is an honor to cease from strife.
It is an honour for a man to cease from strife: But every fool will be meddling.
For the child who is learning to control his temper, pretty present him with something special such as a medal of honor, a certificate or maybe a homemade patch on his coat.
To cease from strife requires humility, and in it states that the humble shall be exalted. Find some way to honor or exalt the child that is winning the victory over anger.
B. Will inherit the earth.
For evildoers shall be cut off: But those that wait upon the Lord, they shall inherit the earth.
Make a special deposit into the child's long-term savings.
Make it clear to your child that his share of the family inheritance is contingent upon him demonstrating self-control in the control of his anger.
V. Stories that illustrate the consequences of anger.
V. Stories that illustrate the consequences of anger.
A. Cain-Genesis 4:5-Led to murder.
B. Moses-Exodus 20:10-Struck the rock, kept from the Promised Land.
C. Nebuchadnezzer-Daniel 3:13-19-Attempted to murder Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego.
D. Esau-Genesis 27:45-planned to murder Jacob.
VI. Verses to memorize:
VI. Verses to memorize:
pr 14.
He that is soon angry dealeth foolishly: And a man of wicked devices is hated.
The heart of the wise teacheth his mouth, And addeth learning to his lips.
He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; And he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.
pr
He that hath knowledge spareth his words: And a man of understanding is of an excellent spirit.
The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; And it is his glory to pass over a transgression.
pr
Whoso keepeth his mouth and his tongue Keepeth his soul from troubles.
Whoso keepeth his mouth and his tongue Keepeth his soul from troubles.
ps
Set a watch, O Lord, before my mouth; Keep the door of my lips.
By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.
By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.
Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
1 cor 13.45
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
Conclusion:
Conclusion:
Be consistent with your punishment.
Don’t discipline when you are angry. Remember we cannot expect our children to do something we are not doing.
Teach your children how to behave, don’t expect the school, Sunday school, daycare, etc. to do it. It is your responsibility.
Remember: discipline for bad attitude and direct disobedience.