A Teaching Father

Deuteronomy 6:6–7 KJV 1900

6 And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: 7 And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.

Deuteronomy 6:6 KJV 1900

6 And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart:

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4 Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God is one Lord: 5 And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might. 6 And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: 7 And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. 8 And thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thine hand, and they shall be as frontlets between thine eyes. 9 And thou shalt write them upon the posts of thy house, and on thy gates.

Scripture indicates the role and responsibilities of fathers, and shows how God can be thought of as a loving father, who directs and guides his children.[1]

Everything we know or learned was taught!

Dr. Clarence Sexton – “more things are caught than taught”

Dads- weather like it or not you are a teacher!

o How you treat your wife

o Your faithfulness to church

o Your time you spend in God’s Word

Many dads are excited that they taught their son or daughter to throw a ball , catch a fish hit or a golf ball!

Illustration – My dad sports, Ga. Tech football ….

He also was a man of the Word and a Man of Church.

Culture has ridiculed fathers – dumb, effeminate

2 And the things that thou hast heard of me among many witnesses, the same commit thou to faithful men, who shall be able to teach others also.

According to the U.S. Census Bureau, 24 million children in America -- one out of three -- live in biological father-absent homes.

Consequently, there is a "father factor" in nearly all of the social issues facing America today.

Children in father-absent homes are almost four times more likely to be poor. In 2011, 12 percent of children in married-couple families were living in poverty, compared to 44 percent of children in mother-only families.

A 2002 Department of Justice survey of 7,000 inmates revealed that 39% of jail inmates lived in mother-only households.

But there are nay absent Dad’s that are in the Home but not spiritually there!

Its becoming almost rare that I see a dad take the spiritual initiative with their children!

A recent sermon a local church in Erie the pastor said “after age 12 my kids can make up their mind whether they go to church” an absent Dad!

The way the world views fatherhood!

NY Times

My wife and I didn’t get married until we were in our 30s, and didn’t have our first child until five years after that. We were both well-educated, with great jobs, and we lived a jet-set lifestyle: apartment downtown, busy jobs, etc. We now have two kids, ages 4 and 1.

No matter how well prepared I thought I was, I was not prepared for the sheer magnitude of changes to my life.

Being the go-to guy at work, who can jump on a plane at a moment’s notice to go meet a client: gone.

Working on my master’s degree with evening classes: gone.

Playing on a local basketball league: gone.

Playing golf on Saturdays and lazy Sunday mornings: gone.

Living in a bohemian loft apartment: nope, now its a house in the suburbs with a 45-minute commute.

No more personal projects, like the book I wanted to write, or starting a consulting business on the side, or training to run a marathon: all gone.

So if I knew then what I know now, I might have only had one child, or zero.

I feel like I’ve missed so much personal potential to be successful with my career and life. No matter how great my kids will grow up to be, I’ll never write that book or start that business. And only Steph can look at herself and decide if the sacrifice, and the changing of your entire life’s goals and especially the day-to-day aspect, are worth it.

Regards, A Father in Florida

A Christian Father – Billy Sunday

His three sons engaged in many of the activities he preached against, Their oldest son George, rescued from financial ruin by the Sundays, committed suicide in 1933.[78]

Billy Died with many regrets

Biblical Role of Fathers

I Provide for His Children –

1 Timothy 5:8 KJV 1900

8 But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.

Finding mature Christian men for young girls is challenging!

Financially Providing

Financially Providing

8 But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.

But the bible says the man is to be the provider at home.

This does not mean the wife should not work.

The woman definitely provided income for her family.

Ann - worked almost all the time we have been married.

Dads – help your children find a marketable skill.

Young Men Tips – obtain a marketable SKILL in our society .

Get off you video games and study

Always look out for changes in company.

Example 3d printing of parts and manufacturing will totally change most work force.. Are you ready for changes

There is nothing wrong in bettering yourself – in your marketable skills

II Loving Your Children

9 Or what man is there of you, whom if his son ask bread, will he give him a stone? 10 Or if he ask a fish, will he give him a serpent? 11 If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children, how much more shall your Father which is in heaven give good things to them that ask him?

Love is spelled Time, Training and Take Notice!

Loving your kids requires

A) Time

Send Time with your Kids:

16 Redeeming the time, because the days are evil.

You can’t get it back!

Illustration – boys asked mom how much and hour His dad made?

I am not talking about watching TV !

Work hard and provide then spend time!

Girls – they want you attention dad . If not they will find someone that will give her attention ….

Every funeral I have ever done . Children will remember the time their fathers spent with them.

Be patient your kids are not adults and mess things up; break things and make bad decisions….

I never regret the time I spent with my kids

Throwing the football with Joe

Plying the girls fort in the backyard

Loving your kids requires

A) Time

B) Training – Dads Biblical Training -

109 times used in the bible almost exclusively used for men teaching their sons.

(KJV 1900) 2 I will open my mouth in a parable: I will utter dark sayings of old: 3Which we have heard and known, And our fathers have told us. 4 We will not hide them from their children, Shewing to the generation to come The praises of the Lord, and his strength, And his wonderful works that he hath done. 5 For he established a testimony in Jacob, And appointed a law in Israel, Which he commanded our fathers, That they should make them known to their children: 6 That the generation to come might know them, even the children which should be born; Who should arise and declare them to their children:

Part of Biblical training – is letting your children see the works of the Lord.

And Joshua the son of Nun, the servant of the Lord, died, being an hundred and ten years old. 9 And they buried him in the border of his inheritance in Timnath-heres, in the mount of Ephraim, on the north side of the hill Gaash.

10 And also all that generation were gathered unto their fathers: and there arose another generation after them, which knew not the Lord, nor yet the works which he had done for Israel. 11 And the children of Israel did evil in the sight of the Lord, and served Baalim: 12 And they forsook the Lord God of their fathers, which brought them out of the land of Egypt, and followed other gods, of the gods of the people that were round about them, and bowed themselves unto them, and provoked the Lord to anger. 13 And they forsook the Lord, and served Baal and Ashtaroth.

Have your kids seen the works of the Lord?

A praying Dad- catch you praying

A serving Dad – see you active in the church

A sacrificing dad – tithe (kids know the priority of the dad)

A Caring dad – concern for others (city mission)

A Christian dad Trans his kids.

Loving your kids requires

A) Time

B) Training – Dads Biblical Training

C) Take Notice (pay attention)

1 Peter 4:8 KJV 1900

8 And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins.

Proverbs 13:24 KJV 1900

24 He that spareth his rod hateth his son: But he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

You must Take Notice Discipline- 24 He that spareth his rod hateth his son: But he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

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You must Take Notice Discipline- 24 He that spareth his rod hateth his son: But he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

You must Take Notice Discipline- 24 He that spareth his rod hateth his son: But he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

You must take notice to know desires and wants

· Trisha –

· Joe

· Colleen

· Sarah

You must Take Notice to forgive and ask for forgiveness - forgiveness

The freeing of a person from guilt and its consequences, including punishment; usually as an act of favour, compassion or love, with the aim of restoring a broken personal relationship. Forgiveness can involve both the remission of punishment and the cancellation of debts[2]

3 Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him. 4 And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him.

Say I am sorry and I forgive …..

III The Rights of Fathers

Exodus 20:12 KJV 1900

12 Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.

To be honoured by their children pp See also ; pp ; ; pp pp ;

To be obeyed by their children

20 Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.

The joy of fathers

3 Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: And the fruit of the womb is his reward. 4 As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; So are children of the youth. 5 Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: They shall not be ashamed, But they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.

Go tell you dad you love Him and are praying for him

What Am I asking you to know – the father has a large role to play!

What Am I asking you to do ? Love you dad and pray for him….

To be honoured by their children pp See also ; pp ; ; pp pp ;

To be obeyed by their children

20 Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.

The joy of fathers 3 Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: And the fruit of the womb is his reward. 4 As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; So are children of the youth. 5 Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: They shall not be ashamed, But they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.

Go tell you dad you love Him and are praying for him

What Am I asking you to know – the father has a large role to play!

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[2] Manser, M. H. (2009). Dictionary of Bible Themes: The Accessible and Comprehensive Tool for Topical Studies. London: Martin Manser.