Divorce
divorce
Matthew 5:31-32 “Furthermore it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ 32 But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery
Matthew 19:8-9
He who divorces his wife except for marital unfaithfulness and marries another commits adultery
We see from the previous 2 pasasages that remarrage after divorce is adultery unless adultery takes place prior to divorce
First -we see if a man divorces his wife he cause her to commit adultery if she remarries
NEXT we see if a man divorces his wife and marries another he commits adultery
In Luke 16:18 we see both thoughts joined together
Next Mark 10:10-12 So He said to them, f “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. 12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.”
In this passage we see the the divorce situation is actually flipped flopped. In other words applied to either man or woman.
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(1) Can we divorce a spouse for unscriptural reasons and remarry?
NOOOO!!!!
What if we wait till after afew years and our spouse remarries?
Check Mat 5:31-32 & Mat 19:8-9
Divorce is acceptable only if adultery occurs before the divorce!
SHOW ME WHERE ONE CAN DIVORCE AND WAIT FOR ADULTERY TO HAPPEN THEN DIVORCE A SECOND TIME AND BE ALLOWED TO REMARRY.
Show me the book, chapter, and verse!!
I think I have seen it in the Book of "Opinions" chapter 6 vs 66
that is book of opinions 6 66
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(2) In 1 Cor. 7:10-13
A wife is not to leave her husband but it she does she must remain unmarried or be reconciled.
We see in this passage that a woman could leave her husband BUT the only person she could marry is her EX.This also implies that the husband must remain open to the idea that if his ex wife decides to come, he should consider the idea of accepting her back. "On the condition that he feels that she is coming back and to make the marriage truly work and not going to bail out again." That which is in quotations is my thought and not God's word
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(3)The husband MUST NOT LEAVE his wife.
why does it not say "but if he does ..." like it did for the wife
1) He is the HEAD of the house
2) The head of house does not have the option to bail out of a bad situation unless adultery takes place. I will add my opinion here " or for fear of life"
WHY? How can he be a leader of his family if he is a deserter and is not present. He must stand his ground continue to try to lead the family in God's way. As the head of the family he does not have the option to bail out.
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Men are to love their wife as Christ loved the Church. Jesus never did bail out even to the point death.
Thus men are to love their wives and are not allowed to bail out.
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CAN ONE REMARRY IF unscripturally divorced AND EX SPOUSE DIES
if one wants to be 100% sure beyond the shadow of doubt, the best answer is NO. Remain single.
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(4) In 1 Cor. 7:15 an unbelieving spouse leaves, they are no longer under bondage of marriage. Which are the obligations to fullfil the marrital duties.
But there is still no reference to them being able to remarry. Unless see Mat 19:8-9
(5) BUT some FEEL THAT IN:
Romans 7:2-3
As long as one is separated from a spouse unscripturally, he/she is unable to remarry.
But when one dies they are no longer separated by divorce, they are now separated by death. As this passage in Romans says when death occurs they are freed to remarry. This is because separation is no longer from a divorce but the separation from the spouse is now from death which allows one to remarry. WARNING: This does not give the right or authorizes one to kill his/her EX. Also KEEP IN MIND THAT THIS IS MAN'S OPINION and NOT 100% VARIFIED WITH SCRIPTURES
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If one, who is unscripturally divorced, feels uncomfortable to remarry even after the spouse dies or even if scripturally divorce because of adultery and feels uncomfortable to remarry, IT WILL BE SINFULL FOR THAT PERSON TO REMARRY. The general idea behind this will be discussed later on in I Corinthians 8:1-13 and Romans 14:12 - 15:6
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(6) IF ADULTERY TAKES PLACE DOES IT MEAN ONE HAS TO GET A DIVORCE? NO, NO WAY.
It is better to forgive and work the marriage through this bad situation Remember God hates divorce. But many people are looking for a way out. People often uses this adultery clause as a reason to bail out without even trying. They are not able to forgive or willing to try to forgive.
Matthen 6:12 FORGIVE ME AS I HAVE FORGIVEN OTHERS
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Examples of divorced situations.
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1) Neither have committed adultery prior to divorce.
a) Then neither can remarry See I Cor. 7:11
b) One has committed adultery but after the divorce. See I Cor.7:11
Adultery HAS TO TAKE PLACE PRIOR TO THE DIVORCE. If not the only person THEY can marry is THEIR ex spouse.
2) What if one has committed adultery?
a) Can the Innocent one can remarry? YES
b) But how innocent are they? Did they stop the times of initamcy which caused Satan to have the door of temptation to open up?
IF THIS IS THE CASE, REMEMBER IF one causes another Christian to sin, they have sinned agianst God.
3) Both have committed adultery prior to the divorce, then neither can remarry.
a) Often one spouse has openly committed adultery and the other spouse has only committed adultery ONE TIME and no one knows about it, EXCEPT for her/him and the other person, Then neither can remarry.
This situation is why I recommend IF SOME ONE WANTS TO BE 100% SURE OF THEIR SALVATION, NEVER MARRY A DIVORCED PERSON UNLESS THAT PERSONS EX-SPOUSE(s) HAVE PASSED AWAY. Even then is it permissible?
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OFTEN ONE WILL SAY TO JUSTIFY THEMSELVES, But I have repented of my sins of adultery and divorce, am I not forgiven? If I am forgiven then why can't I remarry?
Yes, you are forgiven of your past sins. But even though you are forgiven by God FOR YOUR PAST SINS, You still have to follow the commands of God. TO REMARRY IS TO COMMIT ADULTERY. But I have repented of the sin of remarriage, can I stay remarried? THE SIN OF ADULTERY DOES NOT TAKE PLACE IN THE MARRIAGE CEREMONY. ADULTERY TAKES PLACE IN THE TIMES OF INTIMACY!!! THE ONLY WAY ONE CAN TRULY REPENT OF ADULTEROUS MARRIAGE IS TO GET A DIVORCE. Some I know have said "they can stay married BUT MUST SLEEP IN SEPARATE ROOMS, AND REFRAIN FROM ALL ACTS OF INTIMACY". Is this just another loop hole of American Society? I feel, "it is a man made loop hole!" If one wants to be 100% sure of their salavation don't look for loop holes. That may not exist in Gods eyes.
GOD'S WORD DOES NOT ALLOW MAN TO CHANGE OR ALTER OR ADD HIS OWN INTERPRETATION TO WHAT HE HAS SPOKEN THROUGH HIS PROPHETS. WHAT GOD HAS SAID HE MEANS.