Building a Home / Edificando un Hogar
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Introduction
Introduction
One of the greatest problems our modern society faces is the breakdown of the family.
Divorce
Unfaithfulness
Spousal / domestic abuse
Forsaking parental responsibilities
Dishonor of our parents
We should not forget that the first institution that God established was the institution of the family.
God did not create human government first.
God did not create nations / cities / or even the church.
The first institution created by God was the institution of marriage which would give rise to the family.
For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.
So He drove the man out; and at the east of the garden of Eden He stationed the cherubim and the flaming sword which turned every direction to guard the way to the tree of life.
Por tanto el hombre dejará a su padre y a su madre y se unirá a su mujer, y serán una sola carne.
Echó, pues, fuera al hombre, y puso al oriente del huerto de Edén querubines, y una espada encendida que se revolvía por todos lados, para guardar el camino del árbol de la vida.
For this reason, the devil has launched an attack on the family since the beginning of time.
The family is under attack. If we take a moment and think about the families we know - we can quickly come up with first hand examples / experiences that give evidence to the breakdown of the family.
The Bible gives us hope! The book of Proverbs, which is God’s book of wisdom gives us hope in regards to the family.
By wisdom a house is built,
And by understanding it is established;
And by knowledge the rooms are filled
With all precious and pleasant riches.
Prov 24
Con sabiduría se edifica una casa,
y con prudencia se afianza;
con conocimiento se llenan las cámaras
de todo bien preciado y deseable.
Solomon says that man can successfully build a home “by wisdom”.
If we were to take this literally we can see how this can be true. Men must carefully make plans to build a home. Blueprints must be drawn up, foundations must be laid, framing must be carefully put together, walls must carefully be put up, etc.
Every detail counts.
Builders must work to exact specifications to ensure a strong and safe building.
They must build with great wisdom
But, Solomon was not referring to a literal building. He was referring to the institution of the family.
Solomon exhorts us to build up our homes through the means of wisdom.
We must have understanding, prudence, thoughtfulness as we seek to build up our family.
The book of Proverbs can give us the wisdom we need so that we may build Godly families. This book has much to say to us so that we may accomplish this goal. We shall consider:
Building a strong marriage
Godly parenting
Building strong children
I. Building a strong marriage
I. Building a strong marriage
I. Edificando un matrimonio fuerte
I. Edificando un matrimonio fuerte
Proverbs teaches us that marriage is a gift from God.
He who finds a wife finds a good thing
And obtains favor from the Lord.
El que halla esposa halla algo bueno
y alcanza el favor del Señor.
Marriage is good. Finding a spouse is a blessing from God.
Those of us who are married should give thanks to God for the good gift he has given us.
We should beware when we start to consider marriage as inconvenience, a burden, or a mistake.
Proverbs teaches us that temptation to be unfaithful is ever present.
This is particular true in the lives of men. Most adultery is committed by men against their spouses.
The book of Proverbs repeatedly speaks to us about the “strange woman” or the “adulteress”.
For the lips of an adulteress drip honey
And smoother than oil is her speech;
But in the end she is bitter as wormwood,
Sharp as a two-edged sword.
Her feet go down to death,
Her steps take hold of Sheol.
Prov 5.3
Porque los labios de la extraña destilan miel,
y su lengua es más suave que el aceite;
pero al final es amarga como el ajenjo,
aguda como espada de dos filos.
Sus pies descienden a la muerte,
sus pasos sólo logran el Seol.
Men are warned to flee from this woman that would seek to destroy the covenant of marriage.
Keep your way far from her
And do not go near the door of her house,
Aleja de ella tu camino,
y no te acerques a la puerta de su casa;
We are to not go near her.
We should keep her away from us.
This is particular important in our modern age where social media tries to keep us connected to many people around the world. Many men have fallen into a trap of their own making for they have not been wise in how they treat other women.
Men and woman are called to a high standard so that they may honor the vows of their covenant marriage.
Proverbs warns us against marital friction/arguments.
A constant dripping on a day of steady rain
And a contentious woman are alike;
Gotera continua en día de lluvia
y mujer rencillosa, son semejantes;
Marital strife is a common reason for many divorces / separations. Some call them “irreconcilable differences”. In these cases, there was no unfaithfulness or spousal abuse.
Many couples fight about everything. They seem to always be irritating each other. It’s a constant fighting, arguing.
Many couples have forgotten that over time, a small drip will cause much harm. A leaking roof, over a long period of time will eventually destroy a home.
We should ask God for maturity, for self control, for the ability to communicate with wisdom within our marriage.
Proverbs encourages us to enjoy the blessing of marital love.
Let your fountain be blessed,
And rejoice in the wife of your youth.
As a loving hind and a graceful doe,
Let her breasts satisfy you at all times;
Be exhilarated always with her love.
Sea bendita tu fuente,
y regocíjate con la mujer de tu juventud,
amante cierva y graciosa gacela;
que sus senos te satisfagan en todo tiempo,
su amor te embriague para siempre.
Marriage is difficult. It should not be treated lightly. Our children’s marriages will be greatly formed / influences by our marriages.
We cannot have a Godly home without a Godly marriage.
Parenting will be an even greater challenge if we do not have a strong marriage as our foundation.
II. Building strong children
II. Building strong children
II. Edificando hijos fuertes
II. Edificando hijos fuertes
One of the blessings of marriage is the bringing up of children.
Not all marriages are blessed with biological children. There are occasions where in the providence of God a couple may not be blessed with children. They are not a lesser marriage, nor a incomplete marriage. Many may experience the blessing of parenting through adoption, foster children, discipling/teaching young children.
Nevertheless, it is part of God’s blessings to experience the responsibilities that come with having children. The Bible exhorts us to:
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
Y vosotros, padres, no provoquéis a ira a vuestros hijos, sino criadlos en la disciplina e instrucción del Señor.
The Bible exhorts parents of their responsibility to discipline and instruct their children, based on God’s word.
We are not to train up our children according to the ways of the world but according to the word of God.
The book of Proverbs is not focused on taking care of our children’s physical or emotional needs. Indeed they are important, but they pale in comparison to training them to fear the Lord.
Proverbs teaches parents their duty to discipline their children.
He who withholds his rod hates his son,
But he who loves him disciplines him diligently.
El que escatima la vara odia a su hijo,
mas el que lo ama lo disciplina con diligencia.
Children must be disciplined.
Discipline cane be done through setting boundaries, through admonishment, through physical correction, but the most impactful is instructing our children through our own example.
Discipline in order for it to be effective must be consistent / diligent.
Discipline in order for it to be effective must not be done in anger.
Proverbs tells us that failure to discipline our children will cause us (parents) to be utterly disgraced.
The rod and reproof give wisdom,
But a child who gets his own way brings shame to his mother.
La vara y la reprensión dan sabiduría,
pero el niño consentido avergüenza a su madre.
Proverbs teaches parents to teach their children the value of hard work.
He who gathers in summer is a son who acts wisely,
But he who sleeps in harvest is a son who acts shamefully.
Prov
El que recoge en el verano es hijo sabio,
el que se duerme durante la siega es hijo que avergüenza.
Children must be taught to value the tangible blessings they have recieved from God.
Children must be taught to contribute to the responsibilities of the household.
Children must be taught from an early age that they have duties to fulfill - they must not be sluggards.
Proverbs teaches us that children should be taught that their behavior can bring great joy to their parents.
The father of the righteous will greatly rejoice,
And he who sires a wise son will be glad in him.
Let your father and your mother be glad,
And let her rejoice who gave birth to you.
And my inmost being will rejoice
When your lips speak what is right.
Let your father and your mother be glad,
And let her rejoice who gave birth to you.
Prov. 23.
Prov 223.16
El padre del justo se regocijará en gran manera,
y el que engendra un sabio se alegrará en él.
Alégrense tu padre y tu madre,
y regocíjese la que te dio a luz.
Parents must word hard to take joy in their children.
Children must feel cherished, loved, respected, valued by their parents.
Conclusion
Conclusion
Strong families take great work.
Strong families are not the product of coincidence. We must ask God for wisdom so that we may build a strong marriage which will in turn be a foundation to build up strong children.
We need God’s wisdom and power to overcome the attacks of the enemy against our families.