2018.8.26-4 Relationships Are Messy!!

Intro

Such a pithy statement. We spent time crafting the nuances. The versions of logo were numerous.

We’ve packaged 6 weeks of values into neat hopefully challenging sermons.

We’ve pointed out our DNA

Truth of the matter is that relationships will not look like this…NEAT! Truth is that relationships are messy. You have to be either mature or ready to mature to do authentic relationship.

Mature - b/c you understand growth. You won’t flake when something goes wrong. You’ll give the benefit of the doubt

Tim Keller quote

Ill: Dwayne sent me. This guye never ask me for anything. Faithful, a supporter. Even paid a compliment. I opened it, got distracted. The blue button left. 300 emails came in and I didn’t reply

What I’m about to give you can not be done in the natural.

It’ll strengthen marriages

put families back together

First expect the mess

I thought I’d wait til the end to tell you this could be messy.

When you move into a deeper level of relationship 1. Everybody can’t handle your anointing. 2. heads up Everybody can’t handle your humanity

Don’t trip over people that leave your life. It simply means they were part of your past and don’t belong in your future. - JW3

-Critical lesson. If you get this, every relationship you have will be effected and blessed. What I’m about to give you can not be done in the natural.

What do you do when you want to connect and then someone lets you down.

It’ll strengthen marriages

put families back together

put families back together

GIVEN: Expect the mess!!!

I thought I’d wait til the end to tell you this could be messy.

When it comes down to getting relationship thing right, I want to give you your safety net.

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trust up first then out

Principles that every relationship needs

Don’t Take Anything Personal

-the fight is not w a social security number

-when folk start tripping ‘bless his heart’

-it will save you a lot of grief!!!

Be Willing to Discuss What’s Wrong

You can’t “discuss” with a temper.

Proverbs 15:1 NKJV

1 A soft answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.

Don’t just talk about what’s wrong, do something about what’s wrong. #BeAboutIt

Fight For What’s Worth Fighting For

-victory is in heavenlies

Ephesians 1:3 NKJV

3 Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places in Christ,

solid relationships

a brother/sister

Be Quick to Give Grace

The best way to hear grace is with your words. Tip: I learned to ask queitsons becuase people hear questions vs. statements

Colossians 3:12–14 NKJV

12 Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering; 13 bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. 14 But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection.

https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/21-ways-strengthen-struggling-relationships.html

12.5 be ready to listen

Look for Opportunities to Strengthen What’s Weak

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Close

When it gets too messy, you’ve got a Father that can set things right!!!

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