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The good news is God knows the best way to deal with narcissists, because His way is the only way that actually works.

There are no guarantees that doing what God did will lead to your Neb’s redemption. However, no Neb will be redeemed without doing what God does. Doing what God does gives your Neb the best opportunity for repentance and redemption.

“Thanks Pastor, but _______.”

“Thanks Pastor, but I’ll just pray.”

“Thanks Pastor but I’ll ask my Neb to listen to your sermons.”

“Thanks Pastor but I just need to ________ my Neb more.”

“Thanks Pastor but I’m just going to have a come to Jesus meeting with my Neb.”

Daniel 4:27 NKJV

Therefore, O king, let my advice be acceptable to you; break off your sins by being righteous, and your iniquities by showing mercy to the poor. Perhaps there may be a lengthening of your prosperity.”

Step #1 - Give your Neb multiple warnings / Set multiple boundaries.

Step #2 - Give your Neb a season for repentance.

It is a gracious, merciful, God like thing – depending upon the circumstances and the level of abuse you endure – to let your Neb know they have a duration of time to demonstrate repentance, otherwise more severe consequences or a severed relationship may occur.

Daniel 4:30 NKJV

The king spoke, saying, “Is not this great Babylon, that I have built for a royal dwelling by my mighty power and for the honor of my majesty?”

Step # 3 - Follow through with serious consequences.

Serious consequences became the redemptive presence in Nebuchadnezzar’s life.

For some the first step to deal with your Neb is to begin dealing first with yourself.

All the grace and mercy Christians normally extend to other people will not work for your Neb because Nebs carry a sense of entitlement.

2 Samuel 11:1 NKJV

It happened in the spring of the year, at the time when kings go out to battle, that David sent Joab and his servants with him, and all Israel; and they destroyed the people of Ammon and besieged Rabbah. But David remained at Jerusalem.

2 Samuel 11:2–3 NKJV

Then it happened one evening that David arose from his bed and walked on the roof of the king’s house. And from the roof he saw a woman bathing, and the woman was very beautiful to behold. So David sent and inquired about the woman. And someone said, “Is this not Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam, the wife of Uriah the Hittite?”

2 Samuel 11:4 NKJV

Then David sent messengers, and took her; and she came to him, and he lay with her, for she was cleansed from her impurity; and she returned to her house.

2 Samuel 11:11 NKJV

And Uriah said to David, “The ark and Israel and Judah are dwelling in tents, and my lord Joab and the servants of my lord are encamped in the open fields. Shall I then go to my house to eat and drink, and to lie with my wife? As you live, and as your soul lives, I will not do this thing.”

2 Samuel 12:13–14 NKJV

So David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the Lord.” And Nathan said to David, “The Lord also has put away your sin; you shall not die. However, because by this deed you have given great occasion to the enemies of the Lord to blaspheme, the child also who is born to you shall surely die.”

2 Samuel 12:13-14

Your Neb’s sense of superiority and entitlement gets broken when they experience that the rules that apply to all of us, apply to them as well.

Step #1 - Give your Neb multiple warnings / Set multiple boundaries.

Step #2 - Give your Neb a season for repentance.

Step # 3 - Follow through with serious consequences.