Attraction Pt. 2

ANNOUNCEMENTS

Jack Benny roses

Song of Solomon 1:4–8 ESV

4 Draw me after you; let us run. The king has brought me into his chambers. We will exult and rejoice in you; we will extol your love more than wine; rightly do they love you. 5 I am very dark, but lovely, O daughters of Jerusalem, like the tents of Kedar, like the curtains of Solomon. 6 Do not gaze at me because I am dark, because the sun has looked upon me. My mother’s sons were angry with me; they made me keeper of the vineyards, but my own vineyard I have not kept! 7 Tell me, you whom my soul loves, where you pasture your flock, where you make it lie down at noon; for why should I be like one who veils herself beside the flocks of your companions? 8 If you do not know, O most beautiful among women, follow in the tracks of the flock, and pasture your young goats beside the shepherds’ tents.

Worship night

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Movies in the park

Wonderful Life

A/V Team Help

My mom and dad...

But she was angry, vain, and sharp-tongued

Jack Benny was a cheater

You ever see those old couples that just look miserable?

Look at his pose! Know why? He was hiding scratch marks after answering the phone

My mom sewed my dads underwear shut

Nice on the surface, not so nice in reality...

Tonight we see that the love between Solomon and the Shulamite woman is not surfacy

Old couples just don’t look the same as new ones!

Song of Solomon 1:5–6 ESV

5 I am very dark, but lovely, O daughters of Jerusalem, like the tents of Kedar, like the curtains of Solomon. 6 Do not gaze at me because I am dark, because the sun has looked upon me. My mother’s sons were angry with me; they made me keeper of the vineyards, but my own vineyard I have not kept!

She is saying “don’t even look at me!”

Marriage is good!

Recap: They were WRONG! Marriage is good!

I am lovely, but ew! I’m dark!

She says like the tents of Kadar (dark)

Curtains of Solomon (Black)

You need to know this:

Nowadays we don’t mind a little tannage going on...

But in Israel at this time, white skin was in fashion

BUT marriage is one of the most challenging endeavor’s of my lifeI think we have a great marriage, a biblical oneBut there is a lot of work and sacrifice involvedAnd it’s all for this world, did you know that?Whoever you’re married to won’t be your spouse in heaven?They are meant to be your partner in THIS LIFE

It meant wealth - women wore veils and were completely covered to stay pale

​ ESV29 But Jesus answered them, “You are wrong, because you know neither the Scriptures nor the power of God. 30 For in the resurrection they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are like angels in heaven.

Man, so marriage is just a bunch of work, and you don’t even enjoy each other in heaven?Kind of! At least not the way you enjoy her here!

She is saying, I spent too much time in the sun - I’m dark

BUT with that being said, I love my wife

Mother’s sons = step brothers (doesn’t say father)

We have been married 11 years next monthI cherish alone time, but after 2 hours I don’t know what to do with myselfWithout her, I wouldn’t be a pastor and may not even be a followerIf I was stuck on an island for the rest of my life with one person, she’s itI’m proud that she’s mine and would never trade her inI LOVE my wife!She asked for a song, I’ve written at least threeI have danced with her and I don’t danceI promised to take her to Paris, we went to ParisI promised to move her to the east coast, here we areShe backed her car into a pile of wood, I didn’t get madI would do just about anything for her...Even though it’s work, the Romantic side of marriage is important!If you were going to study things about marriage, what would you study?Attraction?Dating?Honeymoon?Fighting?Deepening marriage?Did God REALLY intend to just be happy for a few years and then it drops off?Women just wear workout clothes, cut their hair and stop wearing make up?Men just get beer bellies, stop showering and sleep in recliners?Not according to the Song of Solomon...Let’s dig in...

So they made her what? Work...

She says I had to work on their vineyards, so I didn’t work on mine

​ ESV1 The Song of Songs, which is Solomon’s.

Written by Solomon

MEANING SHE NEGLECTED HER BODY

​ ESV32 He also spoke 3,000 proverbs, and his songs were 1,005.

Today that means fat, but a Middle Eastern farmer wasn’t fat

She was dark, calloused, ratty hair, lost an eye in a tractor accident...

Yet this is his greatest song...This is the love story of Solomon and his wife...It is something of a conversation between many peopleI’ve color coded the slides so you can see, but some translators differIf it’s gray, its God or others. If it’s pink it’s the woman. If it’s blue its Solomon.The woman is a Shulamite, or something of a “country girl” from ShunemThink of it as someone from Brown Summit marrying the PresidentNot Trump though, a more handsome PresidentSolomon is referred to as “the beloved”

She didn’t have time for lotions and perfumes and hairdos

OK Let’s Go!

Let’s start with attraction:

Think of Godly women in the Bible...

Rebecca was a shephardness

First it’s physical?Then they’re kind, smart, funny?As long as they are willing to go to church that will sufficeDon’t have to be a Christian, just willingMmm… I don’t know about that...Let’s talk about what SHOULD be attractive to you...This is pink so it’s the woman speaking to Solomon:

Deborah was a judge over Israel

Ruth gleaned in the fields for the widows

Pricilla was a tent maker

​ ESV2 Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth! For your love is better than wine; 3 your anointing oils are fragrant; your name is oil poured out; therefore virgins love you. 4 Draw me after you; let us run. The king has brought me into his chambers. We will exult and rejoice in you; we will extol your love more than wine; rightly do they love you.

Remember the woman?

Works day and night, spinning clothing, plants and harvests, helps the poor

Proverbs 31:17 ESV

17 She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong.

Guys, you want a Godly woman? Make sure she works hard!

What’s she saying?Your name is oil poured out? What?!Your name is Crisco? That’s weirdActually means purified oil… this was very valuable and tasty...Ever had oil and vinegar on bread at an Italian place?You’ll be full before the pasta comes out!When you address someone’s name you’re referencing their character!Is she saying, Solomon is hot! He works out… He’s smart and funny...No, she’s saying she considers it a privilege to belong to him, and other’s are jealous...Wow, I get to belong to him! He’s really something that means a lot!He’s not my possession, my accessory, my boy toy...No, I am the lucky one...Girls, have you looked at a BF and said, “Wow, ANY girl would give anything to be yours”But I get to be yours...That’s what she is saying...

Marlon and his wife

Then she says “Draw me after to you; let us run. The king has brought me into his chambers.”

He worked 12 hours

Grab me, sprint with me, into… his bedroom!She feels privileged to go and share the bedroom with himShe’s running for it!Does it sound sinful to you?It’s not… it’s love. It’s marriage. It’s actually sinful N

Made breakfast

​ ESV4 Draw me after you; let us run. The king has brought me into his chambers. We will exult and rejoice in you; we will extol your love more than wine; rightly do they love you.

Got his kids ready, lunches, to school

Have you ever seen a marriage that isn’t supported by those around them?

Shower

Wife to doctor

Someone’s marriage that is close to me

Take his wife to run errands

Sleep 3 hours

She was a Christian chasing a youth pastor

Pickup kids

She found an atheist, and the church wasn’t supportive

Make dinner

She was eventually asked to step down from ministry

Off to work again

“How do you know I won’t lead him to Christ?”

He was killing himself, and was almost fired several times...

We’re just talking, not dating

A marriage is a partnership, you work together

We’re just dating, not married

Know what God made for Adam when he was alone?

Now they’re married, and she doesn’t go to church

A HELPER

​ ESV14 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?

You need to find someone who is going work hard

You ever see a couple that just doesn’t fit?

Or you’ll just have to work harder...

Song of Solomon 1:7 ESV

7 Tell me, you whom my soul loves, where you pasture your flock, where you make it lie down at noon; for why should I be like one who veils herself beside the flocks of your companions?

She’s hot, he’s old. It’s the money...What attracts you?

Song

What is she doing?

She’s trying to find out where he is so she can run into him!

Is it ok for a Godly woman to try and meet up with a man? YES!

I hope! Tasha found ME!

Tell MySpace story...

Close with CAR ILLUSTRATION

That guy may be ripped, dresses nice has a nice car...

Maybe he’s a good guy, or maybe he’s the most important thing in his own universe...

Maybe he’s a good guy, or maybe he’s the most important thing in his own universe...

That girl may be shapely, nice hair, beautiful skin...

Maybe she’s a great girl, or maybe she’s the most important thing in her own universe...

I see beautiful women all the time!On TV, at the store, even in church...

While beauty is nice to look at, I can’t give it too much clout...

Because inevitably, she’s a psycho!

Can you imagine if I threw away my wife for another pretty woman?What are the odds the next one would be half as awesome as Tasha?When you’re looking for that other person, you have to be looking for something more...Guys, here is some advice...You find yourself a girl that loves Jesus, loves to serve and thinks of othersYou won’t be able to help but love her...I can find you plenty of beautiful girls on the outside that will break your heartHave any of you seen a hot 85 year old woman?Do you think that whole generation was ugly?No! They were beautiful and got old!The same will happen to each of you!But sweetness, kindness, selflessness can last until you die...