Thing I WISH I KNEW

Introduction .. Have ever wish know sth that was to late ,

#Divorce is the result of a lack of preparation for marriage and the failure to learn the skills of working together as team mates in an intimate relationship.

# You must take time to discover and practice the proven marital guidelines that makes such a marriage possible .

Hosea 4:6 NKJV

My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge. Because you have rejected knowledge, I also will reject you from being priest for Me; Because you have forgotten the law of your God, I also will forget your children.

But relationship and marriage is not the same you need all the right information as possible.

# Only what you nurture grows.

do expect thing to work without input , go to relationship with mind set of nurture .

Growth is not accidental is intentional .. even the bible talks about good ground . The potency is not about the seed is about the ground . Don’t chock your marriage and relationship with .

Matthew 13:4–10 NKJV

And as he sowed, some seed fell by the wayside; and the birds came and devoured them. Some fell on stony places, where they did not have much earth; and they immediately sprang up because they had no depth of earth. But when the sun was up they were scorched, and because they had no root they withered away. And some fell among thorns, and the thorns sprang up and choked them. But others fell on good ground and yielded a crop: some a hundredfold, some sixty, some thirty. He who has ears to hear, let him hear!” And the disciples came and said to Him, “Why do You speak to them in parables?”

You see it has nothing to do with the SEED but the ground , same things with relationship , marriage , church ...

What you nurture only Grows , unless weeds,

# Weed Principle in Relationship. ( any thing that share the nurtishisment of ur union … Anger , negative words )

How do you nurture Relationship ..

WORD . You cannot tire down and same time build .

Proverbs 11:25 NASB95

The generous man will be prosperous, And he who waters will himself be watered.

Proverb

John 17:17 NKJV

Sanctify them by Your truth. Your word is truth.

Ephesians 5:25–27 KJV 1900

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

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Now we can put together the original meaning of this verse more accurately: The first part (the easy part) is talking about Messiah’s tremendous love for us, that he was willing to give himself up to crucifixion that we might be made holy. The second part continues this thought with a beautiful picture of Jesus washing the Church, by which he subjected himself to ritual uncleanness that we might be made ready for baptism.

All this is in the context of Paul's instruction for husbands to love their wives (). Like Messiah, husbands should take the more difficult path. They should humble themselves for their wives’ benefit. But it also speaks of Messiah’s love in general: that we, like Jesus, should be willing to humble ourselves on behalf of those that are not yet spiritually clean, sharing with them the Word of God, that through his Word they might be cleansed for the bath that leads to eternal life.

# You must take time to discover and practice the proven marital guidelines that makes such a marriage possible .

# I wish I knew .. that being in Love is not an adequate foundation for building a successful marriage/ Relationship.

How people fall in Love? Situational , Issue , Accident , Friends , Association .

But when the Tinlge bell in your stomach is high you need to start exploring the foudanmental and understanding if it what dealing with or running from . Because you are in Love is not enough reason that the relationship will work .

You must explore .. Intellectual , emotional , social , spiritual and physical foundation for it to work ,.. You need books , Mentors , Guidance … It worth you time to resharch into destiny decision .

# I wish i knew .. That romantic Love has two stages..

? why do we have to work on a marriage if we love our self .

Stage 1. Being in Love .. Or we are in Love ..You don’t have to work at this stage it Just happen ..Average Life Span is 2yr .

All other thing don’t have priority when u are in love grade , skills etc.

Stage 2 is more Intentional Driven than the first one ..

Love language.

Words of Affirmation

Act of Service

Receiving Gifts

Quality Time

Physical Touch

# That the saying like mother , like daughter and like father , like son . is not a myth.

People behaviour are driven by action of their childhood experience . we are greatly influence by them.

What am saying is that we most likely to adopt those behaviors - Unless a conscious attention is given and positive steps taken to keep the young adult from drifting into the PATTERNS they observed in childhood .

If you have concern it must be well discussed to avoid it being a reality in your family or relationship.