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Israel Perdonsin

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2 Corinthians 10:3–5

Philippians 1:12–15

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Your life will always move in the direction of your strongest thoughts

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Reframing

REFRAMING

Most of life’s battles are won or lost in the mind.

The Life you have is a reflection of the thoughts you think.

What comes into your mind—Comes out in your life.

Cannot have a positive life—Negative mind.

Control what you think—Control what you do.

Change your thinking, change your life. And we're looking at the mind and the teaching of the apostle Paul. What do we know about the mind? We know that our thoughts are incredibly powerful. There's often a war going on, and the war is generally won or lost in the mind. What comes into your mind comes out in your life. It's almost impossible to live a positive life when you're consumed with negative thoughts.

our key verse is from the apostle Paul

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3 For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. 4 The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. 5 We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.

2 Corinthians 10:3–5 NIV

2 Corinthians 10:3–5 ESV

3 For though we walk in the flesh, we are not waging war according to the flesh. 4 For the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh but have divine power to destroy strongholds. 5 We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ,

We are not a prisoner to the lies; the lies are prisoner to God's word. We take them captive and make it obedient to Christ

Your life will always move in the direction of your strongest thoughts.

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Neural Pathways—More you think a thought—Easier it is to think.

What is a neural pathway? Essentially, the more we think a thought, the more we create a pathway in the brain. The more we think a thought, the easier it is to think. And that's good news if we're thinking on things that are true and good and pure and lovely and excellent and admirable and praiseworthy, as the apostle Paul would say. The problem is, many of us are thinking on things that are not true.

And today we´re going to talk about

Neural Pathways—More you think a thought—Easier it is to think.

Cognitive Biases—Mental Filters—Mental Framework.

the idea of a cognitive bias. What is a cognitive bias? A cognitive bias, we could also call it a mental filter or a mental framework.

A very simple definition is this:

it's a mistake in reasoning based on personal preferences or beliefs.

(Mental filter that impacts how you think.)

Our wrong thought process or our wrong belief causes to make mistakes or errors in judgment.

Glasses—You look bad.

It applies on everything from our seeing an oasis when there is none, to the maintenance of stereotypes to why depression is hard to get rid of.

Default filters—Default frames.

Why—People respond differently to same situation.

That's why different people respond in different ways to the exact same situation. Have you noticed that? The same situation, same environment, and yet, two totally different responses.

It's not the facts that are different. What is it? It's the filter that's different.

Illustration - Boss gives feedback to coworkers

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It’s not that the FACTS are different—It’s the FILTER. / frame

For example, you might see this at your workplace. You might have a boss or supervisor that sits down with two different people and gives feedback in the exact same way, and the two different people respond totally differently to the feedback.

Feedback— one is Offended - other one Thankful.

Mom impossible to please—Have to be perfect.

Father—Loving, Involved—Distant, Demanding.

It’s not that the FACTS are different—It’s the FILTER.

This can even impact our relationship to God. In fact, studies show that your relationship to an earthly father can often shape or color how you perceive your heavenly Father.

those of you who were blessed with a good dad - you might easier see God as a good God full of compassion that cares about the details of your life as opposed to someone else who had an earthly father who maybe was distant or abusive or cold or demanding or judgmental or legalistic.

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We talked about meditating last week on truth. This week, I wanna talk about another tool, and then next week, we're gonna talk about the prayer component of the mind.

Today I wanna talk about something called reframing.

REFRAMING - What is reframing? Reframing is simply creating a different way, of looking at a situation, person, or relationship by changing its meaning.

Reframing—Creating a different way of looking at a situation, person or relationship by changing its meaning. (Diff Filter)

It's also called - Perceptual accentuation—Cognitive restructuring—Thinking different.

Reframing illustration

You can’t control what happens to you.

But you can control how you frame it.

HITTER—PITCHER—(Frame it)

Reframing is simply changing the way we look at something by changing the meaning. It's also called perceptual accentuation. It's called cognitive restructuring, or if you're simply like me, I call it thinkin' different.

What kind of a day are we gonna have?

Is it gonna be a great day, an average day, a pathetic day, what kinda day are we gonna have? The answer is, it depends on how we frame it. Some of you, you have a negative framework, a negative filter.

This day's gonna be bad. I hate being around these people. They're all a pain in the you-know-what. I hate going to these things. It never works out. Every time I try to do something, I always fail. God's not with me. Life's bad, it's gonna get worse.

If there was anybody who was great at reframing, it was the apostle Paul. In fact, if you know his story, he had a very strategic prayer plan.

God, please help me go to Rome. If I can go to Rome and preach the gospel and reach the leaders in Rome, from there, we can spread the gospel all over the world. Finally, Paul got to go to Rome, but he didn't get to go there to preach the gospel. Instead, he was in Rome as a prisoner, locked up in house arrest, chained to Roman guards, a new one every eight hours, and he was awaiting a possible execution. What he wanted was not what happened. How did he frame the situation?

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If there was anybody who was great at reframing, it was the apostle Paul. In fact, if you know his story, he had a very strategic prayer plan.

What he wanted was not what happened. How did he frame the situation?

Dreamed of going to Rome: To Preach—Prisoner.

Worked hard, degree—Job overqualified different field.

Honored God dating—Married sweetheart—Divorced.

This point in life—Expected something different, better.

God, where are you?

Paul could have said.. NWV (New Whiners Traslation)

Now I want you to know, brothers and sisters, that what has happened to me really sucks. As a result of the hell I’ve been through, I’m quitting ICES and never going back to church.

This is what Paul actually said,

Philippians 1:12–13 ESV

12 I want you to know, brothers, that what has happened to me has really served to advance the gospel, 13 so that it has become known throughout the whole imperial guard and to all the rest that my imprisonment is for Christ.

Group Text: Pray for me! Struggling!

Food horrible—Rats here—Guards don’t bathe—Execute—Hate life.

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12 Now I want you to know, brothers and sisters, that what has happened to me has actually served to advance the gospel. 13 As a result, it has become clear throughout the whole palace guard and to everyone else that I am in chains for Christ.

Philippians 1:12–13 ESV

What most people would think is bad—I’m framing as good!

Chained to influential Roman guards—New one every 8 hours.

They thought I was prisoner—Giving 8 hour sermons—Real prisoner.

What has happened to me has actually served to advance the gospel. As a result, it's become clear to the whole palace guard and to everyone else that I'm in chains for Christ.

Oh, what everyone else thought was bad, it looks like I'm their prisoner, but I've got strategic Roman soldiers who are influential in leadership locked up to me. And I get a new one every eight hours, chained up to me. Who do you think the real prisoner is?

You can't control what happens to you, but you can control how you frame it.

The next verse says this:

Philippians 1:14 ESV

14 And most of the brothers, having become confident in the Lord by my imprisonment, are much more bold to speak the word without fear.

A lot of people say, this is really bad, Paul. But you have no idea. When I look through my God frame, I see God is still working. God is still moving. My God is still active, and God is still at work.

You can't control what happens to you, but you can control how you frame it.

How do we live this out when our thoughts can often drift toward the negative, the critical, discouraging thoughts, self-defeating language?

Let me give you 3 principles that I'm working on in my life to reframe relationships and situations and my story.

The first thing is this. When things are really, really bad, it's a bad day, I don't like what's going on, one of the tools is I can actually thank God for what didn't happen.

God used my chains to embolden the family of Christ!

Philippians 1:14 ESV

14 And most of the brothers, having become confident in the Lord by my imprisonment, are much more bold to speak the word without fear.

God used my chains to embolden the family of Christ!

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REFRAMING YOUR STORY AND RELATIONSHIPS

Let me give you 3 principles that I'm working on in my life to reframe relationships and situations and my story.

The first thing is this. When things are really, really bad, it's a bad day, I don't like what's going on, one of the tools is I can actually thank God for what didn't happen.

Thank God for what didn’t happen. (Bad)

Maybe something unpleasant did happen, but there are a lot of things that are worse that did not happen.

I can thank God for what didn't happen.

Girl told parents—Met guy at bar—Hooked up—Preg with twins.

Probation over in a year—Start looking for job once out rehab.

Considering marrying me—Moving in (can’t afford).

Actually—Got a “D” on my chemistry exam—Could be a lot worse.

Missed deadline (no bonus)—Didn’t lose job.

Car wreck (fender)—Expensive—At least no one was hurt.

Flight delayed problems with plane—Down here rather up there.

Whole scheme of things—Not that big of a deal!

Not saying to minimize when something is a big deal—Don’t let…

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Practice pre-framing.

Do not own that label. Have you ever noticed how the crowd will rarely give you a positive label? Have you ever noticed how your enemy never gives you a positive label? What labels do we often take from the outside? You're a failure, you're not good enough, you don't measure up, you can't make a difference. After what you did, you're always gonna struggle. Negative, negative.

Our Thoughts or Frames—Shape what we experience.

This is going to be so hard—Fun—Love a challenge!

Can’t stand going to these events—Going with my family—Good.

Believe—Determines how we will BEHAVE.

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Believe—Never go out w/me—Laugh face—Take up cross—Don’t ask.

Believe—Why not? May actually say ‘yes.’ We have 6 kids—Try.

Pre-frame it!

Tennis—Sophomore year—Choked.

Some of you, pick a new frame. Stop believing the lie from the past. Reframe it, pre-frame it.

You learned—Now you can play under pressure.

Before you go into the situation, tell yourself, your God is good, your God is with you. He will help you succeed. Choose the frame ahead of time.

I’m great under pressure

Frame picked out!

You can't control what happens to you, but you can control how you frame it. What do we do to reframe a situation? Well, we always thank God for what didn't happen. We practice pre-framing.

And then the third thing we're gonna do is we're gonna look for God's goodness. We're gonna look for his goodness. Here's the promise, promise you. If you wanna see bad, you will find bad. If you wanna see negative, you will find things to be negative about.

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Look for God’s goodness.

Some of you, pick a new frame. Stop believing the lie from the past. Reframe it, pre-frame it. Before you go into the situation, tell yourself, your God is good, your God is with you. He will help you succeed. Choose the frame ahead of time. You can't control what happens to you, but you can control how you frame it. What do we do to reframe a situation? Well, we always thank God for what didn't happen. We practice pre-framing. And then the third thing we're gonna do is we're gonna look for God's goodness. We're gonna look for his goodness. Here's the promise, promise you. If you wanna see bad, you will find bad. If you wanna see negative, you will find things to be negative about.

you can be like the vast majority of the world that lives critical, negative, has bad relationships, and tends to lean toward what is bad instead of leaning toward what is good.

Or, on the other hand, you can choose to look for where God is working, and if you look for where God is working, you will see him working. You can choose to look for the good, and guess what? You'll see the good.

If you wanna look for the good in people, you can find good in people, and your relationships will change. Your attitude will change. Your perspective will change. Your impact will change, because you will find what you're looking for.

It's called cognitive reframing. It's reframing; it's interpreting your circumstances based on the truth of God's word.

Let Jesus help you determine the meaning. It's a lot like the difference between two types of birds. Take a vulture. Or a hummingbird.

What do vultures find? Dead stuff. Carcasses, roadkill, why? 'Cause that's what they're looking for. What do hummingbirds find? Nectar and sweet things, why? 'Cause that's what they're looking for. You will find what you're looking for. Look for the goodness of God, and you'll see the goodness of God. Look for problems and things to complain about, you'll see those things.

Want to see Bad, Negative, Challenges

Want to see Good, Positive, Opportunities

Buzzard—Humming bird

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Unemployed—Divorcing—Abused—Stage 4 cancer—Child suffering..

Cognitive Reframing—Therapist—Empower you to decide meaning.

Let Jesus help you decide.

For me to live is Christ—Die is gain—Either way—I win!

Wouldn’t choose this—Thankful for what God did in it.

If he works in all things for good

Reject unhealthy Default Frames. (Loser, Failure, Not smart)

Reframing—Not passively receiving circumstance—Actively interpreting.

Not interpreting God through circumstances!

Interpreting my circumstances through goodness of God!

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What has happened to me—Actually served to advance the gospel.

You can’t control what happens to you

But you can control how you frame it.

REFRAMING

Most of life’s battles are won or lost in the mind.

Life you have is a reflection of the thoughts you think.

Comes into your mind—Comes out in your life.

Cannot have a positive life—Negative mind.

Control what you think—Control what you do.

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Your life will always move in the direction of your strongest thoughts.

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Neural Pathways—More you think a thought—Easier it is to think.

Cognitive Biases—Mental Filters—Mental Framework.

Cognitive bias—Mistake in reasoning based on personal preferences or beliefs. (Mental filter that impacts how you think.)

Glasses—You look bad.

Default filters—Default frames.

Why—People respond differently to same situation.

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It’s not that the FACTS are different—It’s the FILTER. / frame

Feedback—Offended (Thankful)

Mom impossible to please—Have to be perfect.

Father—Loving, Involved—Distant, Demanding.

It’s not that the FACTS are different—It’s the FILTER.

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REFRAMING

Reframing—Creating a different way of looking at a situation, person or relationship by changing its meaning. (Diff Filter)

Perceptual accentuation—Cognitive restructuring—Thinking different.

Reframing illustration

You can’t control what happens to you.

But you can control how you frame it.

HITTER—PITCHER—(Frame it)

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Dreamed of going to Rome: To Preach—Prisoner.

Worked hard, degree—Job overqualified different field.

Honored God dating—Married sweetheart—Divorced.

This point in life—Expected something different, better.

Paul could have said.

Now I want you to know, brothers and sisters, that what has happened to me really sucks. As a result of the hell I’ve been through, I’m quitting LifeGroup and never going back to church. NWV (Whiners)

Group Text: Pray for me! Struggling!

Food horrible—Rats here—Guards don’t bathe—Execute—Hate life.

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What most people would think is bad—I’m framing as good!

Chained to influential Roman guards—New one every 8 hours.

They thought I was prisoner—Giving 8 hour sermons—Real prisoner.

14 And because of my chains, most of the brothers and sisters have become confident in the Lord and dare all the more to proclaim the gospel without fear.

God used my chains to embolden the family of Christ!

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Conclusion & prayer

REFRAMING YOUR STORY AND RELATIONSHIPS

Thank God for what didn’t happen. (Bad)

Girl told parents—Met guy at bar—Hooked up—Preg with twins.

Probation over in a year—Start looking for job once out rehab.

Considering marrying me—Moving in (can’t afford).

Actually—Got a “D” on my chemistry exam—Could be a lot worse.

Missed deadline (no bonus)—Didn’t lose job.

Car wreck (fender)—Expensive—At least no one was hurt.

Flight delayed problems with plane—Down here rather up there.

Whole scheme of things—Not that big of a deal!

Not saying to minimize when something is a big deal—Don’t let…

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Practice pre-framing.

Our Thoughts or Frames—Shape what we experience.

This is going to be so hard—Fun—Love a challenge!

Can’t stand going to these events—Going with my family—Good.

Believe—Determines how we will BEHAVE.

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Believe—Never go out w/me—Laugh face—Take up cross—Don’t ask.

Believe—Why not? May actually say ‘yes.’ We have 6 kids—Try.

Pre-frame it!

Tennis—Sophomore year—Choked.

You learned—Now you can play under pressure.

I’m great under pressur

Father, help renew our minds with truth. Those of you who say, yes, God, help give me a better frame, help change my filter with the truth, would you lift up your hands right now,

Frame picked out!

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Look for God’s goodness.

Find what you are looking for!

Want to see Bad, Negative, Challenges

Want to see Good, Positive, Opportunities

Buzzard—Humming bird

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Unemployed—Divorcing—Abused—Stage 4 cancer—Child suffering..

Cognitive Reframing—Therapist—Empower you to decide meaning.

Let Jesus help you decide.

For me to live is Christ—Die is gain—Either way—I win!

God, I pray that according to your word, that we would not have to be conformed to the patterns of this world, but we'd be transformed, God, by the renewing of our minds. We thank you, God, that the weapons we fight with are not the weapons of this world, but they have divine power to crush, to vanquish, to demolish the strongholds, the wrong patterns of thinking. So, God, help us to restructure our thoughts, God, not just to choose the meaning, but to help let Jesus choose and define the meaning of what happens to us. God, empower us to take every thought captive and make it obedient to Christ.

Wouldn’t choose this—Thankful for what God did in it.

anyone who calls on the name of the Lord would be saved.

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Some of you, you're hurting right now. You feel low. Your world is dark. Good or bad? Depends on how you frame it. It's horrible, it's the worst thing ever. Yeah, that's bad. Oh, it's so dark that you need the light. Maybe what looks bad isn't so bad if the darkness drives you to seek the light. Maybe you feel so low. Oh, it bad, bad. Maybe it's not so bad if the only place you have to look when you're low is up to the kingdom of God. Maybe this moment of suffering, if you reframe it years later, will be the moment that brought you to Christ. there are those of you, you recognize, you've sinned; you feel the guilt and the shame from what you've done. Let me tell you about the goodness of God.

If he works in all things for good

His grace is here. He loves you, not because of what you've done or haven't done, but because he is love. His grace covers your sins. When you call on the name of Jesus, he hears your prayers. He forgives your sins. He makes you brand-new. There are those of you, you're about to reframe this day. You may feel low. You may be hurting. You may be broken. You may feel guilty. But when you call on Jesus, he makes you new. You're not here by accident. You're here by the goodness and the grace of God. All of our churches, those who say yes, I need him; I need his grace. I turn from my sins; I call on Jesus. Today, I give my life to him. If that's your prayer, lift your hands high right now.

Reject unhealthy Default Frames. (Loser, Failure, Not smart)

Reframing—Not passively receiving circumstance—Actively interpreting.

Not interpreting God through circumstances!

Heavenly Father, I surrender my whole life to you. Jesus, save me. Forgive my sins. Make me new. Fill me with your Spirit. Renew my mind, that I could follow you and walk in truth. My life is not mine. I give it to you. Thank you for new life. And now you have mine. In Jesus's name I pray.

Interpreting my circumstances through goodness of God!

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What has happened to me—Actually served to advance the gospel.

You can’t control what happens to you

But you can control how you frame it.

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