Keeping A Standard In A Blended Family

Definition of stepfamily 

: a family in which there is a step-parent

Definition of blended family 

: a family that includes children of a previous marriage of one spouse or both

matthew

Matthew 13:55–56 NKJV

55 Is this not the carpenter’s son? Is not His mother called Mary? And His brothers James, Joses, Simon, and Judas? 56 And His sisters, are they not all with us? Where then did this Man get all these things?”

Mark

Mark 6:3 NKJV

3 Is this not the carpenter, the Son of Mary, and brother of James, Joses, Judas, and Simon? And are not His sisters here with us?” So they were offended at Him.

So Jesus had a full fledged family brothers & sister, mother & step father.. And he is known as the carpenters son.

Joseph had the covering capability that Jesus needed all they way up to adult hood, At that point we never hear about Joseph only Mary.

The Role Of A Father: greek (pater)

The International Standard Bible Encyclopedia, Revised II. Function of the Father in the Family

II. Function of the Father in the Family

In the OT, the father was the main figure who wielded authority and commanded respect. He was to be honored (Ex. 20:12; Dt. 5:16; Mal. 1:6; cf. Ex. 21:15, 17) and obeyed (Dt. 21:18; Prov. 23:22; cf. Isaac’s obedience to Abraham in Gen. 22:1–14). He possessed almost unlimited power over the lives of the members of his family—he could sell his daughter into slavery (Ex. 21:7), have his son stoned if the son attempted to entice him away from Yahwism (Dt. 13:6–10) or if the son was a glutton or drunkard (Dt. 21:18–21; cf. Judah’s pronouncement of the death sentence upon his daughter-in-law in Gen. 38:24), or take away the birthright of the eldest son for a serious offense

The International Standard Bible Encyclopedia, Revised II. Function of the Father in the Family

Along with this position of authority the father had certain responsibilities. He had to love, care for, and protect his children (Dt. 1:31; Ps. 103:13; cf. Job 1:5; Jer. 47:3; Hos. 11:1–3)

The International Standard Bible Encyclopedia, Revised II. Function of the Father in the Family

He also had to train, educate (Dt. 4:9; 6:7; Prov. 1:8; 22:6)

The International Standard Bible Encyclopedia, Revised II. Function of the Father in the Family

and discipline them (Prov. 13:24; 19:18; 23:13f.; Sir. 30:1–13; cf. deVaux, pp. 48–50).

The International Standard Bible Encyclopedia, Revised II. Function of the Father in the Family

In the NT, Jesus acknowledged the continuing validity of the command in Ex. 20:12 for children to honor their parents

Mark 7:9–13 GW

9 He added, “You have no trouble rejecting the commandments of God in order to keep your own traditions! 10 For example, Moses said, ‘Honor your father and your mother’ and ‘Whoever curses father or mother must be put to death.’ 11 But you say, ‘If a person tells his father or mother that whatever he might have used to help them is corban (that is, an offering to God), 12 he no longer has to do anything for his father or mother.’ 13 Because of your traditions you have destroyed the authority of God’s word. And you do many other things like that.”

This is going to get me in trouble

Is it possible that the reason why some of our children that are dying is because of not honoring their father or step father or mother or step mother?

Wait? is it also possible why some folks are dying spiritually because of the lack of honor to their spiritual parents???

Ephesians 6:1 NKJV

1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.

Colossians 3:20 NKJV

20 Children, obey your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing to the Lord.

The International Standard Bible Encyclopedia, Revised II. Function of the Father in the Family

Paul reiterated this

Ephesians 6:2–3 NKJV

2 “Honor your father and mother,” which is the first commandment with promise: 3 “that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.”

Ephesians 6:2 NKJV

2 “Honor your father and mother,” which is the first commandment with promise:

Some folks need to apologize to their parents.. But one thing i have learned you reap what you have sown..

Final Point #

Paul then teaches us fathers a little something,

Ephesians 6:4 NLT

4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.

Col

Colossians 3:21 NLT

21 Fathers, do not aggravate your children, or they will become discouraged.

Us Fathers have a way of provoking our Kids.. (aggravating our children) fathers can be aggy

it produces anger in our children

it produces discouragement

discipline and Instruction from the Lord

Next Week- we will discus the blended-mother..