The Making of a Godly Marriage part 2

Zig Ziller qoute about the wrong person

Peter is giving believers some what of a handbook for how to live Godly in a hostile world.

We cannot allow culture to define family

The Role of a Husband

The Role of a Wife

He gives us instructions in four areas that we have to learn how to flow in..

Government or Social interaction Your interaction with Society

Society=

Work Place with your Employers

Family

Church

The Context is this...

for functionality

That in the 1st century Roman ruled world a woman had few or no rights.

Dont submit when its sin or senseless or stupid

The thought is that they were both unbelievers and the one spouse got saved while they were already married.

Danger to Wife in waiting

As if marriage isn't difficult enough because Marriage will just magnify the person that you already are.

It just makes matters worse when one spouse is a believer and the other isn't

You are making a big mistake that one can ever make is to marry an unbeliever

1 Corinthians 6:14 ESV

14 And God raised the Lord and will also raise us up by his power.

Don’t marry someone who doesn't know the Lord

2 Corinthians 6:14 GW

14 Stop forming inappropriate relationships with unbelievers. Can right and wrong be partners? Can light have anything in common with darkness?

2 Corinthians 6:14 The Message

14 Don’t become partners with those who reject God. How can you make a partnership out of right and wrong? That’s not partnership; that’s war. Is light best friends with dark?

Sure there are exceptions that someone married someone that doesn't know the Lord and God allowed that unbelieving spouse to come to faith in the Lord Jesus Christ but that isn't as common.

The most common thing is that you have that believing spouse miserable because its very difficult ( its possible ) but its very difficult for a house to be in harmony when one does not know the Lord.

Or the marriage ends in heart ache and pain, not in every case but in most

So Peter is speaking to persons who were already married and one comes into a relationship with Jesus

There are grounds for divorce even though we don’t promote divorce

Abandonment = Spouse just leaves no longer desires to be married

Abuse = Mental Abuse , Emotional Abuse and Physical Abuse

Adultery

Continuation: don’t leave for the wrong reasons

And sometimes it still doesn't get better Your spouse could be your cross

The Deeds of a Godly Woman

The Actions of a Godly Woman

Submission

1 Peter 3:1 ESV

1 Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives,

Likewise= verse 13 Like Citizens verse 18 like employees

Because God tells us to Submit and because we choose to obey it doesn't make the individual or the system better or superior

For there to be order, for there to be functionality we must Submit

I think that a lot of times we miss it when it comes to the make up of the Kingdom

We are equal in the Spirit

Galatians 3:28 ESV

28 There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.

This is why I feel comfortable calling my Wife Pastor because the makeup of the Kingdom and our natural home is two different things

But when it comes to the Home by God’s design the Male is the head.

But before our feminist get to bent out of shape we are called to be subject to each other.

But we are called to be subject to each other.

Ephesians 5:21 ESV

21 submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.

Subject: place or arrange under, assign

to be submissive v. — to be or become inclined or willing to submit to orders or wishes of others or showing such inclination.

Liddell, H. G., Scott, R., Jones, H. S., & McKenzie, R. (1996). A Greek-English lexicon (p. 1897). Oxford: Clarendon Press.

to be submissive v. — to be or become inclined or willing to submit to orders or wishes of others or showing such inclination.

“being under authority”) carries the force of a command (cf. 2:18).

Line up under a military term.

This command is for wives to submit to their own husbands (cf. ; ).

The command does not require women to be subordinate to men in general but to their husbands as a function of order within the home.

A wife is to accept her place in the family under the leadership of her husband whom God has placed as head in the home.

Wives are to be submissive even if their husbands are unbelievers, so those men might be saved by the behavior of their wives.

Submission is an obligation (v. 1a). God has commanded it because, in His wisdom, He knows that this is the best arrangement for a happy, fulfilling marriage.

Subjection does not mean that the wife is inferior to the husband. In fact, in , Peter made it clear that the husband and wife are “heirs together.”

The man and woman are made by the same Creator out of the same basic material, and both are made in God’s image. God gave dominion to both Adam and Eve (), and in Jesus Christ Christian mates are one ().

Submission has to do with order and authority, not evaluation. For example, the slaves in the average Roman household were superior in many ways to their masters, but they still had to be under authority.

The buck private in the army may be a better person than the five-star general, but he is still a buck private. Even Christ Himself became a servant and submitted to God’s will. There is nothing degrading about submitting to authority or accepting God’s order. If anything, it is the first step toward fulfillment. And makes it clear that both husband and wife must first be submitted to Jesus Christ.

Husbands and wives must be partners, not competitors. After a wedding ceremony, I often privately say to the bride and groom, “Now, remember, from now on it’s no longer mine or yours, but ours.”

Pastor John Piper had some really good insight in light of submission

Submission is not agreeing on everything.

2. Submission does not mean leaving your brain at the altar.

3. Submission does not mean you do not try to influence your husband.

4. Submission is not putting the will of the husband before the will of Christ.

“I will not follow your lead on this, and I am not following you with a demeanor that tells you I want to follow your leadership but cannot in this moment, in this way.”

Don’t submit when its sin or senseless or stupid

5. Submission does not mean getting all of her spiritual strength through her husband.

6. Submission does not mean living or acting in fear.

1 Peter

1 Peter 3:1 ESV

1 Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives,

they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives= Pull back on the Words and let your life do all the talking

The Demeanor of a Godly Woman

a position assumed for a specific purpose

behavior toward others: outward manner

behavior toward others: outward manner

Merriam-Webster’s collegiate dictionary.

1 Peter 3:2 ESV

2 when they see your respectful and pure conduct.

1 Peter 3:3 ESV

3 Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear—

He is not saying that we cannot wear this things he’s saying that your beauty cant be defined by those things.

Your beauty isn't in something that you can buy

The Delight of a Godly Woman

1 Peter 3:4 ESV

4 but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.

Inner beauty is her prettiest attribute

Silent Preaching

Gentle and Quite : tranquil adjs. — being untroubled and free from disturbances; especially free of noise and uproar.

Literally means well ordered

1 Peter 3:5 ESV

5 For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands,

The Deceleration of a Godly Woman

1 Peter 3:6 AMP

6 It was thus that Sarah obeyed Abraham [following his guidance and acknowledging his headship over her by] calling him lord (master, leader, authority). And you are now her true daughters if you do right and let nothing terrify you [not giving way to hysterical fears or letting anxieties unnerve you].

1 Peter 3:1 ESV

1 Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives,

They May be won without a word by conduct of their wives:

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Proverbs 14:1 NLT

1 A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.

Proverbs 15:1 NLT

1 A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.

Proverbs 21:19 NIV

19 Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife.

Proverbs 25:21 ESV

21 If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat, and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink,

Proverbs 25:24 ESV

24 It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife.

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Proverbs 12:4 GW

4 A wife with strength of character is the crown of her husband, but the wife who disgraces him is like bone cancer.

1 Peter 3:7 ESV

7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.