2019.1.26 Give Me My Life Back

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intro Dr. Joe

6 sessions approx III’s are 40 mins ea.

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Intro

Brief Introduction

I need to confess. I’ve labeled this as a “depression” seminar. It’s about balance.

The title is “Give Me My Life Back.”

John 10:10 NKJV

10 The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.

thief n. — a criminal who typically relies on stealth to take property belonging to someone else.

thief n. — a criminal who typically relies on stealth to take property belonging to someone else.

it’s more than depression, it’s about living. when i look back over my life, i only had 2 seasons and they BOTH because I wasn’t living.

Q: ever been doing well but like the worst?!

when you have a funk that won’t leave, it’s because you’re not living.

I’m not negating the reality of chemical imbalances. We live in a fallen state. the earth is under a curse. medical issues. BUT, that doesn’t negate that Jesus’ ultimate intention for each of you is to give you Life!!! “I came to give you life.”

i came to give you life

John 10:10 NKJV

10 The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.

in an expansive or wide-ranging way.

abundantly adv. — in a manner marked by great quantity or degree; copiously. God came so we can be BIG, not dialed back.

in large quantities. "I was drinking copiously"

in an expansive or wide-ranging way.

in an expansive or wide-ranging way.

NIV - “have it to the full”

Holman “have it in abundance”

New Century “life in all its fullness”

NLT - “My purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life”

My purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life”

Tyndale House Publishers, Holy Bible: New Living Translation (Carol Stream, IL: Tyndale House Publishers, 2013), .

MSG- more and better life than they ever dreamed of.

more and better life than they ever dreamed of.

Q: How many can say that internally, looking at our families, our finances, purpose that we’re living “life better than we ever dreamed”…that we’re living?

Likely, even if none of the symptoms

Observation: He never said he’d give it to you.

John 10:10 NKJV

10 The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.

john 10:

Newton's First Law of Motion says that an object will remain in its state of motion unless acted upon by force. Essentially, this means that if an object is not moving, it will remain still until a force (a push or pull) acts on it.

App: If you’re heading for the good life…the abundant life, you have better chances of making there than you EVER would have to start heading towards depression-fatigue-burnout. UNLESS you are “acted upon by force” a traumatic event comes into your life.

This answers the question why you can be OK and feeling good - chugging along and you lose your job.

does that sound like the best life?

Number Line depression

The cloud won’t leave. Sleep won’t make it go away.

My story

Thanksgiving 2003

The last thing I had was abundant life.

This is what got my attention

Rewind to 2003 - start putting balls in mason jar

2003

major building project

lost a child

not the best place in our marriage

building a church - MAJOR issues with construction

lower back probs led to surgery

i couldn’t sleep. I was being medicated, but agents in the meds had side affects.

reason why i couldn’t sleep. building a church. we lost a child.

Steve Yungerburg: You can’t put anything else in the cup.

never dealt w wounds/pain of my parents divorce

was pretty hard on myself and achieving…never rest

Lessons I Learned

Play time isn’t just for children - Graphic

I can be silly. Even more silly at home. I think I’m making up for lost time.

I matter

I deserve not to have to pray for folk. I deserve a day off. I deserve a vacation.

My feelings matter - I’d have to learn the 2nd part of this.

everything modeled wasn’t right “men don’t cry”

it’s ok to cry

I don’t have to know all the answers

I’m not critical to the plan - didn’t need Adam to create, a professor to teach noah how to build, david to be the first king, hosea to marry a chaste woman, joseph to help Him w Jesus!! God’s got a track record of doing it without folk

Salem grew

Brene Brown - Cultivating Rest and Play Guide Post 7

I forgot this which became key ingredient of permission that I gave the enemy.

I’m not critical to the plan

everything modeled wasn’t right “men don’t cry”

it’s ok to cry

I don’t have to know all the answers.

in my weakness He’s made strong.

I’m not critical to the plan

Salem grew.

I matter.

Close

Don’t go as far as I went. I’m here to tell you pull the bottom up to yourself

I’m not critical to the plan

Salem grew.

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Session 2

Depression. Darkness. Despair. Finally a complete breakdown. For three years, the author fought against overwhelming accusations, condemnation and burnout. As he descended to the depths, Johannes Facius struggled with issues that would trouble any suffering Christian, let alone an internationally known preacher and leader. Then one morning God revealed Himself in all His healing, restoring power. Lessons from a broken preacher, this book offers real hope and encouragement as it illustrates that God is always in control.

I deserve not to have to pray for folk. I deserve a day off. I deserve a vacation.

grew up w identity so closely tied to my father

never dealt w wounds/pain of my parents divorce

was pretty hard on myself and achieving…never rest

Punching her.

Close

Don’t go as far as I went. I’m here to tell you pull the bottom up to yourself

Stress

reason why i couldn’t sleep. building a church. we lost a child.

Steve Yungerburg: You can’t put anything else in the cup.

The stages

https://www.healthline.com/health/depression/effects-on-body#1 (graphic of the human body)

The physical affect on the brain

Stifles oxygen, shrinkage, structural change

affects: brain dev, memory, mood, learning

Q: How do we try to stop the slide?

A: We try to do more

Ultimately Depression can lead to suicide.

Story: I remember driving home (I wanted something so badly) thinking about driving into a ditch.

Stages https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/depression/what-are-the-stages-of-depression/

Image

My story

The spectrum of depression - Fatigue - Burnout - Anxiety - Depression

Exhaustion - Fatigue - Stress - Depression

The Purpose of Rest

A rest from what He’s done but also a rest for what He was getting ready to do

When I finally came to understand who I was, I began to see. Something woke up in me. I started to grind.

Don’t go as far as I went. I’m here to tell you pull the bottom up to yourself

How did my issues affect you?

As a woman, wh

What would you say to women that are in the throws of trying to

As a woman, how’d you feel watching and can’t help? How do you balance hurting yourself and watching me hurt?

What would you tell these men that are struggling with depression, burnout, fatigue?

Principles

No matter how far you advance, your career, cash, cribs, cars won’t satisfy the emptiness and lonliness.

Session 2

Intro

It’s not a one size fits all.

The physical effects on the brain.

The brain

Adrenal fatigue

Cortisol released

transition: I thought I’d learned my lesson.

Stages to depression

transition: I thought I’d learned my lesson.

Things got pretty bad. They were prolonged. Ever had a problem.

Ill: RAM

So I get to the door of this new season. I still have some inner healing, hadn’t grieved a few things, and now this.

Tell My 2nd Story

Different Energies

Physical energy

Emotional Engery: In itself, emotional energy is neutral. It is the feeling sensation and physiological reaction that makes a specific emotion positive or negative. Feeling is what you label as anger, sadness, joy or fear. It is then your interpretations or thoughts about emotional energy that give it meaning.

The sensations you feel in your body hold the key to unlocking limiting patterns, transforming stress, and generating lasting happiness. Your body gives a constant stream of reliable information about your experience in the form of sensation. It’s a library of who you are at the deepest level, including all that has happened to you and all that you dream about. Understanding your body sensations will transform your life. - The Body Mind Connection & E-motions

Question: Do you feel these sensations regularly. Some do some don’t. I didn’t. Most of us learn to shut them off.

The Problem: I’d learn to turn them off.

spiritual energy

Pt: When the enemy can’t get you with the obvious, he doesn’t just stop trying. He tries a different access point.

I had 2 things working against me.

1. Men don’t cry. I’d learned how not to feel the pain.

2. I was a high functioning/performing.

soul energy: I had to keep it together. We weren’t far out of the woods.

Q: Where does a man learn how not to do what God created him to do?

A: I’d learned as kid not to feel.

technical term “dissociate”

Stages of a child

Step 1 "The Introduction":  Every child deserves the opportunity to know God in the womb and throughout life.

Step 2 "The Room aka The Environment":  Every child deserves a safe place to discover himself and his environment.  He deserves to know where the boundaries are.  Every child should be able to say “I like this” or “I don't like that."

Step 3 "The Rules": Every child must have moral and social parameters established to teach him how to reconcile when there's been an offense.

Step 4 "How to Relate": Every child has to learn how to grow through positive and negative feedback.

Step 5 "Receive/Reciprocate": This is likely the largest portion of development.  Every child has to learn how to give and receive.  Take what's been given to them and when they should give them back. 

Step 6 "Reigning": Every child has to master a skill set so that they can have something to give. The object is to wlk in dominion over bad and good portions of life. 

Step 7 "Released": Every child deserves to be accepted as an adult without assaulting you in your area of deficiency.

If any of these aren’t supplied at appropriate age or repaired as a man, the end product will be a defective man. The problem

Ill: Jordan drug suit case out of the trunk. It drug down the rear bumper. I could see that scar. But how do you see the scars on your heart? You typically see them by the trail of pain you leave.

For those that say “I’m good” or “I’ll do it for my wife and kids.” WRONG Drug addicts and alcoholics have to want to be free for themselves.

1st Commandment

Matthew 22:38 NKJV

38 This is the first and great commandment.

Matthew 22:37 NKJV

37 Jesus said to him, “ ‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’

2nd Commandment:

Matthew 22:39 NKJV

39 And the second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’

Coke Bottle Illustration -“Leaking”

paranoia and depression

“leaking”

recent years i’ve come to understand it’s unprocessed ______________ grief, anger,

when you don’t take that stuff to the garbage it “leaks”

what does it look like? A: Everybody close enough to you gets the unfortunate pleasure of getting sticky.

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Session 3

Intro

Alecia’s portion

How did my issues affect you?

As a woman, what would you say to women that are in the throws of trying to

As a woman, what would you say to women that are in the throws of trying to deal w a spouse?

What would you say to women that are in the throws of trying to

As a woman, how’d you feel watching and can’t help? How do you balance you yourself hurting and watching me hurt and protecting the kids?

As a woman, how’d you feel watching and can’t help? How do you balance hurting yourself and watching me hurt?

What would you tell these men that are struggling with depression, burnout, fatigue?

What would you tell these men that are struggling with depression, burnout, fatigue?

this time was different natural (1st time) spiritual (2nd time)

An option to consider…Hormone Imbalance

Catch 22depression can throw your hormones off likewise imbalanced hormones can cause depression to set in.

Fatigue, moodiness, not feeling healthy, depression, irritability, nervousness, lack of focus or concentration, insomnia, lack of sex drive, erectile dysfunction, lack of vitality, decreased muscle mass & strength, hair loss, increased fat around the waist, urinary changes, reduced bone mass.

2 Graphics

https://healthywa.wa.gov.au/Articles/A_E/Depression-reversing-the-vicious-cycle

Catch 22depression can throw your hormones off likewise imbalanced hormones can cause depression to set in.

Fatigue, moodiness, not feeling healthy, depression, irritability, nervousness, lack of focus or concentration, insomnia, lack of sex drive, erectile dysfunction, lack of vitality, decreased muscle mass & strength, hair loss, increased fat around the waist, urinary changes, reduced bone mass.

Medical treatment

medicine ONLY cover up emotional pain, broken hearts, abuse, loneliness

Ill: Friend was dating-she had severe depression. They didn’t make it because she con’t to say “God’s going to heal me!” He said “Well until He does you need to take your medicine!”

Your Christianity can get in the way your advancement. David “encourage your ownself

On the other hand, God is not under any obligation to do anything for you.

And it doesn’t mean that He doesn’t love you!!

Actually He’s behind the scenes (Under the hood working for your good! Gen 50:20) Wanna know how I know cause you’re here!

Is it demonic? - address suicide

see it running in the family bloodline - familial spirits

“Bank robbers don’t rob empty banks.” Pt. There is something in you that’s valuable…when are you going to believe.

2 Corinthians 4:7 NKJV

7 But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the excellence of the power may be of God and not of us.

2 Cor 4

“I once heard a South African friend share the reason behind the urgency with which he approaches his work. He said that many people believe that the most valuable land in the world is found in the oil fields of Saudi Arabia, the skyscraper-lined streets of Manhattan, or the diamond mines of South Africa. His contention, however, is that the most valuable land in the world is not in any of these places, but rather in the cemetery, because it is there that we find buried the unsurpassable value of businesses never started, novels never written, and dreams never pursued.” - The Accidental Creative - Todd Henry

There is a warfare dimension.

Along the way to him trying to take you out, he uses you to take your family out.

How did my issues affect you?

As a woman, wh

What would you say to women that are in the throws of trying to

As a woman, how’d you feel watching and can’t help? How do you balance hurting yourself and watching me hurt?

What would you tell these men that are struggling with depression, burnout, fatigue?

Principles

Mood Inhibitor drugs

Image 1 -> Image 2

Pt: You’ve got to do something. the worse thing to do is nothing. MAKE yourself. God’s made you to be in motion “human BEINGS”

What I Learned

What I Learned

++1. Love me.

++2. I'm special

++3. Life ≠ Stuff

++4. Be grateful

I love me.

some of us don’t know ourselves or we only know ourselves in certain areas.

my choices didn’t say “I love me.”

I’m Special -God made me a one off

An artist will produce numbered prints “1:350”

quad’s shirt - He knows that not only he’s unique but all 7 B+ are too

No matter how far you advance, your career, cash, cribs, cars won’t satisfy the emptiness and lonliness.

Life ≠ Stuff

No matter how far you advance, your career, cash, cribs, cars won’t satisfy the emptiness and lonliness.

Matthew 10:19 NKJV

19 But when they deliver you up, do not worry about how or what you should speak. For it will be given to you in that hour what you should speak;

scripture “where moth and dust doesn’t corrupt”

4. To be grateful

you can’t stay depressed and grateful at the same time

Close

You can start coming out of your slump today. You can choose to exert violent force, unbalanced force TODAY!

exercise: 5 things you’re grateful for

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Depression. Darkness. Despair. Finally a complete breakdown. For three years, the author fought against overwhelming accusations, condemnation and burnout. As he descended to the depths, Johannes Facius struggled with issues that would trouble any suffering Christian, let alone an internationally known preacher and leader. Then one morning God revealed Himself in all His healing, restoring power. Lessons from a broken preacher, this book offers real hope and encouragement as it illustrates that God is always in control.

grew up w identity so closely tied to my father

never dealt w wounds/pain of my parents divorce

was pretty hard on myself and achieving…never rest

Stress

The stages

https://www.healthline.com/health/depression/effects-on-body#1 (graphic of the human body)

The physical affect on the brain

Stifles oxygen, shrinkage, structural change

affects: brain dev, memory, mood, learning

Q: How do we try to stop the slide?

A: We try to do more

Ultimately Depression can lead to suicide.

Story: I remember driving home (I wanted something so badly) thinking about driving into a ditch.

Stages https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/depression/what-are-the-stages-of-depression/

Image

My story

The spectrum of depression - Fatigue - Burnout - Anxiety - Depression

Exhaustion - Fatigue - Stress - Depression

The Purpose of Rest

A rest from what He’s done but also a rest for what He was getting ready to do

When I finally came to understand who I was, I began to see. Something woke up in me. I started to grind.

Matthew 6:19 NKJV

19 “Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal;