A Godly Marriage

I. A Biblical Pattern for Marriage ()

A. The Context of our Walk (Ch. 2-5)

Ephesians 2:2 ESV

2 in which you once walked, following the course of this world, following the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that is now at work in the sons of disobedience—

Ephesians 2:10 ESV

10 For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.

Ephesians 4:1 ESV

1 I therefore, a prisoner for the Lord, urge you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called,

Ephesians 4:17 ESV

17 Now this I say and testify in the Lord, that you must no longer walk as the Gentiles do, in the futility of their minds.

Ephesians 5:2 ESV

2 And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.

Ephesians 5:8 ESV

8 for at one time you were darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as children of light

Ephesians 5:15 ESV

15 Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise,

B. The Content of our Walk in Marriage (5:22-33)

1. For Wives (vv. 22-23)

Ephesians 5:22–23 ESV

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.

2. For Husbands (vv. 25-31)

Ephesians 5:25–31 ESV

25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”

Eph 5.

Wives- submit

Husbands- sacrifice

Submit & Sacrifice = Biblical Love

Biblical love is “the self” surrendering to God fully and completely by serving one another sacrificially and redemptively.

Biblical love is a radical change from self to unself.

Biblical love is a radical change from self to unself.

It is a selfless and sacrificial investment in the wellbeing of another.

It is a selfless and sacrificial investment in the wellbeing of another.

It is a conscious decision to act first in behalf of another rather than first in behalf of yourself.

It is a conscious decision to act first in behalf of another rather than first in behalf of yourself.

C. The Picture of our Walk in Marriage (5:32)

Ephesians 5:32 ESV

32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.

Marriage is a picture, it is a symbolic representation of the gospel!

In the relationship of the wife to the husband:

Ephesians 5:22–24 ESV

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.

In the relationship of the husband to the wife:

Ephesians 5:25–30 ESV

25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body.

Eph 5.25

D. The Goal of our Walk in Marriage (5:31-33)

Ephesians 5:31–33 ESV

31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Eph 5.