The Art of Attraction 2-3-19

King Solomon’s “Song of Songs”

The song of songs: The fact that this “greatest of all songs” focuses on romance and marital love shows us what a high regard God has for the institution of marriage. We might expect that the songs of songs be a song that only praises God instead of one that celebrates love and sensuality within marriage.

Son of David: 1,005 songs ( 1 Kings 4:32 ) This was the greatest among them hence (The Song of Songs)

Origen (c.185–c.254), an important teacher in the early church, said of the Song of Solomon: “I advise and counsel everyone who is not yet rid of vexations of the flesh and blood, and has not ceased to feel the passions of this bodily nature, to refrain from reading the book and the things that will be said about it.

Three main Characters:

The young maiden (the Shulamite)

The young man (Solomon, the Beloved)

Friends (the Daughters of Jerusalem)

This is undeniably a strong woman—who happens to do most of the talking through the Song of Solomon. “Nearly twice as many verses are from her lips than from his.…

Reading this collection of love poems, one might easily think that this is primarily a book about falling in love. Instead, it is much more accurately seen as a book about building love.

Song of Solomon 1:1–3 NIV

1 Solomon’s Song of Songs. 2 Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth— for your love is more delightful than wine. 3 Pleasing is the fragrance of your perfumes; your name is like perfume poured out. No wonder the young women love you!

‘perfume poured forth,’ This expresses the respect and esteem the maiden had for the character and reputation

This should be spoken of us in all our relationships, I’m glad your here!

“From the start they focused on the other’s character and kindness toward each other. They learned to value and care for each other as persons.”

This shows us that a wise woman chooses a man whom others see to be a man of character. There is something not-quite-right if she thinks she can see what an amazing guy he is, but no one else can see it.

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Song of Solomon 1:4–6 NIV

4 Take me away with you—let us hurry! Let the king bring me into his chambers. We rejoice and delight in you; we will praise your love more than wine. How right they are to adore you! 5 Dark am I, yet lovely, daughters of Jerusalem, dark like the tents of Kedar, like the tent curtains of Solomon. 6 Do not stare at me because I am dark, because I am darkened by the sun. My mother’s sons were angry with me and made me take care of the vineyards; my own vineyard I had to neglect.

She agrees they should adore him; He’s amazing!

Seems to possibly say it from a “less than attitude.” But sees herself as lovely

Don’t miss what’s amazing about me.

This Gen looks camera deep.

Song of Solomon 1:7 NIV

7 Tell me, you whom I love, where you graze your flock and where you rest your sheep at midday. Why should I be like a veiled woman beside the flocks of your friends?

She refuses to behave like the world

Spiritual attraction.

Love and worship God.

Pursue my God-given purpose.

Have Godly standards.

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Song of Solomon 1:9–14 NIV

9 I liken you, my darling, to a mare among Pharaoh’s chariot horses. 10 Your cheeks are beautiful with earrings, your neck with strings of jewels. 11 We will make you earrings of gold, studded with silver. 12 While the king was at his table, my perfume spread its fragrance. 13 My beloved is to me a sachet of myrrh resting between my breasts. 14 My beloved is to me a cluster of henna blossoms from the vineyards of En Gedi.

2. Emotional attraction.

Value them.

Speak well of them.

Think good thoughts about them.

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Song of Solomon 1:15–17 NIV

15 How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful! Your eyes are doves. 16 How handsome you are, my beloved! Oh, how charming! And our bed is verdant. 17 The beams of our house are cedars; our rafters are firs.

3. Physical attraction.

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Song of Solomon 2:1–2 NIV

1 I am a rose of Sharon, a lily of the valleys. 2 Like a lily among thorns is my darling among the young women.

Song of Solomon 2:5–7 NIV

5 Strengthen me with raisins, refresh me with apples, for I am faint with love. 6 His left arm is under my head, and his right arm embraces me. 7 Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.

Raisin’s were an aphrodisiac Don’t minimize their sexual feelings

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