A PRAYING CHURCH
SITUATION
COMPLICATION
THE PREACHER MOST OFTEN HAS TO ENDURE THESE THREATS ALONE
Since relational desires and interactions are intrinsic to human nature, it ought to strike us as odd that so many pastors are relatively friendless. That’s not to say that pastors are disliked or uncared for. On the contrary, pastors are generally loved and well-known. However, most pastors I know suffer from extreme feelings of loneliness. Many believe that outside of their ministry acquaintances who pastor other churches, they are truly friendless. Now, I doubt there are many pastors turning to volleyballs for friendship (although I did know a pastor who called his KJV Bible “James”). However, few feel they have someone who knows them intimately.
Since relational desires and interactions are intrinsic to human nature, it ought to strike us as odd that so many pastors are relatively friendless. That’s not to say that pastors are disliked or uncared for. On the contrary, pastors are generally loved and well-known. However, most pastors I know suffer from extreme feelings of loneliness. Many believe that outside of their ministry acquaintances who pastor other churches, they are truly friendless. Now, I doubt there are many pastors turning to volleyballs for friendship (although I did know a pastor who called his KJV Bible “James”). However, few feel they have someone who knows them intimately.
THE PEOPLE ARE OBLIVIOUS TO THE PERILS THAT THE PREACHER FACES
There’s a final reason why a handful of disgruntled members seems like an army. Often the few are powerful personalities, and so the rest of the church, which may actually support the pastor, doesn’t want to stand up to them. Wrote one pastor on the survey: “I presently have a family who fights my ministry. No matter what I do, it is wrong, and most of their criticism is shared with other members of the congregation behind my back. What really hurts, however, is not their criticism and personal attacks, but the lack of support I feel from the local power structure.” When the congregational majority becomes the “silent majority,” pastors feel all alone. “My leadership style led to conflict with a very dominant figure in the congregation who wanted everything done his way,” tells one minister. “I felt for a time that all the other church folk left me to fight the battle alone. The lack of support from those I thought were behind me brought me my greatest sense of discouragement ever in ministry.”
