Partner Finder
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OPENING:
OPENING:
In our series on “Love & Relationships”
Pastor Mike talked about the “Marriage Supper of the Lamb”
At the end of the Bible that spoke about at the end of the world, the Marriage Supper of the Lamb is
And then Pastor Justin talked about the “First and Sacrificial” Love of God
God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone”
Today let me talk to you about another very essential part of “Love & Relationships”
HOW TO FIND THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE?
HOW TO FIND THE PARTNER FOR LIFE?
Maryann McMellon went from bed to bed
Became alcoholic and dysfunctional
She was desperate to find her partner
Uber Story from February 14, I just had one passenger for that whole night of driving, just one!
And she is, let’s hide her in the name of Lucille
Facts about Valentine’s Day:
Ancient Roman festival called Lupercalia which took place every February 15.
Ancient Roman festival called Lupercalia which took place every February 15.
The festival honored Juno, the Roman goddess of women and marriage
The festival honored Juno, the Roman goddess of women and marriage
Annual ritual believed to ward off evil spirits and increase fertility.
Pope Gelasius officially condemned the pagan festival and banned it’s observance
Pope Gelasius added to the official church list of feast days in A.D. 496—St. Valentine’s Day
While Pope Gelasius officially condemned the pagan festival and banned it’s observance
Annual ritual believed to ward off evil spirits and increase fertility.
Pope Gelasius added to the official church list of feast days in A.D. 496—St. Valentine’s Day
Soon, people were no longer looking to obtain fertility by being beaten with strips of animal skin called februa.
Instead, they turned their focus to St. Valentine
THERE COULD BE NOTHING WRONG WITH COMMEMORATION, BUT THE PROBLEM IS THE MANNER OF CELEBRATION
Soon, people were no longer looking to obtain fertility by being beaten with strips of animal skin called februa. Instead, they turned their focus to St. Valentine
We do not, and we must not pray through St. Valentine
While it is ok to commemorate an outstanding christian, we must not pray through the
Because there is only one mediator between man and God, and that is our Lord Jesus
5 For there is one God and one mediator between God and mankind, the man Christ Jesus,
5 that there’s one God and only one, and one Priest-Mediator between God and us—Jesus,
Going back to Lucille, she was also desperate to find the love of her life, her partner for life
To understand how we can find the love of our life, our partner for life
Let me take you to the very first “human relationship” that ever occured
The relationship of Adam & Eve
Did you know that it was God who designed the “relationship” between men and women starting with Adam & Eve
God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone”
18 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
It is the Lord
God is the author of marriage
And the founder of family
But before the very first human relationship, God bestowed 4 things upon the very first couple that is carried until to this day
What are those four?…
If you read carefully through & 2… you will see LARA
Liberty | in other words “freewill”
16 And the Lord God commanded the man, “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden;
9 The Lord God made all kinds of trees grow out of the ground—trees that were pleasing to the eye and good for food. In the middle of the garden were the tree of life and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil.
16 And the Lord God commanded the man, “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden;
Authority
26 Then God said, “Let us make mankind in our image, in our likeness, so that they may rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky, over the livestock and all the wild animals, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.”
16 And the Lord God commanded the man, “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden;
26 Then God said, “Let us make mankind in our image, in our likeness, so that they may rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky, over the livestock and all the wild animals, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.”
Responsibility
15 The Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it.
Accountability
17 but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat from it you will certainly die.”
16 And the Lord God commanded the man, “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; 17 but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat from it you will certainly die.”
In finding our partners we must bear in mind that we are given the
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15 The Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it.
LIBERTY (Freewill ) to choose
AUTHORITY to decide
RESPONSIBILITY to find
and ACCOUNTABILITY throughout the process
Who among you are here are currently in the process of finding their partners?… Raise your hands
To those who are in a relationship, do not judge the book by it’s cover
Do not judge this message by its title
I pray that even though you’re married, engaged, or in a relationship, He will still still speak to you through this message entitled “Partner Finder”
In proverbs 18:22 it says
22 Find a good spouse, you find a good life— and even more: the favor of God!
In finding the love of your life, there are matters that are non-negotiable
First of alL...
WE MUST HAVE SPIRITUAL UNITY
WE MUST HAVE SPIRITUAL UNITY
14 Don’t become partners with those who reject God. How can you make a partnership out of right and wrong? That’s not partnership; that’s war. Is light best friends with dark? 15 Does Christ go strolling with the Devil? Do trust and mistrust hold hands?
2 Corinthians 6:14-15
National Survey (marriage magazine) reveals that 1 out of every 2 & half marriage ended up in divorce
On the other hand, when a couple is spiritually unified, and they practice healthy spiritual habits together:
Attend church together
Pray together
Read the Bible together
The number of divorce drops to 1 out of 1,105 marriages
Are you willing to gamble? Are you willing to depend on chances?
If he or she didn’t change before the marriage, do you think he or she will change after the marriage?
In a church wedding ceremony you’ll see the isle, you’ll see the altar and you’ll hear the hymm
Isle, Altar, Him.... I’ll alter him!
Only God can alter a person
Secondly...
WE MUST HAVE LIFE PURPOSE COMPATIBILITY
WE MUST HAVE LIFE PURPOSE COMPATIBILITY
Amos
3 Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction?
3 Do two people walk hand in hand if they aren’t going to the same place?
it’s not gonna last
life of conflict
God SHAPEd you
He gifted you
If you missed your purpose because of marriage, don’t marry
You may be both believers but if you don’t have the same purpose, it could become a disaster
A bad marriage is worst than staying single
Enormous power when both husband and wife has compatible purpose in life
WE MUST BOTH BE EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY
WE MUST BOTH BE EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY
3 Do two people walk hand in hand if they aren’t going to the same place?
Everyone is broken
Wife abuse, domestic violence everybody is a sinner
Whoever I marry must have no uncontrolled anger
No Addictions
No bitterness | bitterness will eat you alive | whatever you resist, persist
Not selfish |
proverbs 18:1
Not greedy |
you will be always in debt | |
An emotionally healthy person are:
marry a generous person
marry a kind person
Tells the truth | | Love is based on trust, trust is based and truth
You don’t marry a person, you marry a family...
CLOSE:
CLOSE:
If you are already in a relationship, and realized that:
You do not have SPIRITUAL UNITY with your partner
Your LIFE PURPOSE is not compatible
That you are both not EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY
What are you going to do?
Multiple Choice:
Run away from that relationship?
File a divorce?
Make Jesus the center of your marriage?
When Joseph found out that Mary was pregnant
It was God through an angel that saved their marriage
It was God that saved mine
It’s only God that can save yours ...
Let’s sing “Jesus at the Center”