What does God say about Parenting? (3)

What does the Bible say about Discipline?

Proverbs 13:24 NASB95

He who withholds his rod hates his son, But he who loves him disciplines him diligently.

Proverbs 13:24 KJV 1900

He that spareth his rod hateth his son: But he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

Proverbs 22:1 NASB95

A good name is to be more desired than great wealth, Favor is better than silver and gold.

Proverbs 22:15 NASB95

Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; The rod of discipline will remove it far from him.

Proverbs 23:13 NASB95

Do not hold back discipline from the child, Although you strike him with the rod, he will not die.

Proverbs 22:6 NASB95

Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he is old he will not depart from it.

Proverbs 29:15 NASB95

The rod and reproof give wisdom, But a child who gets his own way brings shame to his mother.

Proverbs 29:17 NASB95

Correct your son, and he will give you comfort; He will also delight your soul.

Proverbs 3:12 NASB95

For whom the Lord loves He reproves, Even as a father corrects the son in whom he delights.

Hebrews 12:6 NASB95

For those whom the Lord loves He disciplines, And He scourges every son whom He receives.”

Principle- Disciplining your children is loving your children.

Principle- Disciplining your child has eternal impacts.

II. What is the rod? The rod is a parent, in faith toward God and faithfulness toward his or her children, undertaking the responsibility of careful, timely, measured, and controlled use of punishment to underscore the importance of obeying God, thus rescuing the child from continuing in his foolishness until death. Let’s go through that definition one step at a time. A Parental Exercise The Bible does NOT grant permission to all adults to engage in the use of the rod. In Scripture, it is always found in the context of a parent-child relationship. An Act of Faith God has mandated the use of the rod. The parent obeys, not because he perfectly understands how it works, but because God has commanded it. Its use is an expression of confidence in God’s wisdom and the trustworthiness of his counsel. An Act of Faithfulness This is an expression of love and commitment to your child recognizing that in discipline there is hope, and refusing to be a willing party to your child’s spiritual death. A Responsibility It is not the parent determining to punish. It is the parent determining to obey. The parent is God’s representative undertaking on God’s behalf what God has called him to do. A Measured Use of Punishment The rod is the careful, timely, measured and controlled use of physical punishment. It is never a venting of parental anger. It is not what the parent does out of frustration. The parent knows the proper measure of severity for this particular child at this particular time. And the child knows what is to come.

A Rescue Mission The child who needs discipline with the rod has become distanced from his parents through disobedience. The application of the rod is designed to rescue the child from continuing in his foolishness and to restore peace between the parent and child and thus to the home.

When to Discipline:

When you have given a directive that your child has heard and understood, and is within his capacity to obey, and he has not obeyed:

1. without challenge

2. without excuse

3. without delay