Sunday March 17

Good morning, Heartland church. So good to see you. Go ahead and stand to your feet are going to Worship the Lord this morning.

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Come up this morning. And then I welcome to Heartland church are aimed at doing an accomplishing here at Heartland Church through the Gathering the growing the giving in the going is a see hearts and homes awaken for the love of God and that were seen that happen. And so this morning is one part of the four parts that we call our mission to gather grow given go and we believe it as you do that you commit yourself to showing up that's his 90% of just being a Christian is showing up where God is and so I just commend you all for showing up here for those who are joining us by live welcome and we pray that in the in the music in the preaching of the word and the time of Fellowship that we have the you encounter God's love God's great love for you but also the good things that he has for you Bible says that to gather so that you can stir one another up to love and Good works. And so we're here to to bask in the love of God, but also to discover that awesome things that he has for our life. And so are we have a guest speaker today? I'll introduce him in a little bit but it's just a good day to be in the house of the Lord that we get to pray for one another and to believe for one another and so this is the time that we set aside as we enter into worship to make a request known to be prayed for and so is we sing these next few songs. I want invite you to come down if there is a if you're dealing with sickness the Bible says in James chapter 5 verse 13, if any among you are sick of the Elders of the church pray for the sick and anointing with oil in the prayer of faith will heal the sick another awesome promise that we have in scripture. And so we know they were getting closer and closer to the day of our total salvation total healing and that but why not today, so let's let's just let Faith rise during this time. If you do have a need it doesn't even have to be sickness. It can be any other issue that you happen to be dealing with you just need to share that burden. I'll be down here. I'll pray for you Anointed with oil and believe God to move on your behalf. Amen.

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You have been so so good.

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There's no shadow.

That again. There's no Shadow. You won't light up Mountain you won't climb, and then there's no okay. I don't mind synonym.

Thank you God.

Aren't you glad this morning that we serve a god? Through any measure go through anything to find us to redeem us to love us climb know why he won't tear down to get through to us this morning. Amen. Aren't you grateful that we serve that God that personal loving faithful consuming fire of God.

Mountain you won't climb up coming after me.

Your great love father.

Thank you for your spirit Lord in this place this morning.

Thank you. God Have Your Way father in this place Jesus?

I take care of my heart.

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I never gonna get it. Never gonna that means

You're never gonna let Never Gonna that means I never got a lot never going to love me and you're never going to laugh. Never going to love me in time.

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Thank you. God for no longer slaves to fear. We have nothing to fear Lord You have overcome. overcome the world

Just lift him up. Give him praise this morning and your own voice. Shout out to him Proclaim his goodness church is worth. He is good this morning. God We Praise You Lord we lift your name high above all other names. We pray Lord, you take the glory that you deserve this morning Jesus. All praise be to your name father God. Thank you for this church God for your people. Be magnified here today. Cheese's.

Were called to be followers of Jesus.

Followers of Jesus not just finders of Jesus. but I do hope that you may be found him today in the songs with your hearts awaken the his great love for you. Is power towards you who believe that you are being changed from glory to glory? The scripture says then what happens when you behold him. We allow our eyes to be fixed Upon Jesus upon what he's done, but I pray what is doing some awesome? Tear this morning, like he always does but we just need to recognize that we need to celebrate that. When we show up here we we show up to. Define what God's doing Lord, what is your will for my life for this day? And Finding Jesus is a part of it, but we're not supposed to just stay still and I'm supposed to stay in one place.

God's word says it without faith is impossible to please God. That's just because God's constantly moving and is constantly wanting you to be where he is and if you need peace in your life. I firmly believe that. Peace comes to those who seek for it and if you're one piece of show up where you're at. Maybe it's a habit that you've been stuck in. Maybe it's something that maybe it's a grudge. Maybe it's and maybe just and we all grapple with our fallen nature sin. working in our lives working in the world around us and do we need to find where the where God is in the move into that? And so I just wanted to throw this out there for you this morning is that their good works are things that God has destined you to do things that you're going to love when you discover them people that you're going to love when you discover them and I just want to and I believe that God that that is a key to change in our lives. This is finding where God is and moving to him finding him, but also following him or followers of Jesus not just finders of Jesus. And so we're going to pray that Lord the Lord would show us where he is today and give us the faith to move. And for those of you who've gotten out of your ID for Grace to you this morning and New York's continue to have faith in Courage as we as we grow in our walk in our trust in the Lord in our love for one another that we would find God here in our midst find Christ. So we're going to pray that the Jesus would be exalted in that we would he would continue to be cherished and and just celebrated here in our Med Spa. Thank you for the promise of your spirit. We thank you that you have given us more joy. then any any outcomes that this world could ever hope to be defined in the fruitless Pursuits of pleasure God I thank you that you have given us or the oil of gladness for the spirit of heaviness the Garment of Praise God for God first and Beauty for Ashes Lord, you have made it possible for us to move from the state that we were in God when we were dead in our sins you died for us Lord that we might live and I pray Lord that your name will be exalted here at Heartland Church got that your name would be exalted over this region over this community that your name will be exalted lower than you would be seen far above Lord all of the circumstances and all of that situation that we find ourselves in that make us feel that the death and destruction in the god the things that would steal our joy and leave us in patterns of depression and I got I just know that your God you're calling us out of those things and I pray father today Lord that people would move depression into the light into the very relationship that they were born to have God predestined them to have from the beginning of time that they when they find you or that they would follow you and follow you with their whole hog. God I pray that you give great courage to your people Lord to continue pursuing you God with whole hearts. Lord I pray that God that when we save God your Awakening Hearts God and we cry out to the Lord. Would you awaken hearts in this place God that we would see that happen God that we would see people got turning from Darkness to light God from sin to righteousness guy from dissension into pieces and father finding Lord that there are in a broad open place got a place of a plenty father that they need not covet. They need not worry be anxious for anything. But making the request now trust in a father who is faithful to give good gifts to his children.

God we pray that in the moments that follow in the brief time that we have together that you would awaken Hearts it away kit homes, because that's the reason that you positioned as I believe in this time is a church. Lord is to declare your praise to this next Generation did this generation go to the generation to come Lord. We know that until every tribe every tongue every nation has heard your name Lord. You will not return it. So God, we pray will be exalted here. And I pray that we would have a heart to see your name exalted among all nations.

But we know that's not going to happen until your name is exalted over a home since so I pray Lord that today God we would have a strong sense of calling string a strong sense of mission or to see your name exalted over all homes in the way. We love our wives and her husband's in the way that we we love our children and show up in their lives in the messes up their lives and continuing to to shower them with Grace and point them in the way of your word. Order for your blessing upon JP. Is he ministers your word this morning and God that you would make many glad it's we receive the good news today. We thank you for it. That's why we're here in Jesus precious name. Hitman, all right church will take a moment to transition to say hi to one another and so going to take out take up one set of lights, please. And if you need to use the restrooms, you should have laid in your new restrooms are across the hall. You can grab a cup of coffee you have maybe five minute break 3 minute break will see 3 minutes and we'll be back here shortly.

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I don't want to point out if you are new here. Please take a moment to fill out one of these cards. We want to get to know you a little better. I felt like I was in a monster truck rally or something announcing Grave Digger.

A few things one is if you haven't filled one of these out, please do we want to get to know you a little bit better but on the backside if you have any prayer requests in this goes for just in general if any of you have prayer requests that you would like us to pray for in our prayer meetings or put it on the Facebook prayer Wall go ahead and fill one of these out and you can hand it in at the offering time or you can give it to one of our hosts at the information booth to the right at the information booth on your way out few things to talk about real quick. We have next week next Sunday immediately following service. We're going to be doing a children's Steam Workshop. So for those of you who are involved in children's ministry, we're going to be touching on some new things are going to be doing your the mission of our children's ministries that have a safe is to create a safe joy-filled environment where kids Hearts can awaken to the love of God. And so the two big things there is it our kids safe force of all. I have a sense of safety before they feel like they can actually like beloved but we want them to have a blast back there. And so we have some things are going to be introducing. I believe they're going to help us accomplish those two things. If you're looking to get involved in kids Ministries is also a good time to show up with ask you to fill out one of our ministry team involvement packets. Actually just a form if you have the app. You can fill it out there or you can grab it and involvement packet on the way out in our ladies have a book study going on what I hear they have open enrollment right now and probably until they're done with the book but basically like the book is great, but the company is better from what I understand. So they just want to get as many women here and see if you look back in the in the kids area does actually like the the table of of 18 back there goes in a square and so I have no idea what you ladies are up to but it better be something good cuz it looks like you're converging on something. But I know they're having a blast in the reported income in the times of prayer that you've been able to have with one another. I really like giving and so if you are looking for a way to get plugged in to spend some time with some of the ladies getting to know the great ladies we have here at Heartland. That's a great time to do that. And so that's Wednesdays from 6 until 6:30 until eight 6:30 until 8. So, it's a great time to get connected that is it for our announcement. When I go ahead and call her Usher's at 4 Sunday Morning Tide Kingdom Builder offering And I just want to thank this church for being a generous church and for showing up in the needs I do we have here and forget to be on division 2 because last year we were able to accomplish some really awesome things and we couldn't have done it without you seen the vision that God had for a church and it also looking ahead to this year and all the things that God has for us expanding the four-year being able to knock out this room and create a nice living room space to Fireside room. I were excited about that getting playscape out for a kid so that our kids won't be restless in the summer time and you have other things to do we have coming that but you guys are excited about you. And so we are we want to pray over the offering this morning three ways. You can give you can give online. You can give you this morning this way, but we also you can give to tightly at their website. You can download the type of the app. You can not text to give so if you look at the little offering envelope, you can actually you can see the number you can text to give there and it's super easy like you like me and forget your wallet or forget your wife is easy to figure it out and text it exit on in but we're so grateful to be a generous Church doing generous things in the Kingdom. Thank you for this time. We thank you for how you so generously blessed us and given us all things in Christ. And I pray Lord that you would got to take these gifts and multiply them out to your kingdom God for what you're doing here. Locally got how you're building this house guide for a place its life-giving helping people find find community and find their calling but also how you're enabling us to 2 to go beyond that lure to a place of growing ever growing in the grace and the capacity of the Is it you have for our lives. How we're seeing fruit being born our lives through the giving that's being done. But also got that we would take seriously this commission Lourdes it go into all nations preaching this Gospel of the Kingdom. I pray father that you bless this offering Lord here locally got to the ends of the Earth where all of our missionaries are and all that. We will be working with in the future guy. We just say let your kingdom come let your will be done on Earth as it is in heaven in Jesus name. Amen.

Okay, so it is with great joy and a Year's worth of anticipation since the last time that he was here actually urine some change talks about how we need be loving or wives better and all the practical ways. We can do that and I always hits the nail in the head. And so this year I actually had JP JP, you know what you talked about the mission of marriage and it said you wouldn't do to invest and the families and in showing husbands and wives in your parents how we can begin investing in our children the mission of parenting because it's something that I think you know, what is Melissa nice to see these little humans growing up before us we see how like increasingly on our heels we are and in just lacking the wisdom and lack it like really in a desperate stage did not screw this up because you have very few years. Did they really get it? Right? And so we want to make sure you make the most of these years and trust the Lord with a big stuff in their lives and but take the TASC the things that we know we You doing in our capacity in the grace of God has given us and so I did I challenge JP with that and at the last minute I just think you jp4 if that but I also want JP and the last few years and I was like, dude. Why don't you ever talk about Northpoint Bible College, Michigan right now Grand Rapids for amazing, but i j p r a hiding behind a green Machado latte or whatever. So Janice was in the first class of Northpoint Bible College coming up on ten years. Is that right? And so I'm going to have JP come up and talk briefly about Northpoint Bible college cuz I believe in the mission playing with their doing in the way that they're doing it that's really different than other Bible colleges and I just wish you all just welcomed JP in the house and bring him in. Am I doing? What am I doing? I'm coming up for the perfect. Good morning. I need to grab this stool. And I need to grab my bag cuz I brought a few things with me. They're not going to be here in this is our third time here. I was thinking it was second. You said it was 3rd. I very rarely get third date. So this is really really good news for like first day anybody can get that second day this cooking third day is like where was engaged at this point and I'm really really excited about that. I'm glad to be a guest here and I do want to say that it is a real privilege to be here with Pastor van and most of their really great pastors. The thing that I love about them is any time that I talk to them outside. I just can't get them to be quiet about what you all are doing and what's happening here and their vision and passion for this church and the community and it is rare to find that kind of leadership. That is that invested who's can't turn it off cuz it's in the heart and what's inside the heart comes out eventually doesn't it? It just comes out over and over again. And so it's a delight to be here for that. I will say That's awesome. I'm not quite sure why I'm here to talk about kids.

We have three kids. I think that's our qualification. I talked to my wife and I sent you this marriage thing. I feel like we've got it. You know what we're doing like pretty good at the marriage thing. And I'm our goal is just to survive the kids and and they still want you come and talk about raising kids and Pam and I said we got to come up with something better than what we're doing right now super fast so that I don't have to lie when I talk on that Sunday and so my wife and I we have a 10 year old or 10 year old a 14 year old and a 16 year old boy, they're all 100% boys and their names are Noah Owen and Williams. So if you spell that out and o w it's now the theory was that if we yelled now, they would all come that's never happened in the entire time of us being parents. Not not even once but they asked us to speak asked me to speak about parenting I say one thing about parenting is there are no experts. Right. I mean when I say well this person they have 12 kids there an expert. I don't call the person who is played football 12 * an expert. I don't call the person who is cooked 12 Meals and expert I don't call the human who is live for 12 days and expert. I don't think there's any such thing as an expert in parenting. I think there are people who look better under stress than others. That's really what it boils down to Ann. My wife and I certainly are no exception of that. If I'm going to be honest, we don't have a ton of an idea what we're doing. In fact I can tell you there were days we look at our kids were like whatever this battle is, whatever the prizes were losing and when I get in the prize, that's not going to happen to us. We have come by the way. I think I did figure out Pastor Ben. Move me from February to March. I think I figured out the reason my name is JP. My middle name is Patrick.

Song I'm the guys. I'm like, it's Saint Patrick's day after inviting Irish guy. I'm not Irish, but middle name is Patrick. My my wife and I in the neighborhood we used to live in we we had a family down the road who were in fact Irish, but I'm not bringing up just because the same Patrick's Day and our youngest son. Was good friends with them and I'm to tell you how badly were losing at this parenting thing. We thought well, you know, we try to get our kids to be somewhat reasonable. How many of you you're like, like people know we go to church that we we want to be known to be somewhat of a reasonable witness for Jesus Christ. So you look at your kids you just like so please like just nothing illegal. Nothing immoral don't steal things don't you know, just the big stuff please at least by the way, we're going to talk about today. It works the same way. If you're talkin about your grandkids you're talkin about anyone that you're trying to love. Well as they grow up we tell that to our kids wear these family down the street there from Ireland and and one of our children got went through this phase where he was mooning everybody. I know it just it was unfortunate and that didn't meet the qualifications of hey don't embarrass us, but he just couldn't seem to stop and that one day we walked out and he had the front door open Big D. Door and he's just going to the bathroom out on her front porch with a front of the whole neighborhood. This is that child and we're sitting down to eat and we get a call. We can't find out where our youngest son is and she calls me and the lady down the road the Irish lady who never in our whole history of our friendship has ever called me Pastor, which is totally fine. Don't care. This is the one and only time she ever called me Pastor. She called me and I'll come over there Pastor. I'm like, this is not going to be good. Just could you come and get your weed one? He's got his with a little cheaper is pressed up against our window by the dining room table while we're trying to eat dinner and he literally has his cheeks up against their window and he's going like this bare bottom right by their dining table while they're trying to eat. I told my wife I said, I don't know what else to do. We need to drug the children until they're 18 and then just take them out. So I don't know why I'm here teaching on this subject. Maybe. I don't know you haven't met our children.

I do have a lot of other kids in my life and that's a big kids at the Bible College and of Petra Meadows gracious enough to ask me to share about that for just a minute. I'm actually run on Northpoint Bible College in Grand Rapids, cool deal with a partnership with one of our great churches in Michigan Grand Rapids First and we meet on their on their campus two days a week full time program. The big goal is to help students were Ministry minded her passionate about Jesus. You want to go to either vocational Ministry or counseling or social work. We have a ba in Ministry leadership a master's degree. And then we do minor on minor in Psychology for those who are saying hey, how can we impact people the gospel 65% of people encounter Jesus first time Christ followers in their family do it during a life crisis. How many do you find Jesus during the life crisis? This is real but they don't all come to church some of them go see their counselor. How many things. Counselor should be a person who can walk them across to the got to Jesus Christ. So we're talking about training people intentionally to be at the bottom of the barrel. So when people like you and me get there that person can say we don't have to stay here. Let's talk about Jesus can change your lies and lead us the gospel. So we've been doing this now almost 10 years and because the partnership they're one of the big deals was we want to save students will graduate as close to that free as possible. So we have saved students over three million dollars in student. Over the last 10 years. That's for real, isn't it? So that money that gets to go back into the family's that's money to get to go to their homes with money used to go to missionaries to supporting the local church. That's money that gets to stay in the Kingdom economy rather than going to pay off student loans for the rest of our lives and I'm super cool. Tomorrow's are discovered a if you want to pray for us we have about 300 students that are going to be there tomorrow. So you're saying hey, what's God doing in my life and might Northpoint be the place for me. Some of them got to speak to him. That's awesome. But we just believe that God is going to show up tomorrow and the next generation is going to touch their hearts and leave them and guide them in any way we can serve you with that. That's fantastic. But you know, I'm not here just but I'm here cuz I love pastor Pastor Melissa. They're great great people. So why am I here talk about kids? Why am I here? I don't know. In all seriousness, my wife and I are we began having a course children. Our oldest is 16 and I know we have some that have young ones most and I were talking before hand that early stages is hard and I remember my wife and I my wife is one of these people that by the time she does anything she has a PHD in it. She if she's going to plan a garden she goes and buys a stack of gardening books this tall if she's going to have a child. She had read I think every childhood best seller there was before we had our first child and we decided we were going to get a plan together and we were going to be organized about this how many of you know, these people that like to have an eating routine down. There was sleeping routine down an education routine down whenever the kids are going to school then what they're going to do every year of their life. We are not those people We read all the books and all of the books were for those kind of people. How many of you like you're not those kind of people he was like look I kind of have an idea about two big things. I might want to get done this week. And you know, that's the way that roles am I where can I read all these books were like, there is no way we have the skills to pull off raising a child that way. There's no way we have the skills to be like, okay by the time they're six months older than have these kind of developments going to make sure they didn't we just didn't have the skills for that. It's a very quickly we figured out that if we were going to survive we were going to have to get simple very very quickly because we are simple people and we figured if there were a few things that we could do. Well, maybe those things would work for us. If we did the same simple things over and over and over again, and we did those things to the best of our ability. So we did what anybody who is trying to learn a new skill should do and that is we decide to find some mentors. a man I meant or someone who can help us do things better, and we looked around and we found three great mentors that I want to talk to you about today that hopefully will be helpful for all of us before we talk about that. Why don't we spend just a moment in prayer fast forward to speak to us and we'll see what the Lord does not hard with my father. You know, I first and foremost we have adults in here. Who as we talked about parenting immediately what jumps into our heart is pain because we're still bearing the wounds of things that didn't go well things that were hurtful to us and our relationship has children to our parents and I pray the Lord that today would be a day of healing that we recognize that as we talked about how parents should love their kids and how parents can love their kids that all of that is just really a metaphor. It's a sign on system that you create a remind us of your great love. So even as we speak about that, would you bring healing and would you bring Grace into our lives father for those of us that don't have children that are intermediate lies. We all have people that we influence let us learn something about the love language in vocabulary of the young ones were around so that we can be an effective part of showing you and your great grace to the Next Generation. And for those of us who who are raising one's right now whether they're older cuz we all still need your Lovin. Grace whether they're teenagers or whether we're just getting started off and they're just babies are a little ones father what you teach us the love effectively today in such a way that we can be a part of raising good people. We mean that in the Butte most real sense good people who know you love you love other people and want to be productive in this world for your kingdom and for the betterment of others. We asked if you'd help us do that Lord in Jesus name and everybody said so my wife and I are we got married and we had these this first child and we said we got a fifty-fifty shot of having good kids if they got my DNA they're going to be rotten and if they have on my wife's DNA, they're going to be pretty great. Let's get ourselves and mentors and so I want to talk to you about those three men tours today. Now the first Mentor that we found and that you can go ahead and pull up a slide as a guy named. Dr. Seuss. I am and he actually helped us more than you might imagine one because how many of you have that kid that they have the book that by the time they were three years old. You knew it inside outside backward forward upside down you could literally wake up in the middle of the night speaking that book in your arse for a third child as Goodnight Moon. I hate that book with a perfect hatred this one. I still managed to keep a love for was from earlier children. And dr. Seuss taught us this and I want to talk about this just a little bit to Define and celebrate the kind of success that matters for our cat's did a fine and celebrate the kind of success that matters for a kids story. Yes. How many do not know this story? Well, then I will give you the rundown and who robbed you of your childhood. Okay. So the story of dr. Seuss Horton Hatches. The Egg is basically this we open the story and we find a bird named AZ and Maisy, of course because those dr. Seuss is lazy Maisie and lazy Maisie has hatched an egg. Now. We do not know how she came about to have this fertilized egg that is left to our imagination. But she has a fertilized egg She lays it it is going to hatch but she has decided that she is not interested in sitting on an egg for the next number of months because that is not her vision of success for her life. She's a free spirit. She is a person who just wants to go and it was not a person. She's a bird she wants to go explore the world. She wants to see the world. And so she decides to cun Horton the Elephant in the sitting on her egg until it hatches and Along Comes Horton and Horton she tries to convince him to sit on the egg and he's like, I don't know. I mean, it's up in a tree is the tree going to be able to support me. It's am I too big to sit on the egg. He doesn't know what to do. But finally she convinces them manipulates and really because she believes that she will be happier doing the things that she wants to do more successful do anything. She wants to do she manipulates him into sitting on the egg and Horton has a statement that repealed that repeats during the story as repeating theme because he gets discouraged people come along and they start laughing at him. Why are you sitting in that tree sitting on an egg? He is sitting there in the rain and the Thunder and the storm and he's thinking what was me? Why am I sitting on this egg? There's repeating phrase that goes through his head and he says that he says I meant what I said, and I said what I meant an elephant's faithful, 100%

that was an important lesson for us. that what people determine success to be in the case of lazy Maisy success for her was getting to do whatever she wanted to do. In the case of Horton success for him with being faithful to doing something that was committed and hard for the benefit of others that that was actually very very important in our raising of our children. Culture will be happy to determine for our children. What success looks like what they have a multi-billion-dollar marketing machine that involves everything from music and TV and media. And again, I'm not saying those things are all necessarily bad. But remember that everybody who is talking to the next generation is telling a story about life and they're telling them a story about what matters in life. And so they may be watching one particular thing that tells them hey success whether that's power whether that's money whether that's influence is what will make them successful that they will have that kind of a narrative. Maybe culture will tell them in a person who has the loudest voice in the room. They are the one who gets to influence others. That is what makes them successful. The fact the chances are right now that the young people who are in our lives again, whether they're our grandchildren or our children are other young ones that we get the influence a fascinating questions to ask them. When do you feel like you are you will be successful as a person and most kids if you ask it have an answer to that question and most of the time it is a story that has been narrated to them by culture. That's the reason that most kids who grew up when I grew up wanting to be an astronaut because we grew up in the era of the celebration of what we have done is a country you talk to a lot of people who grow up in a culture where they see Sports celebrate. I want to be a sports star. I want to be a music. So we we gravitate toward what are story of success is this is a big challenge for us as followers of Jesus Christ because we have to ask ourselves. Well, how am I going to Define this for my kids? Am I going to Define it like lazy Maisie you getting to do whatever you want to do is what will make you successful as a human or am I going to Define it like working pay me figuring out how to do good things and right things in hard things that involve faithfulness and involve commitment that is what is going to make you successful over the long run. So here is what in again. We are I would my wife and my kids were here anytime. I talk about marriage. I always ask my wife when I said that was I a complete hypocrite and she usually does not complete and on when make when you talk about parenting you don't have to look at your kids and say you know, how are we being honest and accurate not about we don't get everything perfect. But about who we aspire to be are these generally our values and I would say these are things that we hear over and over again in our family. And that is that we define success in our family two ways. And if my kids were here they be able to tell you what that is if I look at my kids inside what is success for you today? And all them and say exactly the same thing success for me today. Is that every room I leave people feel more loved than when I answered it. Got a success for me today no matter whether I'm so stressed with school and matter whether I am the smartest person in the room. Not the smartest person in the room no matter whether I succeed or fail at a project or a sport or whatever it is. If the people who are around me feel more loved by the time I leave the room. I'm the most successful person there. The cool thing about that is that success that everybody can do so my children have the possibility of succeeding every day of their lives. Velvet possibility of succeeding whether there's a pizza delivery guy for the president. Because everybody can genuinely say I take this room on his my mission and every single person in here will feel more loved because I've been here every single person can do that and further lies. They know the rules lifetime, how can you be a success because the fact is we ask parents whether we know it or not. We're grandparents we and we'll talk about this in a moment sometimes without knowing it tell our children when we will be proud of them. Sometimes without even doing it on purpose and so my wife and I have tried to work hard to counter this by being intentional and we tell our kids That you will be successful and we do not care whether you deliver the pizza or whether you are the president of the United States. And by the way, that's a heart issue for Mom and Dad Durango through my value is not determined by the productivity of my children. right So I have to Wrangle to that but I have to be able to look at my kids and say honestly, I don't care whether you deliver the pizza or whether you're the president if you genuinely love Jesus with all your heart, you genuinely love people by the way, you should be practicing everyday cuz that's our day legal. And you generally find an occupation where you can make people's lives better as a sign of the goodness of God's Kingdom. We will be proud of you 100% We don't care whether you are have found yourself working at the pizza place. Great. You be the best pizza delivery guy. They ever met my family. We got a guy we got to give a pizza guy. We got a guy the reason for that is because my wife and I we live up in the woods and we live on a hill across from the township planner who was able to get in the design of our road, which would never pass code anywhere. It literally goes at an angle like this and turns at the same time. So during the winter we lose cars off the side of the cliff all winter long. We got a guy we got a pizza guy. He owns the four-by-four at the pizza delivery place is the only guy that will deliver to us. He is the best pizza guy and just look at my kids. They look if you're going to be a piece of guy be that guy be the one that has a hard job does a tough job. These are the meanest customers we got bees or whatever. We going to send your the guy cuz you're the happiest guy the hardest-working guy the most loving guy the most faithful guy you do that. On your life. We will Champion you we will post on our Facebook. So proud of our pizza delivering machine Sun. We literally our youngest on right now that is his goal in life. He wants to be the pizza guy and I think I was Ike's dad. Here's what I want to make pizza and I want to make it with high-quality ingredients at a low cost. Listen son. That is a great great goal and I will be your number one customer. That's fantastic. It's all right to want a better life for kids, but we have to be to be where that were not accidentally just giving them an idol that will let them down as we look at our kids were like why I want you to have it better than money than me. I might have more success than me. I want you have more influence than me. I want you to have more education than me. I want you to have a better job than me. The fact is none of those things will ultimately make our children successful. I love Andrew Carnegie's statement against the end of his life 5 marriage has more money than you could ever imagine and they said tell me what's it like to be a success because I have no idea. I failed at everything that truly matters in life.