The Power of Sex

Introduction:

What did the sexy brown Chicken say to the sexy brown Cow?

“Brown Chika Brown Cow.”

Our society is obsessed with sex, not love just sex. It’s everywhere.

The world has figured out that sex sells and they are selling it hardcore. (pun intended)

You can’t turn on the TV, phone, tablet, Radio, Internet, social media, streaming services, magazines, or books without some kind of reference to SEX. Any media you can think of sex is there and waiting.

But wait there’s more!! Sex has jumped off the page and off the screen. It’s no longer a fantasy land. All you have to do is go clubbing and you can find whatever sexual desire your looking for.

People are hooking up just for fun. No strings attached, no commitment, no love, no hard feeling.

We’ve come to the place of equating sex with success. This has be exposed through the “Me 2” movement.

Even when it comes to marriage we have this “try it before you buy it mentality.” Think about the implications of that. And how does that work. “I want to thank you for coming to the sex trial today. As you preform please keep in mind if you don’t hit all my expectations I will be moving on the next subject. Also keep in mind that there are several candidates that are applying so please be patient as I make my final decision.”

And we wonder why people are so insecure and devastated.

On top of all of that you can’t win. If you are celibate you’re made fun of or bullied, and if you’re active you’re labeled as a slut or whoremonger.

Steven D. Solomon, Ph.D. and Lorie J. Teagno, Ph.D. wrote an article entitled, “Frequently-Asked Questions about Infidelity,” Updated: August 17, 2018

There is no exact number for the rate of our best estimates, which come from studies done in the last five to ten years, reveal that 45-50% of married women and 50-60% of married men engage in extramarital affairs at some point in their relationships. So somewhere around half of all Long Term Love Relationships (LTLRs) are marked by this ultimate betrayal.

“There is no exact number for the rate of our best estimates, which come from studies done in the last five to ten years, reveal that 45-50% of married women and 50-60% of married men engage in extramarital affairs at some point in their relationships. So somewhere around half of all Long Term Love Relationships (LTLRs) are marked by this ultimate betrayal.”

Sadly these statistics are the same inside the church. So, this is the world we live in. On our Road map of marriage you would see the sticker, “You are here.”

And This is the backdrop that we move into this study called “Love and Marriage.”

God has given us a definitive passage on the subject of Marriage that encompasses everything we need to know about this subject.

It even covers those that are not married and how you should approach singleness.

Let’s dive in:

1 Corinthians 7:1 ESV

1 Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.”

1 Cor 7:1

Paul had been asked some questions about marriage by a young christian body of believers that were trying to navigate the same waters we are navigating this morning. There is nothing new under the sun.

There is a blanket statement of truth that needs to be established before we go any farther.

“Sex outside of a marital relationship between a husband and a wife is an offense to the creator God.”

From the scriptures this would include but not limited to:

Fornication (1 Corinthians 6:18-19)

Pornography (1 Corinthians 6:13)

Adultery (, Hebrews 13:4)

homosexuality ()

Paul is not saying that sex is bad, but outside of marriage it is sin.

Beastiality

Love demands that I be so bold in this statement. I realize that I just included a vast majority of our population in that statement.

“Acceptance of sin does not change its offence toward God.”

I can accept you as a person without affirming your sin. As I would hope you would do for me. That means I can genuinely love you and not agree with you.

Dealing with Sexual Desires

1 Corinthians 7:2 ESV

2 But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.

1 Cor 7: 2

Marriage is defined clearly

Each man should have his own wife.

Each woman should have her own husband.

The sexual desire is real and is God ordained.

God created sexual urges to ensure the population of mankind. Why do you think we are having all these babies around here? There ain’t no stork bringing them.

God created sex for the oneness and unity of a husband and wife.

Genesis 2:24–25 ESV

24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. 25 And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.

Gen 2:24-25

The greatest feeling in the world is reserved for you and your soul mate.

It is a level of intimacy exclusively for the partnership.

There is nothing more spiritual and transcendent than sex.

In the right context God is honored and worshiped by your actions.

Mankind has perverted the gift of God and used it in an immoral way.

Many secular songs today talk about the transcendent experience.

Locked out of Heaven, Bruno Mars. 2012

Never had much faith in love or miracles (miracles) uh! Never wanna put my heart on the line, uh! But swimming in your water is something spiritual (spiritual) uh! I'm born again every time you spend the night, uh!

They are desiring that transcendent experience without God and are just left empty when it’s over.

'Cause your sex takes me to paradise Yeah your sex takes me to paradise And it shows, yeah, yeah, yeah 'Cause you make me feel like, I've been locked out of heaven For too long, for too long

Take me to Church, Hozier 2013

"We were born sick", you heard them say it My church offers no absolutes She tells me 'worship in the bedroom' The only heaven I'll be sent to Is when I'm alone with you

They are desiring that transcendent experience without God and are just left empty when it’s over.

Take me to church I'll worship like a dog at the shrine of your lies I'll tell you my sins and you can sharpen your knife Offer me that deathless death Good God, let me give you my life

They are desiring that transcendent experience without God and are just left empty when it’s over.

Each man should have his own wife.

Take care of your mate.

Each woman should have her own husband.

1 Corinthians 7:3–4 ESV

3 The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.

1 Cor 7:3

Whoop Dar’t is! Whoop Dar’t is!

Don’t get married if you don’t what to have sex.

You don’t have to get married.

If you can stay single without sex do that.

You will have more freedom to devote your time and energy to the Lord.

Biblical marriage implies a sexual relationship.

Your mate has married you to mate.

You are the only one that can and should fulfil that desire and he or she chose you.

You don’t have to get married. If you can stay single without sex do that.

Sex is about giving and serving one another.

Giving yourself is the key to intimacy.

This starts with emotions.

Remove all fear of rejection and shame.

Practice connecting soul to soul and the rest come naturally.

Pursue one another with all your passions.

Direct all your sexual attention in the direction of your spouse.

Communicate with each other about what pleases you. Don’t make them guess or you might not get what you want.

The one who satisfies is always satisfied.

1 Corinthians 7:5 ESV

5 Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

Not giving can cause serious problems.

Feelings of anxiety and stress.

A lack of self worth.

Feeling ugly or undesirable as a person.

Creating low self esteem issues.

Unwanted temptations.

The question usually comes up, “How often is often enough?”

A lack of self control.

Learn some self-control.

The question usually comes up, “How often is often enough?”

As in everything there should be a good balance and rhythm.

Self-control is a fruit of the Spirit

Self control is the fruit of the Spirit.

Too much sex can reveal some underlying emotional issues that are trying to be met through sex that should be resolved through counseling.

Too little sex can cause emotional issues and trigger outside sources of satisfaction.

A frustrated husband was talking to a couple of buddies at work and said, “How often do you guys have sex with your wives.”

The first buddy said, “Man, I can’t get her off of me. It happens all the time.”

The Second buddy with a big smile on his face said, “We only have sex once a year.”

The guy said, “Then why are you smiling.”

He said, “Tonight’s the night.”

Frequency has a lot factors.

Don’t be concerned with number be more concerned with emotional health.

Talk openly about the changes and stages of life.

be sensitive to the needs of your spouse and be the sole provider of their needs.

Take Aways

God is pleased when his creation experiences the joys of marriage and oneness through sex.

Recognize your sole position and authority to provide for your spouse. A little fun each day keeps the Devil away.

Communication and Connection is the key. As you share your heart, soul, mind, and body you will experience the love of God with each other.