Yeargin How a Child can Bring Happiness to the Home

Intro:

God wanted Samson to lighten the generation he was in

BY giving him parents that can nurture

10:1 The Proverbs of Solomon. A wise son maketh a glad father: but a foolish son is the heaviness of his mother.

-You will be parents greatest joy or heaviest burden

I) Reverence your God (13:1-14)

when you have a child you have to change

Doctors and pre natal health

Nazarite Vow

You could not cut your hair; beard

You could not eat the fruit of the vine or drink wine

You could not touch anything dead, animal, pall bearer at a funeral

Why

God is teaching us a lesson

Nazarite- a follower of Nazer- it means to cut or to seperate

A separated one

pharisee also means seperated

(Illustration)

the key to seperation he shall be a nazarite unto his God

teach our kids the context of seperation

love the lord thy God

the closer I get to God and I love God

stand up and be different should all be attached to God

only 3 people in the bible took a Nazarite vow theyre entire lives

samson, samuel, john the baptist

A) Appearance (No Haircut)

Be Conspicuous

Take a stand for Jesus Christ

why with

it was a shame

you need to be willing to bear the shame of identifying with me

Bear conspicous shame for the LORD

that man identifies with God and is not ashamed

of being different

(Mom and I for soccer games- witnessing to the Psychiatrist, witnessing on the streets

(Pastor Kurt Skelly and son)

somebody saw christ

you have the ability by the lives you live to make a difference in a world that is looking for something different

B) Abstinence (No Wine/fruit of the vine)

No drinking of

Ephesians 5:18 KJV 1900

And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit;

Be in control of your faculties

why would God choose that illustration?

we purposely take into our body; effects how we think and act

change your decision making

be controlled

don't be controlled by external stimulus but internal stimulus

(Illustr)

wine quiet- loud

sober/serious- laughing

causing them behave in a way they would not be able to otherwise

that is what God wants spiritually

I could never be a soul winner, I could never obey them, I could never love her, I could not submit to him

God by his Holy Spirit

I want him to be different

controlled by me

C) Aspiration (No dead things)

No touching of the dead

not that you would want to

hunting

No HEB

when you get saved he doesnt want your life to be about things that do not matter

saved unto life

Romans 6:4 KJV 1900

Therefore we are buried with him by baptism into death: that like as Christ was raised up from the dead by the glory of the Father, even so we also should walk in newness of life.

quit living the dead life;

live your life for stuff that will outlive your life

choosing your career and college

will it matter 2000 years from now

making that basket

bearing the shame will matter

II) Respect your Parents (14:1-11)

manipulator- why ? a besetting sin

Samson- Lust

A) Truthful

Identify your besetting sin

the victories you do not get in your youth will follow you, your entire life

Be honest with your parents about your own personal struggles

Get accountability

Get help

Get proactive counsel

Identify at a young age what is your besetting sin

The earlier you develop Godly patterns

And Godly counsel

Remember now thy creator in the days of your youth

Years to get in and years to get out

without help you will continue in sin, shame, repentance, sin, shame

Identify at a young age

anger, greed, lust, the earlier you can develop godly patterns

Over communicate with your mom and dad about the things you are dealing with (vs 5-9)

Did not tell them about the Lion

Did not want his parents to think

Willing for his pleasure to forego his vow

What would you prefer?

Safety

He ignores all three elements of his vow in his lifetime

Drunken feast

Dead Lion

Hair Cut

B) Trusting (Turn your Hearts to your Parents)

Turn your hearts to your parents

The Older you get the more independent you become

Mindest; i will be 18 and make my own choices

The wise son/daughter gives their heart to their parents

Grows into a relationship with their mom and dad; what do they want me to do?

is one that grows into a relationship with their parents

I wonder what they want me to do

4:20 My son, attend to my words; incline thine ear unto my sayings.

7:1 My son, keep my words, and lay up my commandments with thee.

Vs 25-27

-Seek counsel and guidance from your father on major decisions, life plans, career paths, life decisions

7:2 Keep my commandments, and live; and my law as the apple of thine eye.

-14:8 The wisdom of the prudent is to understand his way: but the folly of fools is deceit.

-Notice the other side of the coin to seeking through the Lord, and wise counselors a plan and path for your future and your decisions; is to be in foolish self deceit; where you think you are fine and you need no one’s wisdom

-View your father’s instruction as something to prize and treasure

-14:15 The simple believeth every word: but the prudent man looketh well to his going.

-Don’t base your decisions on your buddies, don’t choose a path because it looks cool, research and study a path before you commit to it.

(vs 5) Take seriously marriage and courting advice, and the type of person to look for in a spouse

-Also do not cast away a path because one person said it wouldnt work or it is a bad idea

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5:8 Remove thy way far from her, and come not night the door of her house:

-Take seriously biblical advice from your parents on marriage and courtship, and finding a spouse (vs 13)

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No what they commanded me to do, what

A mature relationship with God

What I can get away with

Maybe not even always specific in scripture

What would my parents want from me

They understand you a lot better than you think they do

There are some things about ourselves that we cant see

God gives wisdom to your parents to see things you may not like

Parents need to walk with God

13:1 A wise son heareth his father’s instruction: but a scorner heareth not rebuke.

-Do you listen when your parents give you instruction

-Do you resist when your father points out something wrong or in error in your life

-Do you seek out your father’s instruction

(Your parents are human- have grace with them)

(Do not resent that your parents bring you to church)

You will be so grateful you had parents that said as for me and my house we will serve the Lord

Proverbs 23:26 KJV 1900

My son, give me thine heart, And let thine eyes observe my ways.

Conclusion:

Trouble in his life because all the safety nets in his life he ignored

Are you struggling

communicate; hey I am struggling in this area

Communicate with your mom and dad

Some of you need to hand your phone over to your mom and dad and say; I cant handle this

Or take me off the plan

Or mom and dad; I shouldnt be having a tv in my room

Hey mom and dad I can’t handle my phone late at night ; I am going to give it to you at night; I have been texting some people I shouldnt

You know what happens when we get honest; God’s grace comes and does some marvellous things

I promise you God will bless your family