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Introduction

Fathers are important.

Our world might try and tell us a different story, but the Bible is clear that there are responsibilities for both men and women in a family unit.

We talked about what a Biblical Woman looks like from on Mother’s Day a couple of weeks ago and today we will be jumping around a little bit to get an idea of what Scripture says that Biblical Manhood looks like.

Typically, as we have done with the Great Commission, and recently with the book of Ephesians, we go through our messages “Expositionally” or verse by verse, in order to look for the main idea and key themes in Scripture and dwell on them.

Today we will be doing a different type of message: a Topical message, in order to jump around to various passages of Scripture as we try and see what Scripture has to say about Manhood.

Because of this, we don’t have a “main text” of Scripture - but we do have an outline that we are going to follow.

We see in Scripture that a real man loves Jesus, his wife, his kids and discipline.

The world might tell us that a man is replaceable and no longer needed in the family unit, however Psychology Today had this to say about the importance of a Father, “Even from birth, children who have an involved father are more likely to be emotionally secure, be confident to explore their surroundings, and, as they grow older, have better social connections.”

Father’s are important and today we thank them for their influence in our lives.

The thing that I want to stress before we dive into Scripture, though, is that even if you are not a Father, even if you aren’t married or even if you didn’t have a Godly father growing up, this message is for you.

This message is not just for men.

Children need to hear it because boys need to aspire to be this kind of man and girls need to learn what to look for in a man.

Single women need this message because they need to know the kind of man they should want to marry.

Wives need this message because this is who they need to pray for and help their men to become.

And yes, husbands and fathers need this message because they need to know what to be and what to model for their girls (how godly men treat women) and for their boys (how they should treat women).

We know that there are consequences for not being a real man.

Not that a man has to be a smelly, hairy, outdoorsy individual, but there are consequences whenever a man does not love Jesus, his family and discipline.

If we do not model this type of man as a church then there are consequences.

Marriages can be lost.

Families can be broken.

Careers and reputations can be destroyed.

There is joy in Biblical manhood because God had planned this from the foundations of the world that this would be how the family unit would function.

Let’s see what Scripture has to say about being a Biblical Man.

A Biblical Man loves Jesus Christ

Whenever our lives are over, we are not going to care about our career choice, the town that we lived in, the places that we vacationed to or the amount of money that we accumulated.

What will matter in the end is if we had a relationship with Jesus Christ!

A Biblical Man understands this and he loves Jesus Christ and puts Him first in his life.

Now this is not a homosexual type of love and it can be difficult for us to understand the idea of loving Jesus because we often treat Him like a man.

The fact of the matter is that He is so much more than that!

There is a sort of sentimentality that can be associated with the church in the eyes of many non-churchgoing people that the church is a place for women and children but it is not suited for men.

Others think that the church has become feminized or that there is not a place at a church for a man, much less one that did not grow up in the church.

On the converse, as a church, as must illustrate to those around us that Jesus Christ was a real person, a man, who laid down His life for others.

We must love Jesus Christ!

It cannot stop with just loving Jesus Christ, though!

We must rediscover what it means to forge meaningful relationships with other men.

Growing up, I had a couple of friends that I would hang out with and do just about everything with.

I genuinely loved these guys and I still do to this day.

What can happen, though, is that as we get older, it can be more difficult to make these types of relationships, can it not?

It can be difficult for males to bond close with other males.

Yet, this is exactly what we are called to do by Christ.

We are called to make disciple-making-disciples.

This requires intentionality!

tells us

Do you revere or fear the Word of God? Do you read it outside of Church?

Do you study it?

We should love the Word of God and study it so that we can share it with others!

If we are going to be a people who say that we love Jesus Christ, we must know the Bible.

We must study it and we should read it.

A Biblical Man loves Jesus and His Word.

tells us

We are called to be a people who confess our sins, repent of them and trust in Christ.

Jesus’ life embodied true masculinity.

There are so many different characteristics that we could talk about when it comes to Jesus Christ and being a Biblical Man, however I want to focus on two this morning: Selflessness and Sacrifice.

Jesus Christ embodied selflessness.

Christ told His followers in

It can easy for us to show affection and love towards our family and those whom we have a good relationship with, however the call from Christ is to sacrifice and give freely to those whom the world might deem “unworthy” or those who we do not have a relationship with.

Jesus gave selflessly and He sacrificed His life for us.

A Biblical man knows this and strives to be Christlike and sacrifice for others.

Not so that he will get a pat on the back but because he loves Christ so much that he wants to emulate Him.

We know that Christ’s sacrifice on the cross is the ultimate Sacrifice.

Paul states that Christ made Himself nothing and was a servant for others.

Paul calls for Christians to embrace this same mindset in .

As men, women, married, unmarried, old, young, this is the mindset that we all should live with!

We must strive to be servants and sacrifice for others as well.

Our perfect savior died for a bride that was completely unworthy.

This gives us a wonderful picture of how sinful husbands should love and cherish their wives today.

If we genuinely want to be a Godly man, we must love Jesus Christ and put Him first in our lives.

A Biblical Man loves his Wife

shows us that a man is called to lead his wife and to love her as Christ has loved the church!

The book of Proverbs is full of wisdom and advice as to how this is possible.

Proverbs does this by showing how important it is to keep your covenantal promises to your spouse.

Your marriage vows were promises and real men keep their word!

Solomon repeatedly warns his son about the danger of unfaithful- ness (chaps.

2; 5; 6; 7).

Truly being faithful to your covenant commit- ment means you are faithful both outwardly and inwardly.

Jesus tells us that even lust is a betrayal ().

This leads men to be traitors against their wives ().

We looked at for Mother’s Day and we saw how a Godly Woman is a blessing and admired by her husband!

This is certainly the case in a Christian marriage, is it not?

Growing up, I knew that my dad loved my mom because of the way that he treated her and talked about her.

I didn’t have to ask my mother if she loved my dad or vice versa because it was apparent for all to see.

The same principle can be said in .

A Biblical man loves his Wife and we don’t have to do a deep investigation to figure out if that is true or not because it is clear to all who see them.

True, Biblical love is something that can be seen by all.

How can this be done?

Proverbs gives us two main ways that men can be pulled away from the wife: communication and attraction.

Godly men don’t flirt with other women because it’s a dangerous slope to start down upon.

Godly men don’t have a “work wife” that they flirt with at the office because nothing good can come out of that type of environment.

Godly men don’t check how their high school crushes are doing on Facebook and reach out with a facebook message.

Godly men guard their heart and communication especially with the opposite sex.

Now, does this mean that you cannot communicate with the opposite gender?

Of course not!

Does it mean that you watch what you say and how you say it?

Of course it does!

Whenever you love Jesus Christ and your wife, you try to honor them and treat them with respect.

You would never want to potentially compromise them.

Godly men watch what they watch on TV and on the internet.

They love their wives and they respect their wives by what they watch and what they put into their brains.

Barna, the Christian research group, released a study in 2018 that said that 62% of Christian men viewed pornographic images on a monthly basis.

Church, this cannot be a regular thing for a Godly man! 2 Timothy tells us to