Fathers Day

The Measure Of A Man

Any concern too small to be turned into a prayer is too small to be made into a burden.

– Corrie ten Boom

Introduction

JE

: there is perhaps no family role more fraught than that of a father. Men are expected to play the role of protector, provider, politician, peacemaker, or even punisher. But what about those men who never had the luxury of being properly fathered—or those for whom their own experience of fatherhood has been destructive?

LE

For all of the single moms out there. This is often, a hard day for you. I lived that life for 10 years. I raised my kids on my own with very little help. I couldn’t call the girls’ dad when I needed him to set the girls straight bc he would rage out on me.

I couldn’t call the girls’ dad when I needed him to set the girls straight bc he would rage out on me. For the first 4 years I hated Father’s Day, but when God reached out and grabbed me in my brokenness, I decided I was going to take all of the wisdom that was imparted about fathers and apply it. I can’t be a dad. I wasn’t created or designed to be, BUT I also had to do something so I did what I could. So single moms, learn what you can and put it into action. God will bless and honor you for it. 

For the first 4 years I hated Father’s Day, but when God reached out and grabbed me in my brokenness, I decided I was going to take all of the wisdom that was imparted about fathers and apply it. I can’t be a dad. I wasn’t created or designed to be, BUT I also had to do something so. So single moms, learn what you can and put it into action. God will bless and honor you for it. 

Wives with absent husbands, same goes for you. 

JE

Great fathers of faith 

Abraham - Biological  

Mordaci - Adoptive 

Joseph - Step Dad 

1.Faith 

 Care for the flock that God has entrusted to you. Watch over it willingly, not grudgingly—not for what you will get out of it, but because you are eager to serve God. 3 Don’t lord it over the people assigned to your care, but lead them by your own good example.

JE

JE

Raise up a child in the way that he should go. How do you expect your children to have a heart for God if you don’t show them what it looks like to have a heart for God.

Show them what it means to worship God also not only during worship services but in your daily life.

LE

When they have issues, do they come to you? How do you respond to them? With biblical wisdom, anger, or do you ignore them?

It’s necessary to teach your kids how to handle tough situations now. They need your wisdom and they need your faith. They need to know that when they get out in the world they can hang on the truths that you imparted to them and how your faith has shaped who you are. 

2.Love their mother 

JE

Fathers you are teaching your daughters how to be treated and you were teaching your son how to treat other people’s daughters. All by the way you treat their mother. 

LE

I shouldn’t share this but Kar used to hate me. Her father was so mean and hateful to me and when they were together all he would do is bash me about how horrible I was. 

She then was mean and hateful to me. Daily. Because for years she believed the things he would tell her. It wasn’t until Jeremy came around that she realized what her dad was saying was wrong. She was surrounded with so much love, affection, and godliness that she went to Jeremy and asked, “is it normal my dad talks to my mom like this” 

When he told her no, our relationship began to change because she watched how he treated me.

In turn he is teaching her what is acceptable and what is not. He will NOT allow another man to talk or treat her that same way

3.Take time 

JE

Children spell love T.I.M.E. 

LE

  Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.

LE

During your time together as a family, are you fighting? Sitting quietly just watching a movie? Are you provoking your children to anger by being rude, angry, hateful? Is your joking pushing your children away.

These are important things to think of. Because they are making a huge impact.

Some of the best moments with our kids (before and after marriage) is our quality time together. Game night, cooking together, cracking jokes, vacations, etc. Taking away all of the devices that are destracting

it’s entirely way too easy to focus on life than to slow down long enough to realize our kids do want our attention too. 

We tend to think kids are a nuisance but Jesus talks multiple times on how precious, important and desirable children are to him. Yes.... that includes your teenagers too. He said, let the little children come to me.

4.Teach them 

JE

One of the reasons we have the sexual issues that we have in the world today such as transgenderism and homosexuality is because fathers aren't taking the time to sit down and talk to their kids about the tough stuff.

It is your job men to teach your sons about sexuality.

LE

It’s also necessary to teach them about politics, hygiene (fathers of boys. Lol). Taking pride in their appearance, work ethic, savings, finances, etc.

We forget we are not raising children. We are raising adults. A lot of kids today are not equipped for the real world and end up lost trying to figure it out. Let them know who they are and what they can do before you let the, fly. 

5.Lead them 

6 Direct your children onto the right path,

JE

and when they are older, they will not leave it.

LE

be a spiritual leader - we as women love and desire it.

dont expect them to follow right away - it takes time

be gentle.....alex

JE

I want you to think about what you want your kids to be and how you want them to act and operate around others. If you are not in front of your children person you just thought about then you’re not leading them correctly.

The father role, the earthly father role belongs to you and you alone. You do not give someone else the right to father your children.

Spiritual father in is one thing and step-parenting. I am all about stepparents but we are allowing other people to father our children in matters and it’s the reason we are in a crisis.

First, think about God the Father’s relationship with Jesus, his Son.

Our Father in heaven has had big plans for Jesus his Son from before the beginning of time.

Jesus has followed the Father’s plans to the letter, even when it cost him his life.

Here we have a Father/Son relationship here that is a great example of all Father and child relationships (or all parent/child relationships for that matter).

Fathers among us, let me ask, what plans do you have for your children?

How are you revealing those plans and preparing your children to follow them?

Maybe we have to back up a bit and ask some more basic questions.

Are fathers supposed to do this?

Are parents supposed to have plans for their children today?

Or are we just supposed to bring children into this world and let them go in whatever way the world leads them?

Are we just supposed to provide for them so that they can go and find out who they are and follow their own hearts and do whatever they find fulfilling?

Is that it?

Is that the example God gives us? If not, where in the world did that idea come from?

I’ll tell you where… the pit of hell!

Let me clarify what I’m saying here. God the Father had plans for Jesus the Son, right?

These plans were revealed and recorded in scripture, right? Jesus executed the plans, right? It was a good thing, right?

What if God the Father had modeled his Fathering after our modern concept of individuality and freedom of expression and self discovery and personal fulfillment?

What might Jesus life have looked like if that were the case?

If Jesus had only had his own personal will to follow, he would not have gone to the cross.

He himself said, “Father, if it is possible, let this cup pass from me, but not MY will, THY will be done.” Whose will is Jesus following here? His own or his Father’s? Whose plan is Jesus keeping?

Jesus didn’t come here to fulfill himself, did he? Jesus came here as the only begotten Son of God who the Father said at his baptism, “This is my beloved son, in whom I am well pleased!”

And at the mountain of transfiguration, “This is my beloved son, listen to Him!”

You see, God the Father has entrusted all things to the Son, Jesus Christ. Why? Because! Jesus is faithful as a Son! Jesus follows the will of the Father!

Jesus loves his Father and is completely in submission to his Father and walks in perfect step with his Father’s will. Jesus performs the plan. Jesus said, “My job is to do the will of Him who sent me.” And whose will is that? It has to be the will of God the Father.

Young people, whose will are you following today

Fathers, this does not mean you impose your dreams and desires on your kids.

Your job is to raise and equip.

God is perfect and pure wisdom. He knew what was best for Jesus and the world. It’s YOUR JOB to seek God in his perfection and his wisdom on what’s best for your kids.

Most children do not seek God at a young age, which is why God placed you here for them. He is trusting you with his sons and daughters to guide them to him.  

6. Encourage them 

7. It’s never too late to start 

JE

LE

Be apart of their lives. If your kids love video games but you don’t play, have them teach you or ask questions to make them feel like you care.

Dads, if your little girl is obsessed with Musically or tick tok, be stupid and make videos with them.

Find ways to be involved and find ways to be apart of what your kids are interested in.

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