Fatherhood

Being a Father is all about Faithfulness.

Being a Father is all about Faithfulness.

A Charge for Fathers -

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise—3 “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”

A Fathers charge to sons -

A Fathers charge to sons -

When the time drew near for David to die, he gave a charge to Solomon his son.

2 “I am about to go the way of all the earth,” he said. “So be strong, act like a man, 3 and observe what the Lord your God requires: Walk in obedience to him, and keep his decrees and commands, his laws and regulations, as written in the Law of Moses. Do this so that you may prosper in all you do and wherever you go…

The New International Version (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2011), .

Biblical Principles on Fathering.

3 Things a Father MUST do

Guide - Guard - Govern

Direct - Correct - Protect

Nourish - Cherish - Admonish

Prophet - Priest - King

5 things a Father MUST teach his children.

Attributes of God.

Person of Jesus Christ.

Nature of man.

Requirements of salvation.

Reverence for the word of God.

3 ways Fathers MUST love their children.

Redemptively. Sacrificially. Unconditionally.

Love centres in the will - Must be habitual.

5 gifts Fathers MUST give their children.

Acceptance - Love provides the basis for speaking truth. Truth will set you free.

Approval - Good self image is developed in an atmosphere of approval. Touching is a gesture of approval. Laying on of hands - healing ministry.

Affection - Listening is as important as loving.

Association - Belonging - proper sense of association begins at home.

Sense of Authority - A Fathers discipline teaches behavioural patterns.

Practical

Don’t punish - correct.

Don’t ignore wrong behaviour.

Don’t ignore wrong behaviour.

Don’t pamper but protect.

Lower their defences.

Give children equal access.

Give them quality time.

Invest in the positive.

God’s pattern for supernatural supply.

4 Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. y 5 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. 6 These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts.c 7 Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. 8 Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. 9 Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.

5 He decreed statutes for Jacob

and established the law in Israel,

which he commanded our ancestors

to teach their children,

6 so the next generation would know them,

even the children yet to be born,

and they in turn would tell their children.

7 Then they would put their trust in God

and would not forget his deeds

but would keep his commands.

8 They would not be like their ancestors—

a stubborn and rebellious generation,

whose hearts were not loyal to God,

whose spirits were not faithful to him

We must love God.

We must receive God’s commands.

We must teach our children. ( c/f Gideon )

Maturity doesn’t come with age - it comes with an acceptance of responsibility

11 And he said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from?”

12 The man said, “The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.”

You cannot be responsible for salvation until you have been responsible for sin

If we want the Fatherhood of God to be revealed in our lives, we must accept responsibility for our own actions.

Definition of Brotherhood:

Definition of Brotherhood:

Women bond face to face

Men bond shoulder to shoulder in a challenge.

Men who have each other’s back

Men who don’t turn away in days of trouble

Men who go to the cave broken - but emerge a champion

Men who pick up other men

Men who don’t just talk but act

Men who grow up and become what God designed them to be,

What they desire to be,

what their families need them to be.

Men who keep their word

Men of humility, grace and love.

3 Friendships a man must have.

Friendship with God

Friendship with his wife

Friendship with other men

8 Therefore I want the men everywhere to pray, lifting up holy hands without anger or disputing

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3 things that work against us.

Absence of role models

Presence of corruption

Conscious of our own failure.

Friendship with God is the starting place.

Friendship with wife is the key to a unique partnership.

Warmth of relationship with God flows to wife and kids.

Men do not open up to other men because of an unconscious residue of Adam’s sin.

We must be shaken free of Adam’s failure.

Top 10 Secrets to Powerful Manhood:

 The Lord confides in those who fear him; he makes his covenant known to them.

he makes his covenant known to them.

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1. Relationship with God:

Secret: Manhood and Christlikeness are synonymous.

And if you have not been trustworthy with someone else’s property, who will give you property of your own?

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Therefore, holy brothers and sisters, who share in the heavenly calling, fix your thoughts on Jesus, whom we acknowledge as our apostle and high priest. 2 He was faithful to the one who appointed him, just as Moses was faithful in all God’s house. 3 Jesus has been found worthy of greater honour than Moses, just as the builder of a house has greater honour than the house itself.

2. Character:

2. Character:

Secret: Your word is your bond.

  And the things you have heard me say in the presence of many witnesses entrust to reliable people who will also be qualified to teach others.

God commits to character - not talent.

God commits to character - not talent.

5 Quick Principles around Character:

God’s word is his bond ( Heb 6:23 )

Jesus came as the expression of the nature of God ( )

God’s word is the expression of God’s nature.

God’s name is only as good as His word.

God’s word is the sole source of faith ( and absolute rule of conduct )

3. Courage

4. Stress/ Crisis / Change:

Secret: the only constant in maturing is change.

Not willing to change - you can’t mature.

Not age required but acceptance of responsibility.

5. Job / Business / Career:

Secret: The man without an organised system of thought will always be at the mercy of the man who has one.

6. Leadership:

Secret: You’re only qualified to lead to the degree you’re willing to serve.

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7. Marriage:

Secret: If you don’t communicate - you can’t relate.

Communication is not based on what you say but on what you hear.

8. Children:

Secret: Children will not always listen to you but will always imitate you.

You need to live a life that they can imitate.

9. Money:

Secret: You don’t increase your finances by sowing, you multiply it by investing.

Not companies - but people.

10: Sex:

Secret: God made sex good

God made sex for loving and giving not lusting and getting.

Prayer produces intimacy.

Effects of Fatherless: Chilling Facts.

Usa - 1973 -2013 700% increase in prison pop.

93% of those were male and young.

The guidance, approval and boundaries not set by dad’s, but gangs.

United Nations report :

Reading skills determine future

Reading lower expectations lead to depression and obesity

1/4 of boys in Canada, Australia, UK and Europe are obese.

IQ has dropped on average 15% since 1980 ( less time with dad )

In the US and UK - Proven statistics show that boys before 11 who spend time with their dad have an increased IQ

Yet 1/3 of boys in the US and UK are growing up with no Father in the home.

In the USA 70% of top students are girls. 70% of boys get d’s and f’s.

Suicide 36 million per year - more than war, murder and natural disasters combined.

Responsible Fatherhood begins with us being responsive to Fatherhood.

Abraham - 318 Trained men in his household.

David - 400 men followed him - wilderness to throne.

Saul - band of men.

Jesus - 12 Disciples

Moses - 70 elders

You are called to be the support system of the Visionary (Pastor)

We support Spiritually - Physically - Financially.