When I Blow It

“His divine power has granted to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of him who called us to his own glory and excellence,” -

“His divine power has granted to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of him who called us to his own glory and excellence,” -

“We do not have to squander our words, uttering things that are unloving and untrue, words that are pointless or useless. The most important problems in the universe, and in our own lives, have been solved for us through the gospel. Do you think of yourself as having been enriched in every way? You have been in Christ. What peace or comfort can anyone lack who is in covenant with the Father of mercies? “

We do not have to squander our words, uttering things that are unloving and untrue, words that are pointless or useless. The most important problems in the universe, and in our own lives, have been solved for us through the gospel. Do you think of yourself as having been enriched in every way? You have been in Christ. What peace or comfort can anyone lack who is in covenant with the Father of mercies?

When we sin

When we sin

Where to Look First

Matthew 7:3-5 is clear that when we find ourselves in conflict we ought to suspect ourselves first.

A plank is sinful behavior

Words (Careless, Falsehood, Gossip, Slander, Filthy)

Words (Careless, Falsehood, Gossip, Slander, Filthy)

Attitude

Attempts to control

Deception

Disobedient/Lack of Respect to Authority

The Golden Rule

Sinful Desires (lusts of the flesh, pride, greed, fear of man)

b. Omission/Comission

Assign greater weight to your own sin (planks v. specks)

Assign greater weight to your own sin (planks v. specks)

a. Whose sin bothers you more—your sins or the other person’s?

3. Assign greater weight to your own sin (planks v. specks)

How do I “remove the plank”?

How do I “remove the plank”?

How do I “remove the plank”?

Identify your offenses

Words (Careless, Falsehood, Gossip, Slander, Filthy)

a. Get real—don’t be afraid you are accepted in Christ (Luther illustration)

Get real—don’t be afraid you are accepted in Christ (Luther illustration)

Attitude

Controlling

Gossip/Slander

Lying

Disobedient/Lack of Respect to Authority

The Golden Rule

Sinful Desires (lusts of the flesh, pride, greed, fear of man)

Confess your sin to God, receive his forgiveness, and seek his help (Vertical First)

b. —search me O God

2. Confess your sin to God, receive his forgiveness, and seek his help

2. Confess your sin to God, receive his forgiveness, and seek his help

a. Vertical first

5 Ingredients of repentance

5 Ingredients of repentance

Sight of sin

b. A tip for parenting

Sorrow for sin

Godly sorrow is inward, honest, abiding.

Godly sorrow will pursue restitution if needed

Confession of sin

Hatred for sin

Turning from sin

Give a real apology

3. Give a real apology

The 7 A’s

a. What are some of our fake apologies (print 90-91)

The 7 A’s

b. The 7 A’s

Address everyone involved

i. Address everyone involved

Avoid ‘if’, ‘but’, and ‘maybe’ statements

ii. Avoid ‘if’, ‘but’, and ‘maybe’ statements

1. Take full responsibility

Admit specifically

iii. Admit specifically

How does “sorry I’ve been such a bad husband” not cut it?

1. How does “sorry I’ve been such a bad husband” not cut it?

It sets a specific agenda for change

2. It sets a specific agenda for change

Acknowledge the hurt

iv. Acknowledge the hurt

Accept consequences

v. Accept consequences

Alter your behavior (or at least explain how you intend to do so)

vi. Alter your behavior (or at explain how you intend to do so)

Ask for forgiveness, allow time

vii. Ask for forgiveness, allow time

What if I’m not sure that I have sinned but there is still relational friction or an accusation?

What if I’m not sure that I have sinned but there is still relational friction or an accusation?

seek third party counsel

humbly ask the other person

Matthew 5:23-24