How to Confront
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Is it ever okay to rebuke or confront?
, vs ,
Times to confront:
When they are trapped, when they welcome rebuke, when the offense is especially serious, when the relationship is strained, when the person is hurting self or others, when the gospel is at stake.
Questions to ask before
examined self, forgiving attitudinally, most loving, seeking to please God?
How to confront:
Be a grace speaker and not a law speaker
Consider the example of Paul
Example on page 164
a. Consider the example of Paul
Make charitable judgements
Plan your words
b. Make charitable judgments
Plan your words
Contact the person privately
Contact the person privately
Right time/right place
Right time/right place
In person is best
In person is best
State your concern
Using “I” statements
State your concern
“I feel ___ when you ____, because _____. As a result ____.”
Using “I” statements
Speak from beside and not above
Help them heart examine
“I feel ___ when you ____, because _____. As a result ____.”
Engage not declare (example of Nathan with David)
Speak from beside and not above
Be objective
Help them heart examine
Use the Bible rightly
Listen
Wait
Attend
Engage not declare (example of Nathan with David)
Clarify
Be objective
Reflect
Use the Bible rightly
Agree
4. Listen
Wait
Attend
Clarify
Reflect
Agree
What if they repent?
What if they repent?
A formula for walking together in reconciliation:
Issue:
Position A:
Position B:
Interests A:
Interests B:
Goal: Agreed position: A, B, or new option C
What if they don’t repent?
Take someone with you.
You could be wrong.
Take it to the church...
Take it to the church...