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Now that we have talked about families needing godly men I have the dangerous job of talking about how families needing godly women.

Ha!

Just as families need men to step up and be the godly leaders that they have been called to be, one of the greatest needs in our world and country and especially in the church is for godly women to be what God has called them to be in their families.

Godly women, not just moms: as we start to talk about godly women in the home how many of you automatically thought that this was about mothers only?

Be honest.

Mothers are definitely included but not the only godly women in our families.

We need godly mothers, grandmothers, godly sisters and daughters as well.

Every godly women has a huge influence on their families.

How many big sisters are here?

You have a huge influence in the lives of your siblings.

How many little sisters?

You have a influence in your siblings lives.

Each one of you has...

Whatever role that you are in whether mother, daughter, sister or even cousin your family needs you to be and Christ desires for you to live a godly life close to Christ.

Being close to Christ should be what you want.

THE CHALLENGE FOR YOU I KNOW IS THAT WHAT GOD SAYS WE NEED TO BE AND WHAT CULTURE SAYS YOU NEED TO BE IN LIFE ARE TWO DIFFERENT THINGS.

Culture says that beauty and success and financial security are most important.

Culture says outer beauty is what’s important.

God says inner beauty, true beauty is what is most important and He defines what that is.

When Meghan and I were dating I told her something that is still true today and even more so.

You might think it sounds kind of cheesy but it is actually really good.

I would tell her that she is so beautiful on the outside but even more beautiful on in the inside.

Pretty good right and every bit of it true!

God’s vision of beauty is much different and because it is His, we can know that it is how we can have true beauty.

Notice what 1 Peter 3:3-4 says about beauty.

This is the kind of beauty that our families need; the beauty of godly women who are more concerned with their inner beauty than what people see on the outside.

We need men and women who are more concerned with what God thinks about how they are doing spiritually than what others think they are doing physically or financially or relationally or otherwise.

EXAMPLE OF HOW POWERFUL A GODLY WOMAN CAN BE IN A FAMILY: There are one example that I want to point to that demonstrates what God can do in a family when the women in it are godly.

That example is Timothy’s mother and grandmother.

When you look at Paul’s statement concerning how Timothy learned the truth, his father is nowhere to be found as far as being mentioned.

His mother Eunich and grandmother Lois are the ones who taught Timothy the truth and influenced him.

Look at 2 Tim 1:5

When you have a mother or grandmother or sister who has Christ in her life and is willing to teach and be an example of the truth great things can happen and our families can touch eternity as Timothy’s mother and grandmother did through raising him up as a faithful follower and teacher of the truth.

It is great when there is a godly father and godly mother in the family and they work as a team but if the team is just you and God; the difference you make as a woman of God is great because God is working with you.

Whether you are a mother, single mother, grandmother, big sister, little sister, you family will be impacted in a huge way if you are living your life for God.

TRANS: Up until this point we have been assuming we know what a godly women is and there is a lot that could be said about that…(more than can be mentioned in this lesson…) But for a minute let’s talk about a few characteristic of godly women.

GODLY WOMEN ARE FOCUSED ON CHRIST AND THEIR FAMILIES

We really have to go against the grain of culture and believe what scripture says and implies regarding what we should see is important.

Our culture says that the wise and most successful of women builds her status, builds her possessions or builds her career or her own fulfillment.

While things like career and having possessions are not evil in and of themselves when they are placed over the spiritual success of our families something is wrong.

TITUS 2:3-4 GIVE US THIS TRUTH IN THE BACKGROUND PRINCIPLE OF THE VERSES;

This verse has always been interesting to me because I have thought many times after reading it that husbands and children must be hard to love sometimes if you have to have someone train you how to do it.

HA!

Or you could say that if your husbands or children are being difficult and hard to love don’t worry that’s normal.

HA! (Sorry another bad joke.)

The principle here though is that God is very concerned with women loving their families.

He is so concerned that He instructs the older women to help the younger to be focused on their families.

OUR GREATEST FOCUS NEEDS TO BE ON OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH CHRIST.

We want to give our children the best we can but what we should want to give them more than anything else is a relationship with Christ.

It is hard for us to teach them how important a relationship with Christ is if we do not have much of one ourselves.

We cannot give them something we do not have ourselves.

If we are too busy to grow in our relationship with Christ then we will not be able to help our families be faithful to God.

And our families see what we spend our time and effort on.

We really need to get past the cultural lie that fulfillment and validation comes through how much we have or how much we do (how busy we are) or how our lives look on the outside or how they compare to everyone else on social media.

MARY, NOT MARTHA is a great example;Jesus came to visit Mary and Martha and Martha was mad at Mary for just sitting around listening to Jesus teach.

Martha was trying to serve Jesus but Mary was listening to the truth.

Jesus’ response to Martha is powerful and something we all can learn from.

It was hard for her to see what was important and it is hard to prioritize our lives.

It is undeniable that we have so much to do.

But even the good things like serving can get in the way of our relationship with Christ.

No matter what we get done or accomplish if we are not growing in our relationship with Christ and helping our family do so we have failed.

We have the choice to be Mary or Martha every day.

We can let the important things of our daily lives push out what Christ called the necessary thing; spending time with Christ and growing closer to Him.

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And whether we realize it or not we are giving the example if either Martha or Mary to our children.

2. Sometimes we need to ask ourselves, “What is my relationship with Christ like?”

If others in my family had the depth of relationship I do would they be healthy spiritually?

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If my loved ones had the same habits in daily life would they be any closer to Christ?

If we do not abide in Christ we cannot bear fruit.

That is true in our lives and in our homes.

What a blessing for your family members to hear the word of God coming from your mouths and see you studying daily.

It is a great encouragement to know my spouse is giving time to God’s word and prayer and helping our children to see life through the eyes of faith.