Sermon Tone Analysis

Intro: We’re continuing in our study of the life of David, and so far we’ve the many sides of David, We’ve the humble shepherd, we’ve seen the brave warrior, we’ve seen the desperate fugitive, and we’ve seen the king gracious king…and now we’re looking at David the failing father…

Though there were a lot of good things to say about David. he really struggled with parenting

He didn’t set a good examples for his boys - One of his issues was that he had multiple wives…and many concubines - all that really speaks is that David had an issue with lust and sexual sin

And it’s also important to remember that the Lord had already told David that this was gonna happen because of his sin

We see that he’s not super good at discipline or correction - A part of parenting your kids is discipline and correction…It’s a part of loving them…It’s how God loves us

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But David refused to be a parent and do what parents do - There are some parents who think thing the most important thing you could ever be to your kid is there best friend….no

that’s not true…the most important thing you could ever be is a parent And being a parent means love always, but it also means discipline, it means playing the villein in the eyes of your kid at times

And it’s also important to remember that the Lord had already told David that family was gonna be effected of his sin

And being a parent means love always, but it also means discipline, it means playing the villein in the eyes of your kid at timesAnd it’s also important to remember that the Lord had already told David that family was gonna be effected of his sin

And it’s also important to remember that the Lord had already told David that family was gonna be effected of his sin

He refused to be a parent and do what parents do - There are some parents who think thing the most important thing you could ever be to your kid is there best friend….no

that’s not true…the most important thing you could ever be is a parent

He refused to be a parent and do what parents do - There are some parents who think thing the most important thing you could ever be to your kid is there best friend….no

that’s not true…the most important thing you could ever be is a parent

And this would begin to come true today in this passage we’re about to read...

He refused to be a parent and do what parents do - There are some parents who think thing the most important thing you could ever be to your kid is there best friend….no

that’s not true…the most important thing you could ever be is a parent

He refused to be a parent and do what parents do - There are some parents who think thing the most important thing you could ever be to your kid is there best friend….no

that’s not true…the most important thing you could ever be is a parent

And being a parent means love always, but it also means discipline, it means playing the villein in the eyes of your kid at times

And being a parent means love always, but it also means discipline, it means playing the villein in the eyes of your kid at times

(FCF) I do feel like this is a timely message because of the day and age we live in …we live in a where parents arn’t encouraged to be parents anymore

(FCF) I do feel like this is a timely message because of the day and age we live in …we live in a where parents arn’t encouraged to be parents anymore

We live in a society that says don’t lead your kids…rather come along side them and affirm them in their choices…

(Prepositional) Today we’re gonna continue to see the effects of his sin continue to trickle down in his house and have the holy spirit reinforce to us the importance of Parents being parents

Let them define who they are

Let them define right and wrong

Don’t spank them…Talk to them

And I think in our nation, the entire house hold is dictated by our kids…sports, events, feelings, wants and felt needs

(Prepositional) Today we’re gonna see When the leadership in a home and a kingdom disappears and the sons lead themselves …we began to look at it through Amnon and Tamar, and we’re gonna continue looking at it through David’s other son Absalom

Recap: I’m jump back a little and recap what looked at last week…and we’ll reap it in scenes...

From Love to Lust

We Saw Amnon who was the first born of David and Apparent heir to David’s throne have this Abnormal Love for his half sister Tamer who was the full sister of Absalom

Now this love was not only abnormal but it was against God’s law to entertain according (; ; )

So he should have ran away from it right there…but instead he fed it...

(Lev.

18:9–11; 20:17; Deut.

27:22).

And we saw the true colors of this abnormal love when he lured his sister into his chambers and raped here...

Turns our this wasn’t love at all…this was lust

From Lust to Hate

Amnon Violates this beautiful young lady Tamar, and as soon as he had his way with her, his perceived “love” turns to hatred…Tamer is now repulsive reminder of consequences and he doesn’t what to think about it so he puts here out

She doesn’t remain Silent…But her brother Absalom takes her in and from that point on begins to conspire to kill his brother

And now we pick up where we left off...

From Hatred to Murder

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So David here’s about the Violation of his daughter and he response with a fitting response…Anger

Do you know there are some times where the only appropriate emotion for us to have towards certain things is anger

Especially for something like this....Anger was fitting

But righteous anger without righteous action is unless...

2 sam 13

What!

David did nothing but tried to sweep it under the carpet and act like it doesn’t exist

App: Can i just tell as a leader, there are some issues…you just can’t sweep under the carpet and hope that they go away…they won’t go away

Why didn’t he do anything?

- I believe it was because when he heard about what Amon did…all he could think about was what he did to Bathsheba

He saw what he wanted…and he took it irregardless of the effects on theresHe also plotted and schemed and lied his way to killing someone…like father like son

It’s possible David didn’t think he had the moral authority to saying anything to his son - but not only did he have the authority, he had the responsibility

App: Whatever in your past…dons’t take away your right or responsibility to say and do wants right…Perants be Parents

App: Parents…be Parents whatever the cost our failure to do so will have an effect on the people around us

Think about this…David not only had the right, and the responsibility....but he also had the wisdom in both of these matters

Because if you don’t won’t the someone else will

2 Sam

We see here…David did nothing…So Absalom will, now a few things you have to know about Absalom is that…

Now

He was renown for being handsome (2 sam 14:25) He’s gonna show himself to be bright and ruthless and intensely ambitious,

He’s been harboring intense hatred toward Amnon for the last 2 years…

And He’s come up with a plan to kill his brother - He’s gonna hold a big banquet - It’s harvest time, and if your a sheep rancher it’s party time, last time the author of hebrews made mention of this “sheep sharing season” was in 1 sam 24…which is where a fool by the name of Nabal lost his life…and another fool’s by the Name of Amnon is about to get taking as well…

It’s important to notice that Absalom is no hero here -

He was showing himself to be a little more like Amnon then we’re willing to admit - Amnon had proven himself to be a slave to last…Absalom was proving himself to being a slave to anger

Absalom was about to deal with a sin by committing another sin…no good can come from it

wrote Francis Bacon,

“In taking revenge,” wrote Francis Bacon, “a man is but even with his enemy, but in passing it over, he is superior.”

“In taking revenge a man is but even with his enemy, but in passing it over, he is superior.”

Francis Bacon

Francis Bacon,

Absalom was proving himself to be no better then His wicked brother Absalom..

But in order for this plan to be carried out...Absalom must go and manipulate the king a little

2 sam 13:25

So Absalom plans a feast for sheep sharing season in which he invites all the kings…and then approaches his Dad and all his brothers to come

So Absalom plans a feast for sheep sharing season in which he invites all the kings…and then approaches his Dad and all his brothers to come

This would have been quite an undertaking - David had 19 sons…and remember this was a dinner fit for a king Even David knew that it would be too much work…all that to say…This was gonna be expensive, it would have been a lot of work…and yet all of it was an elaborate hoax set up to kill Amnon

Now this would have been expensive - David had 19 sons…and remember this was a dinner fit for a king…all that to say…This was gonna be expensive…and yet all of it was an elaborate hoax set up to kill Amnon

Even David knew that it would be too much work…all that to say…This was gonna be expensive, it would have been a lot of work…and yet all of it was an elaborate hoax set up to kill Amnon

App: I think this reminds us that “Unforgiveness will always cost you more then you could ever know’

So David’s response was No…in the recognition that it was gonna be expansive…which is what Absalom really hoped would happen…and look what happens next

2 SAM 13:

So Absalom asks for something big, hoping that his father would say no (which he did) and then He would be obligated to give him what he really wants…he say’s “Well just let Amnon come with me than” which would have been a fitting thing to ask for since Amnon was the crown prince and next in line

So Absalom asks for something big, hoping that his father would say no (which he did) and then He would be obligated to give him what he really wants…he say’s “Well just let Amnon come with me than” which would have been a fitting thing to ask for since Amnon was the crown prince and next in line

Notice something that has in common with his Father and his brother…He’s cunning - That seems like a common denominator between David, Amnon and Absalom - They were all skilled in the art of deceptionDavid orchestrated a plan to kill uriah and keep Bathsheba’s pregnancy a secretAmnon orchestrated a plan to get Tamar alone so that he might rape herNow Absalom is orchestrating a plan to kill Amnon

In the Old testament there verses that testify of God visiting the sins of the father (, ,) here we see the gravity of what that means…

In the testament there verses that testify of God visiting the sins of the father (, ,) here we see the gravity of what that means…

But look at David’s response - v.26 “Why should he go with you?” - It seems like this even though this request seemed harmless at face Value…that parental intuition began to kick in for David and he says to himself “Investigate this…that might not be a good Idea”

But look at David’s response - v.26 “Why should he go with you?” - It seems like this even though this request seemed harmless at face Value…that parental intuition began to kick in for David and he says to himself “Investigate this…that might not be a good Idea”

But notice it says v.27 “But Absalom pressed him until he let Amnon and all his sons go” - Even-though David felt uneasy about this he eventually ended up caving to social and family pressure….By this Absalom succeeded in manipulating his father into a defensive position of social obligation that almost forced David to say yes

But notice it says v.27 “But Absalom pressed him until he let Amnon and all his sons go” - Even-though David felt uneasy about this he eventually ended up caving to social and family pressure….By this Absalom succeeded in manipulating his father into a defensive position of social obligation that almost forced David to say yes

App: Don’t ever let social obligations or pressure from your kids force you to make decisions that don’t sit well with your conscience…

2 sAM 13:28

So evidently the scene changes without mention from Jerusalem to the scene of the crime Baal Hazor…their eating, drinking, and being merry…but then it’s like a mafia hit job…Absalom has set up a hit on his brother, and even though his servants seem a little reluctant…He convinces them to go through with it by saying “I’ll take the blame for it”…and that excitedly what takes place…Absalom in cold blood kills his brother Amnon…

So He got his revenge but here’s the problem - It doesn’t really solve the problem…and it turns about the hurts the perpetrator

So evidently the scene changes without mention from Jerusalem to the scene of the crime Baal Hazor…their eating, drinking, and being merry…but then it’s like a mafia hit job…Absalom has set up a hit on his brother, and even though his servants seem a little reluctant…He convinces them to go through with it by saying “I’ll take the blame for it”…and that excitedly what takes place…Absalom in cold blood kills his brother Amnon…

Essentally 2 sons died here..