Transformation in Community

Everyone else if you have a Bible you can open up to Hebrews. We're going to start in chapter 3 or going to move into chapter 10 as we kind of wanting down. We talked about the summer on rhythms. Maybe next summer to come back and visit some things and then next week. We're going to get into one of the most dysfunctional churches that we can read about in the New Testament as we look at 1st Corinthians and their Pandora box of issues and problems in everything is going to come flooding out of there. But what I want to do this morning as we finish out on rhythms of community and we saw a really the necessity for community and the need for community and also how God meets Us in that need last week. We're going to talk really little bit was really important and personal to me. We're going to see why this is important for our whole church and even talked about some ways to make this applicable in our lives and one of the reasons why I think this is so Important for me and I'll share this with you guys as we shared last week what we're seeing and Community is transformation in community rather than just simply information in isolation really easy as a people to isolate ourselves and to study and read our Bibles and to search the scriptures and have all sorts of knowledge and keen understanding than to read and then to Simply have that as part of our repertoire that's in our memory bank that was kind of bring out and lost these platitudes and Troost to people in times of need but we never really embody or live those things in a community kind of way and why this is so important to me if I were to be able to share my entire story it would take far too long up here. But growing up and you can ask my parents are here about this. And if you don't know the Goring Ashley, I've known her since kindergarten. So we go way back. We went to elementary school together. We went to Junior High together. We went to different high schools till she moved to Prineville and she was a sophomore but there are people in here along with my wife who know me and even know me from growing up and one of the ways I would describe my life growing up was I was that typical Church kid. I was the kid who my parents had me sleep in pews on Sunday night cuz we were at church from Sunday school till 1 go home for a few hours. Then you come back to church and you do more Church on top of church on Wednesday nights and programs on Tuesday night. This is this is who we were and I really embraced and accepted that and actually excelled in it because I like room I like boxes. I like area that I can check off and make sure that my life is going pretty good. According to what people would think about and I live that incredibly well outwardly. Turn helping with kids at a young age started teaching the Bible at 16 years old. had these opportunities presented to me but inwardly and outwardly there are some things that I'd rather not share with people and weirdly there were things that if you looked on the external you would never even guess word dwelling deep inside of me and what this produced inside of me was this Well, nobody knows I can show it on the outside the think that I'm a great guy and a great Christian and I live that life really really well. As long as I can keep everything else pushed away. It hit this interesting at 25. I've been past rain at the fellowship at Bend for 5 years. I have my brother plan to church there and we were implementing some ways to start doing Counseling in a different format. You can call it Counseling in community. They call that Redemption group and what we did was if they sent me up to a training and in this training we were in a room with six other people who are participants and two leaders and everybody shared their story and their stories were intense their stories did not match. My story people had stories of things that I thought only were committed and fairy tales list in my stories, not that scary and it's not that bad in comparison and there I was in this group living the same false narrative that I'm a pretty good guy because of the things that I don't do a comparison to what everybody else is doing around me. Assured my story in that group and I stayed quiet for the first few sessions. and I'll never forget they did what they called pursuing someone the most uncomfortable healthy thing that ever happened in my entire life the begin to ask questions about your story and I remember sitting in this group and this man looked at me and they were pretty edgy church and they were okay with some very harsh language, which I will leave out, but he said Brett what if you explicit everything up How do you know God will love you and I just went oh my goodness. You said a bad word?

And there I was judging this guy thinking I'm so much better than him and the room fell silent because I said well Roman says and they don't know no scripture. We went embodied truth. How do you know Anderson what will because up and they said no, how do you know God loves you and that room fell silent for over 5 minutes and I just broke down in tears. I don't know. I don't know and at that point in my life, I've never felt so bare so enclosed so raw and then they begin to share the hope and love of Jesus with me. I was a Christian walking into that moment, but it was in community. I realized how self-righteous and fried horrible Iowa's what I share and what I'm going to share today is incredibly important because your story might be more math like mine. Or maybe really brutal and you're dying to get some stuff out but it's in community that transformation began to happen and you can talk to my wife and she'll say there was a drastic difference in my life from that point on it how I talk to treated and thought about other people the grace and the mercy that was an extended and show because it was no longer based upon my doing propound what Christ has done for me. So I want to read this to you this morning. Tell me why this is so important and Hebrews 3:12 through 14. It says take care Brothers. Yelp the author of this is writing to a group of juice Hebrews, right? And they had this really phenomenal background. They're the chosen people of God. It's kind of a big deal called their father Abraham out of the ER of Chaldean and he come to walk with him to be the man of faith and they go through several. We study the Book of Genesis issues and problems and they end up as slaves in Egypt ending God redeemed saved rescues them out of Egypt and they have this time with her wandering through the Wilderness cabin seems incredible Works in Acts and miracles of god happen in their lives. Even as the people of God, they still had gout and struggle and thin and problems and the author of Hebrews is picking up on that. He says kk take watch look at yourselves. You have this Rich history in this great tradition and you think of yourself as something so special Brothers this there be any evil in you and unbelieving heart leading you to fall away from the Living God, but exhort one another Everyday exhort one another every day what that means is there has to be relationship amongst other followers of Jesus. You're not on your own doing this for there to be a one another aspect and her have to Denby opportunity to exhort to speak into somebody's life exhort one another every day as long as it's called today, but none of you may be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin. Back on that Monumental moment in my story as I wonder if my heart would look like today I got let me wander Alone 2 more self-righteousness who might Ricci would look like what we need to be talking about here on this these mornings if they did graceful than Christ centered over there be more on this is what we do and how to look and how to beat in society. Why because living long enough in our persistence in without being exhorted and begin to harden our hearts. He says come to share in Christ's if indeed we hold our original confidence firm to the end as it is said today you hear his voice do not Harden your heart as in the day of rebellion now slip over to chapter 10, we talked extensively last week about this we talked about how this is even possible NY Community can exist and how the author of Hebrews sets us up for living in this together now, In this idea of the casa de Caza because of what Christ has done now, let us do these things and inverse 19. It says therefore Brothers since we have confidence to enter the holy places by the blood of Jesus by the New and Living Way that he open for us through the curtain that is through his flesh since we have a great priest over the house of God. Let us draw near with a True Heart in full Assurance of Faith with our hearts sprinkled clean from the evil conscience and our bodies wash up your water. Let us hold fast the confession of Our Hope without wavering for he who has promised is faithful. Let us consider how to stir up in there with this word meant how to Christians were going to this irritate one another one another I got four young kids and they get splinters at the bottom of their feet cuz they refuse to wear shoes and they definitely refused to wear socks anywhere we go Answers are always coming off. And if you ever had a splint on the bottom of your foot is irritating as you walk but it's not enough to slow them down. It's just enough to make my younger two, really whiny horrible and then they won't let you touch it to heal them to get it out. So we live in the wine Factory all day and not that kind of wine Factory the one with kids. Okay. That's what we're living in irritated and is persistent and it there dear Christian irritate one another because you're in each other's lives not in a way to hurt diminish be destructive, but in order for the building up because look what he says, let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works. Not neglecting to meet together. Does that togetherness aspect of the habit of some but encouraging one another all the more as the day is Drawing Near for the last several years pastoral Ministry had the opportunity to do a lot of premarital counseling as well as marriage counseling in recently over the last two years. I stumbled across this incredible of book called catching foxes and catching foxes. The author poses. He's great series of questions right around chapter 3 and they're piercing questions because they make somebody look inside of themselves while the person that they're going to marry or they are married to him using it for marriage counseling is sitting across from them knows them pretty. Well. It's one of the series of questions that we ask is do you believe you see yourself clearly and truthfully I want to ask this question this morning. Do you believe you see yourself clearly and truthfully? I certainly thought I did. Especially leading up to when I was getting ready to go to that Redemption group counseling and Community. I thought I saw myself so clear but there are things in my life. I couldn't see I would have answered this question in a very positive manner, but then that guy in that book goes on to ask a very invasive question because it implies that you're not going to answer the first question correctly. He says who helps you clear that your vision. Who loves you enough to tell you when you're walking against Christ in the majority of premarital sessions. It's great cuz everybody's on their best behavior and a lot of times. We're just getting to know these people so they sit down and they sit across from me and I'm their Pastor so they don't really want me to know a whole lot of what's not good in their lives, but they don't want the person sitting across from them to know what's going on in there. And what I do when I asked that question, I don't look at the person that I have to question up. I watch the response of the person that's answer. That's that's listening to their answer and it's classic because so often somebody else a I see myself pretty clearly under the person's going. And I'm just waiting for that not to go through premarital with me. You're going to be ready for that or marriage counseling with me. You're going to be ready for that. My follow-up question is what issues problems sins? Do you currently have that need to be dealt with and if they beat around the bush and not really sure she not soon-to-be spouse because I'm having to almost hold them back from saying I got a few things we can work on baby. All right.

Here is the reality. We don't see ourselves clear would like to we need community. We all want change don't we? We all want growth. We all want to see God work and move in our life, but we need community in order to help us do that. Let me give you guys a Biblical example. There's a story about a king. Pretty familiar to most of us. His name is David. And David wasn't the best of dudes that he was a guy a man after God's Own Heart the story of Anna in on this morning. Is that of David Bathsheba Uriah the prophet Nathan? Any stores Pike very familiar to most view. It's filled with adultery deceit murder cover-up. It could be an HBO hit series right now. I'm telling you. They just played the life of David out. If you don't know the story David is there not at war with his men as he should be but he's on his rooftop walking around and they're there happens to be a very beautiful female on her rooftop going out David and she is being all right, we want to look at the situation and point fingers getting fingers get pointed all over the place. She's on her roof. She's bathing David watching. Is really intriguing as you read this passage if you'd look at 2nd Samuel. chapter 10 it says in the spring chapter 11. Pardon me in the spring of the year the time when kings go out to battle David sent joab his servants with him and all is real and they ravaged the ammonites in besieged rabbith, but David remain to Jerusalem. It happened late one afternoon. When David a rose from his couch that was walking on the roof of the King's house that he I want you to listen to the language, but he saw from the roof a woman bathing heatsoft Robert Alters the incredible Old Testament scholar and he begins to talk about in his book in this Narrative of the Old Testament of words that pop up here is David and she saw this is why I'm going to get this in just a moment. Very important saw her. What is you do and the woman was very beautiful or innocence to be desired? David sent and inquired about the woman in one said is this not Bathsheba? Here's his friends or hers his community the daughter of lean the wife of Uriah the hittite cheating. Merry dude. Stay away. So David sent and took her he saw he desired he took where else do we see that in the Bible?

Thank you you listen to Genesis 3. What did he do? She saw that the fruit was good to be desired and she took its distinct testing. It's the same idea. What happened with Abraham. He saw Hagar's he couldn't have children on his own. So he's going to go around God's plan for his life. Any cake hag are Steven have a child with her cousin Sarah and envious trying to make put her out to try to cover up the mess Adam and Eve a song they talk because they desired it ain't going to try to cover themselves and then God confronts. Confront. This is over and over and over again in your Bible. This is incredible The Narrative of scripture is constantly taking us in the cyclical nature of human being say this is what we always do. We go around God to get what we think we need on our terms really in an effort to act as God of our own lives and our own universe and it always ends in Devastation destruction and problems how so he took her he lay with her then he said go back to your house. She conceived and was pregnant and David had a mess on his hands. It kills her husband by sending him to battle and then he thinks he's gotten away with it at least for a season or a chapter in the Bible is the prophet Nathan counts. Are you going to reveal something to David that he couldn't see himself? He tells a story about a family who had a young lamb. This land was their pet there wasn't something they were going to eat and they had a rich neighbor who had mini lamps mini Rams and instead of using one of their own. He stole from his neighbor. And he went and butchered it instead it to his guess and what does David say kill him kill him now. What did Nathan say David? that man is you see David was blind to his own said he couldn't see it. He needed somebody else around him to draw it out.

Didn't realize it not play some isolation quiet and covering it up. Look we learn a lot in a sermon in the holy spirit moves and works and can Vicks and hopefully he's doing that even now we learn a lot in our quiet time. We read our Bible but we often do is we think this is her be good for somebody else. Oh my goodness. I wish my wife or husband or kids would hear this. They need this. No, we need this but often the only way gets revealed as in relationship. You can skirt a lot but not being in relationship with others in the church in avoid some pain and some future and some future problems and distrust issues. But if you want to grow and you want to see change, we need to be committed and Community with one another we need to have others who helped us see ourselves. Clearly. We need the space in the church to be able to cry out. I'm not okay. That's one of my favorite contemporary preacher say it's okay to not be okay, but it's not okay to stay not. Okay, but you met Chandler it's okay to not be. Okay. It's okay. It's a mess. I've got kid problems marriage from work problems money problems personal problems anger problems. It's okay to come in here to express the issues in your heart and in your life, but then what are we going to do? So often somebody will sit across from you and then I hear that and then they either just dismiss it.

Maybe the awkwardly tell their own problems and story to try to pacify it. Got to actually learn how to help one another. We need to respond to encourage to see growth and change. How do we get there in 2nd Peter? She's a 1st Peter. We spent an extensive amount of time in 1st Peter. In Chapter 2 verses 9 through 10. Listen to what this says. You are a chosen race. A royal priesthood a holy nation a people for his own possession that you me proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of Darkness Into His Marvelous Light once you are not a people, but now you are God's people once you had not received Mercy, but now you have received Mercy Peter same God has done this incredible work Adecco in the sentiment words of Paul and Colossians. You were transferred from a king of Darkness. You're brought into a kingdom of light or not placed into the family of God. This is now who you are. I'm a friend who should have term with me. He wants to become an expat at some point in his life. He does a lot of mission work in Uganda in Africa down there and his dream is to have businesses here to support what he wants to do down there. But he is this word expat in the life of an expat is expatriate the next Patriots just an American who is no longer living in America, but he's got citizenship in another country and I begin to think through what would that imply? Well Service customers are probably going to change his speech is probably going to change I already know his food is going to change and is driving from the stories. He told me is going to get crazier. So this is just what it's going to look like if he goes in and mercy has himself and other culture in another country. Now, there is some things in this analogy that don't follow all the way through to think about it. When you become a Christian you leave your old life behind you been placed in the family of God Paul talks about new desires which motivates in our speech and our thought processes replacing to the community of God. We have this purpose of serving the kingdom of God not ourselves any longer and see what he saying if I am forming a new community now listen Community doesn't equal friendship, but you cannot have friendship without being in community. UCF Community go friendship. Every place you go instantly just have friends at work. Cousin's family you think Lauren Community was the Friendship. No Community were in a large can you can still be isolated and alone, but you can't have friendship without being in community. And if you want friendship at the church other believers, you need to be in community with one another what keeps us from engaging in community.

If you know me, will you love me? If you knew me would you accept me? Give me the things I was caught up in would you not push me away or would you bring me close? Will you talk about me? Will you charge me our greatest fears revolve around acceptance? When are we going to be welcomed? And I want to share with you. The gospel answers are acceptance problems. There's nothing you can uncover that God hasn't already covered if the ultimate level of acceptance of Jesus has already forgiven you and died for you and loves you and made you a follower of Jesus. The Bible uses language like you are Sons and Daughters of God you are adopted you are here and it's language of speech of acceptance. It's acceptance is not because you have some sort of great quality or means and that's why you fit in is because of what he has done. That's what the world does. The Rope says if your athletic sports world is going to accept you if you're beautiful Hollywood will accept you if you're smart the tech world will accept you but the reality is all of those fade at some point. We lose our skills are not able to use our mind the same way and it would happen if the tech World goes. Well, we don't want you at 35 years old and already done with the next apps that are coming out and I can feel it. I hung out with some high schoolers and I was like, I'm old. I don't get it. I even tried to use one of their terms and they looked at me like I was an idiot like okay check that one off of things never to say again in front of Youth and so we can already feel a little bit behind what's going on in movements that are just a little bit younger than us, and we're not accepted or brought and I used to think I was hit by used to think. I was cool though. You're already being pushed out. The problem is all those things will fail you but the gospel Works incredibly different it works in a way in which it says no matter your age your ability to do whether you are very smart and not very smart. We kept you we bring you and we love you and you're part of the family of God. It's the kind of community the world craves. All other forms Community are dependent upon you and your abilities. This is something that God has done and because of Christ you have Community with others that it can be hard. It can be hard, but you're looking at Community as just meeting friendship. I understand it's hard, but you need to be in community if you want friendship friendship is going to take effort to get involved in other people's lives. Easy when you're young and you got all the time in the world on your hands when you're young and single and you're in your twenties, and it's easy to make friends. You don't have all the same priorities and you can work at 20 hour week job and maybe some school on the side and then life begins to Crunch on you and I get the difficulty of making friends, but you certainly aren't going to make friends apart from not being in community and Community as important as we grow by it. Here's how in Galatians chapter 6. It's really important. Does Brothers if anyone is caught in any transgression you who are spiritual should restore him in the spirit of gentleness keep watching yourselves as you to be tempted bear one another's burdens and so fulfill the law of Christ bear one another's burdens and fulfil the law of Christ for anyone thinks he is something when he is nothing he deceives himself like each one test his own works and then his reasonably still be in himself alone and not in his neighbor for each will have to bear his own load. Here's the deal all the saying we need to Bear one another's burdens.

Need to be there for each other. Change is going to happen in community. And here's where this is going to shift and I want to put on a professor hat or a teacher had not just simply talking about the presentation of how Jesus make that possible in the necessity the need the very Baseline. You need to know Christ change happens in community change and community means correction in community which means letting others speak into your life. Confirmation of who you are in Christ but not affirmation of your sin Corrections. And Community is the spurring that were talking about here in Hebrews. It just other believers who you are close with the right to enter into your world the right to enter into your life and say what you're doing is destructive. What you're doing is actually going to tear apart everything around you and we ought to be human. She flourish under Jesus method desire, but we have these destructive ways of thinking and attitudes and mentalities and habits. That's what we're doing. Each immunities were allowing other people to actually come into our life and speak to us. It's an invitation.

And here's how this works. If somebody calls you up and says I want to chat with you. I've got some things in my life Nathan are inviting you in to their world are inviting you in to have these kinds of conversation or listen if there's deep relationship between you and somebody else after 10 years of marriage. My wife is really good as bluntly saying you are harsh threat. You were wrong threat, you're reading into that 9 years ago. She wouldn't have dreamed of taking cash. I walked on water, right? Yeah, not anymore. Huh? Okay, I sing real fast faster than Peter so because we're in a relationship. She has reason inability an opportunity to speak into my life or if something is directly affected you you may not be in deep relationship with somebody to send you you can go to them and his followers of Jesus speak to him correction in community of saying you have authority to come into my life and to share with me. It's personally say I may not be perfect and definitely not and I want help in change and I'm welcoming you into this when we share with people what's going on a bearing of the soul is a phrase that we can use in a way it feels like if you come to somebody and you said I'm going to share my pass with you. My past is not pretty and it's riddled with pain and suffering and hurt is a Riddle That atrocity, but even I have committed and you're saying, but I want you to know this about me. I need some help in these areas to be in Kirkwood. Feels like in a sentence that we are stripping down in front of somebody at least emotionally and spiritually letting somebody into our lives know the inner workings of our heart and really the context for why we are the way that we are today. I can feel Naked Bear and exposed and vulnerable. I think it's a shame shameful and embarrassing things about ourselves with the hope and intention of seeing healing and growth.

It would be correction in areas this faulty thinking or living in a response to Jesus. Now, here's where we make a lot of mistakes. I'm pretty sure all that with us and we go I did some of that stuff to its okay. Your experience and not their experience. Your life is not there. Like your feelings are not their feelings. I just simply just say and quickly quit. Yeah. I've been there done that it's cool. If not actually going to help them what we ought to do. If you're taking note and you're in these situations and if Christians were all part of the body of Christ, we should all be in relationship people at some point. Maybe not on a daily or even a weekly meal even a yearly but they come to you you're in community group together in a Bible study together to say everything is falling apart and that's raw. That's bear to admit that. I didn't lost a platitude or a great verse you reclose the person you reclose them. 3 clothes them if they build them up give them confirmation that their sin does not define them their shame is not what's going to become them that who they are in Jesus as a child of God. He was loved and cared for often often what people want though, especially in areas of sin is affirmation that we cannot do. Confirmation is your love your cared for God is with you. I formation would be and it's totally cool with what you're doing and betraying your spouse in sitting in line in living in this way affirmation to be yeah, it's good. School with whatever it is that you have any any loves you don't don't worry about it some of the firm what you're doing, which is not what we want to do. We don't want to affirm. We want to confirm who they are in Christ Jesus. We want to be able to call out the wrongdoing and efforts of change actually happens in a person's like it's not a call to be perfect, but you grow in Christ likeness. Christ submitted to the father. I think through this Lord if it's possible don't like take this cross from me, but nevertheless not my will but your will be done. There are things that are in scripture and they are Authority and they're here for our protection and got a saying don't go down these roads and is loving Christians if somebody is going down those roads. We don't permit we can front it, but we can firm them that God loves and cares for them big distinction that I want us to understand and to make the other draw some lines.

We confirm you as a sinner but not to remain in what you're doing and a firm you in that so how do we go about that? There's four things that you can quickly think through. things that we can practice in relationships First and foremost to engage the present Simon explain these to know to speak to do. Gage no speak do with this. Looks like when somebody opens up to you. And the counseling world would call it an entry gate. You are entering a person's world. If you're in a situation where they sit down with you and they say something like hey, my marriage is almost over and this is really painful. There's a lot of directions you feel like you can go with somebody isn't there. I need divorce. See you later. Just do it travel through be strong.

Yeah, my stories kind of like that too. I'm really sorry going to get a burrito and we felt like we met with him in that moment and we connected with them in that moment or somebody to put her arm around them which at times in certain serious situation of Sorrow, that can be helpful, but we grow through or it's God communicates through words. Are we going to respond? We have an entry gate somebody opened up to us. We want to focus on the person not the problem. We want to focus on the person not the problem what happens and what's going on has to do more with the person in the problem and instruments. The redeemers hands Paul Tripp talks about emotional words as somebody sharing about their problems and they say things like I'm angry. I'm afraid I can't stop crying. They may have interpretive words. This shouldn't be happening to me. I guess I'm getting what I deserve self-talk. I'm a failure is always happens to me. Talk. I thought God was going to do this. I thought he promised that We need to be entering the person's world and listening to the person and I understand that the problem is with being brought to the table, but there's a whole person that actually needs to be dealt with not just the problem is happening in their lives. We often focus on the problem turning it into a project rather than the person and caring for them with compassion. Instead of just trying to fix the problem. Let's care for the person. How do we do that? If you engage and you enter into somebody's world we ask questions. This is that aspect of knowing and we want to do in knowing is a void assumptions by asking questions moving to somebody's heart by actually listening to their entry Gates and assumption is a belief that we are asking questions to confirm or resign.

Never had somebody text you cuz I don't really call you up anymore for this kind of stuff. You say we need to meet I did this all the time as a pastor. We need to meet. Good bad to ask. Okay, what time then we can go to the list of things. They mad at me that I found them that I do something wrong at the church. I say something stupid. I don't like trying to plan out every scenario on my head and like I just haven't seen you in a while when to get coffee. So glad I assumed all the worst things and tried to enter your world without asking you questions. We do this everyday life problems. We can sometimes just assume we know what's going on without really no knowing what's going on curiosity should cause us to ask questions. I say somebody's wrestling with anger. You might assume they're angry, but your symptoms could be wrong. You might have some idea why somebody's angry, but we need to ask questions about anger. Love and anger are interconnected because we get angry about what we love most if we had a home in Florida right now. We might be angry about the hurricane. I don't have a home in Florida. I'm not too concerned about that. I'm not worried about my stuff getting ripped apart and torn up some friends over there sure, but it's not necessarily in this like whole they're going to have taken from me. So I don't have a really a lot of feelings for him that you can assume if I was angry over it all kinds of reasons why I might be mad. There's there's some of that of an example.

What are the problems when it comes to anger maybe even asking people questions like what kind of expectations do you have for life? What expectations do you have of God? What kind of expectations you have a friendship? How do you feel right now? What do you wish you could ask God? What would it look like to love God in the moment and what this means is we're actually asking questions to get to know the person not just to figure out the problem. The first thing you want to do is go what happened? Why are you angry? Why are you asking questions about what's actually going on in their lives or what if I came in and we were sitting down I said my wife and I we had a fight last night that can mean a lot of different things. Couldn't you have no idea why it happened that you can rush in your thinking. Define because he's dissatisfied at work. Do they just have a disagreement? Oh my goodness. Is he working too many hours do they just have a rough childhood? And this is how we get there. What we want to do is we want to ask questions about all of these things. Somebody comes in and says I had a fight with my wife last night. Yeah, I drink a little bit too much. You don't want to fix the fight you want to say what's going on in your life is leading you to do that.

What's going on in your life at work? That's leading you to be angry and ready to blow up the moment you come home. It's your kids step on your toes. When they share these things ask questions. What do I not know about what I just heard then we speak enter number one. No number to speak. We want to put some skin on our words. We want to just Lobster if you want in body truth mild pasteries to say nobody cares how much you know until they know how much you care. The fun one do they know you care. We want to embody truth and then speak the truth in love.

I so much in there. I want to talk about Point number for and I'm going to close out. Finally do that is walking things out over time. We need to speak truth in love. We need to embody truth and be with people and then we need to do we need to walk with them. We need to continue to be with them much like Jesus who entered our world. Yes. God speaks about Hebrews opens up in Foundry times. God spoke through his Prophet, but then the word became flesh and eat with us. Can we have these conversations and Community? I want you to filter the through your mind whether it's with your children your grandson your spouse your friends, whoever it may be. Are we entering people's worlds? quit asking questions to know Are we speaking are we doing and are we inviting putting lash on it? Just as Jesus does kissing Jesus alone and she's alone will change actually happen somebody Life as we move them from their problems. We're done with the whole person and we pointing to Jesus Christ. We can begin to see his truth doing our hearts and our lives and we can grow in that has prayer. Thank you for your word. Thank you for the help that we have and being with you. Got me weak routes you today in areas that we need change we seek refuge and help and you and you alone. We ask that you would work in this place responding worship to you now. Grow Us in Jesus name. Amen.