Sermon Tone Analysis
Overall tone of the sermon
This automated analysis scores the text on the likely presence of emotional, language, and social tones. There are no right or wrong scores; this is just an indication of tones readers or listeners may pick up from the text.
A score of 0.5 or higher indicates the tone is likely present.
Emotion Tone
Anger
0.07UNLIKELY
Disgust
0.07UNLIKELY
Fear
0.58LIKELY
Joy
0.64LIKELY
Sadness
0.5UNLIKELY
Language Tone
Analytical
0.72LIKELY
Confident
0UNLIKELY
Tentative
0UNLIKELY
Social Tone
Openness
0.68LIKELY
Conscientiousness
0.82LIKELY
Extraversion
0.79LIKELY
Agreeableness
0.88LIKELY
Emotional Range
0.51LIKELY
Tone of specific sentences
Tones
Emotion
Language
Social Tendencies
Anger
< .5
.5 - .6
.6 - .7
.7 - .8
.8 - .9
> .9
Share Date Night Experiences
Let's share dating experiences:
-Last movie you both saw?
-Last Restaurant?
What did you order?
-Best Date with your spouse?
OK, let's admit it...Dates can be exciting and exhilarating and then dates can also be expensive and exhausting.
However, what we will encounter and discuss this morning is: Dating does not stop after the "I Do."
Let's look at it this way:
“Marriage is the continual pursuit of your spouse and dating is the pursuit of someone you are attracted to.”
So with that understanding:
It only reasons that dating your spouse is necessary in a Marriage.
Think of it this way:
“For the entirety of your marriage, you should be pursing each other!”
or..Focus on this:
“Fight less, cuddle more.
Demand less, serve more.
Text less, talk more.
Criticize less, compliment more.
Stress less, laugh more.
Worry less, pray more.
With each new day, find new ways to love each other even more.”
Demand less, serve more.
Text less, talk more.
Criticize less, compliment more.
Stress less, laugh more.
Worry less, pray more.
With each new day, find new ways to love each other even more.”
Text less, talk more.
Criticize less, compliment more.
Stress less, laugh more.
Worry less, pray more.
With each new day, find new ways to love each other even more.”
Now I realize, this pursuing can be very challenging:
-Kids -Family Calendar
-Bills -Work
-Stresses -Health
When those and other challenges arise, Romance takes a back seat and if we are not careful, we will become roommates.
So how can we prevent becoming "roommates?"
We need a “Mind-Shift”
“Most marriage problems are caused by spouses who continue to think, act and behave like singles.
If you are married, do the honorable thing.
Think married, act married and behave responsibly as a married person.”
See, the mind shift is simple…You are married…so act married.
Pursue Your Spouse Daily...
Please turn to .
We will be reading thru 8:4 this morning
Let's learn from Solomon and the Shulamitte:
Here is a glimpse into their weekend getaway...
Follow with me.
I’m reading out of the CSB translation this morning
Let’s Read...
Song of Solomon 8:
We need to realize at this point, they are no longer “newlyweds.”
They have been married for some time.
Not sure exactly of the time frame; however, long enough for routine, chores, apathy to set into their relationship.
So with that understood, we can take a great lesson as Husbands and Wives as to how to keep the flames, even the embers, burning for another day…better yet, another night!
So keep these passages open this morning as we delve deeper into this picture of Date Night: Pursuing Your Spouse
1.
A Lovely Invitation
verse 7:11-13
Song of Solomon
Pursuit: This word should be one of your defining attributes in your marriage
"The act of following with a view to reach, accomplish or obtain."
So far we see in Scripture that both Solomon and the Shulamitte have done a great job of not only saying their love for each other, they have also displayed their love for each other.
Date Nights are great ways to Say It and Display It.
However, there should be those special times to invest in baby sitters/relatives and get away for a weekend.
This is where we are in these 3 verses.
Let's look at her "Romance" displayed:
-Come my love
-Let's spend the night
-I will give you my love
-Mandrake a give off a fragrance
-Mandrake are an aphrodisiac and often referred to as the "Love Apple"
-Thought to promote and enhance sex
**She is not only saying, she is displaying**
A great reminder for all of us:
Both spouses should initiate Romance and Sex!!
We have witnessed Solomon initiating the "Romance and Sex" in their relationship...Until now.
Now, Shulamitte is taking the lead.
She is taking extra time to plan this getaway.
The value of intimacy in a marriage is that it demonstrates affection and attraction towards your spouse.
"Your spouse needs to know that you love them, you need them, that you are attracted to them and that you enjoy spending time with them."
Please listen...
Kerry and I can’t express this idea enough...
Date Till Death!! Before you got married, you used to get excited when you anticipated a date.
You would squeal with joy!
You would clean up, dress up and freshen up.
Do not be complacent and don’t take your spouse for granted.
To stay married you need to keep dating.
Rekindle the spark, spice up things and keep the fire burning.
Date your spouse again and recreate the good old days or create new memories!
The return on investment will surprise you.
This leads us to communication in our pursuit.
Honest communication is vital to a healthy marriage.
Let's look at her communication:
-Shulamitte is clear and upfront with her intentions
-Private Getaway
-Private Room
-And Mandrakes!!
No misunderstanding at all!!!
< .5
.5 - .6
.6 - .7
.7 - .8
.8 - .9
> .9