Double shot at Midnight

Has anyone had double shot?

College story time—nothing like a good college story

College story centered around this

I was in college—dorm room—finishing up work

Felt tired looked at the time—about 10—laid down

Almost asleep—phone went off

Reminder about paper due tomorrow

Went off at 11 PM—meant to set it for 11 AM

I wanted to get paper done mid day—not midnight

I try to wake myself up—go to mini fridge

Had double shot espresso—pulled it out

Set it to the side

Began typing paper—worked for about an hour

After hour—took short break—saw double shot

It’s about 12AM at this point

Drink the double shot to finish the paper

Thought, “I took it out—should probably drink it.”

Didn’t think it through—almost done with paper—did not need that much caffeine

Finished paper—laid down—did not fall asleep till about 4

Alarm clock when off at 7

“Perfect” night of sleep turned into barley 3 hrs of sleep

All this b/c I didn’t think it through

I didn’t think it through

Thank you for being here—swipe right weekend

Please keep phone usage to a minimum

* Go over schedule for the weekend*

We are calling it swipe right for 2 main reasons

1. Swipe Right book

2. Talk about relationships/dating b/c we want you to “swipe right”

Dating apps/sites have taken over the relationship scene (about 8,000)

When you like someone—swipe right

We’re not asking you to swipe right in a dating app

I desire for you pursue—wait—swipe relationships in the right way

This weekend hear from 2 guest—Amanda and Jordan

All discussion will be centered around swipe right theme

For this discussion—concentrate on phrase “I didn’t think it through”

Has there ever been something you did—didn’t think it through?

I did not think it through—double shot = no sleep

Humans have a problem thinking things through

Reason: Now screams really loud

I need energy NOW—need to be in relationship now—we need to date now—need to cuddle now—need to kiss, hold hands now

Now screams really loud, but later screams longer

Need relationship now—get in relationship—goes good for little while

Break up—uncomfortable—gets ugly—baggage and pain

Did not think things through

Train today for tomorrow

One of my favorite quotes out of book—from chapter 0

“Train today for the relationship you want tomorrow.”

Is it bad to want to be in a relationship?

No—humans desire attention and intimacy—how God created us

We want to think this through—do this cortically

Have better relationships by training today for our future relationship

One way we do this = watch over your heart

Didn’t see that coming!

This is how we train today for the relationship we want later

What does “watch over your heart” mean?

(MSG), Keep vigilant watch over your heart; that’s where life starts. Don’t talk out of both sides of your mouth; avoid careless banter, white lies, and gossip. Keep your eyes straight ahead; ignore all sideshow distractions. Watch your step, and the road will stretch out smooth before you. Look neither right nor left; leave evil in the dust.

Keep vigilant watch over your heart;

“Heart” is not referring to physical organ—mind

First we have to understand what’s in our mind is where are life starts

that’s where life starts.

Every heard “mind in the gutter?”—that’s where their mind really is

Don’t talk out of both sides of your mouth;

avoid careless banter, white lies, and gossip.

Which is why we watch what we consume

Images, magazines, books, videos—if we put garbage in, garbage out

Keep your eyes straight ahead;

ignore all sideshow distractions.

Consuming double shot will lead to a sleepless night

Watch your step,

For a lot of us—when it comes to relationships—the problem is not what we’re doing it’s what we’re consuming

You read Bible, come to retreat, attend youth

and the road will stretch out smooth before you.

Look neither right nor left;

What often times messes with our relationships is the images or videos we view and in the friends we have

It can even be the company we keep that fills our head with bad relational direction

Especially if videos and images are sexual in nature

We have to watch what’s getting in our mind

leave evil in the dust.

We have to watch over our hearts—pay attention to what we consume

Peterson, E. H. (2005). The Message: the Bible in contemporary language (). Colorado Springs, CO: NavPress.

Then this verse give us things to avoid—things that cloud our heart:

Lies, gossip, tearing down people with words

At the end of this verse it says, “keep your eyes straight ahead”

Straight ahead

“Eyes are the windows to the soul”

Have you heard expression? What does it mean?

Jesus warns us about this

Jesus says that it is our eyes that cause us to sin

This is some advice my man David could have used

Who has heard of David and Bathsheba ?

How has heard of David and Bathsheba? How does their story go?

David and Bathsheba

New Living Translation Chapter 11

Late one afternoon, after his midday rest, David got out of bed and was walking on the roof of the palace. As he looked out over the city, he noticed a woman of unusual beauty taking a bath.

(NLT), “Late one afternoon, after his midday rest, David got out of bed and was walking on the roof of the palace. As he looked out over the city, he noticed a woman of unusual beauty taking a bath.”

I want to be clear about something:

Tyndale House Publishers. (2015). Holy Bible: New Living Translation (). Carol Stream, IL: Tyndale House Publishers.

Seeing Bathsheba was a mistake, not a sin

The sin started when David didn’t stop looking

He didn’t do anything wrong until his eyes started turning towards B.

If he would have kept his eyes straight—

David—on this account failed in watching over his heart

Let’s look at Jesus—the devil tempting Jesus

Get his eyes looking somewhere else other than God

(NLT), Then the devil took him up and revealed to him all the kingdoms of the world in a moment of time. “I will give you the glory of these kingdoms and authority over them,” the devil said, “because they are mine to give to anyone I please. I will give it all to you if you will worship me.” Jesus replied, “The Scriptures say, ‘You must worship the Lord your God and serve only him.’”

5 Then the devil took him up and revealed to him all the kingdoms of the world in a moment of time. 6 “I will give you the glory of these kingdoms and authority over them,” the devil said, “because they are mine to give to anyone I please. 7 I will give it all to you if you will worship me.”

8 Jesus replied, “The Scriptures say,

‘You must worship the Lord your God

What did Jesus do? He looked to God

David did not keep his eyes fixed on God—Jesus did—very diff. results

and serve only him.’”

Before, during, and after any relationship we may get in—this is where are eyes need to be

Tyndale House Publishers. (2015). Holy Bible: New Living Translation (). Carol Stream, IL: Tyndale House Publishers.

If they are not—we will find that we’re not thinking as clearly as we once believed

Maybe we acted to fast—not as ready as we thought

Since our goal is to train ourselves today for the relationship we want tomorrow:

We have to watch where are eyes are looking and what we’re consuming

1 more story then done!

We protect ourselves by weighing the cost of our decisions

Free Vending Machines

Grandfather has this quote—ani’t nothing free

Every time we would go out to buy something—he would say that

If you ever get the chance to go or even to work for FB—they have free vending machines

The

FB example

From pop tart to the big honey buns—its all free

This is how we fight the temptations to move to fast into a relationship or look at things we shouldn’t

Instead of labels in machine telling you how much money it needs—it tells you the true cost of eating those items

For example: Snickers bar—25 min bike ride

That’s what it would cost to work it off

Which is a great reminder—nothing in life is free

Good relationships are not free—they take work, time, patients, effort, trust

Before we get into a good relationship—focus on ourselves first

Remember what I said at beginning: train today for the relationship you want tomorrow

Concern yourself with your spirituality—soul—mind—heart

You have so much freedom and dating, serious relationships, for many of you, can wait

Why? B/c I want you to be the best you you can be for your second half that is out there

Train yourself today for the relationship you want tomorrow—its all about us

This first session is all about where you are

Break into prayer groups—ask for prayer request--”I” prayer request